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I noticed this in myself quite early on.
These days, whether it's age or more likely, 7 years of not bothering with toilet training, I will usually pee 2 - 4 times overnight, a couple of hours apart.
The first pee is usually around 1:30am.
That's also the pee I'm most likely to sleep through.
Lately, it's far more common for me to stir for the 3:30am pee and find myself a fair bit wetter than I was when I went to bed. Sometimes it will be the 5am with both the 1 and 3am installments AWOL. Rarely, I'll have a blissful night where I'll sail all the way through.
For some reason, the highest risk zone for my bedwetting is between 1am and 3am. I suspect this might have something to do with stages of sleep.
The first time I properly "wet the bed" (after skipping on the nappy for a couple of nights) I was woken by the cold wet bedding at 2:30am, not 5am. It was the cold that woke me so I'd been wet for a while already.
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For me, the jury is still “out” as to whether or not long term diaper use will result in incontinence. I can certainly attest that it can degrade continence but the issues that leaves me with are urinary urgency, urinary frequency and an inability to hold pee for very long before an accident rather than me being oblivious about wetting myself.
At least so far. On odd occasions strange things have happened but I put it down to being highly accustomed to nappies and being forgetful.
I can 100% state however that it is possible to develop bedwetting. Indeed there are many case studies from this place that suggest that not only is bedwetting “learnable” but that it (for many) appears before and independently from any kind of daytime incontinence.
In my case at least, I believe that my bedwetting is NOT incontinence. I believe that my brain has re-patterned itself over the years to believe that it is “ok” to pee in bed and so sometimes this happens without me fully awakening. Sometimes I might have “pee dreams” when this happens, sometimes I wake myself up by getting wet down there but sometimes (like this morning), I just wake up thoroughly wet and unable to remember when that happened. Thank you wednesday wed wine!
The usual “be careful what you wish for” warning: as @Little Sherri has stated, once we become bedwetters, our bedwetting has a mind of its own. It can happen anywhere, any time and doesn’t care if you are diapered, undiapered or just leaking badly.
I wrote an FAQ describing how this happened. It's at
I wish somebody knew how to make it a "sticky" post because it seems to have been very well received but slowly slides down the posting list and becomes hard to find if nobody adds a response.