Joebasic

I wasn't responding to you..I was responding to the person who started the thread who seems to believe that any DL who becomes incon is telling some sort of lie. He used magic, I didnt, its his quote. . I am a DL who has become incon due to a car craash and nerve damage, among other things

" not so bs story of "i always liked diapers and one day i magically got into an accident, and oh look, how conveniently, im incontinent now!" honestly I've heard that too many times for me to believe it anymore".

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I really think its all a matter of what you have in your head.. Before I become actually incon due to nerve damage, I was DL. I used to worry about these things all the time. Could I do it? Will people find out? How can I manage diapers in this situation? Many times, these questions kept me from wearing diapers as often as I wanted to. Then I became incon and suddenly there was no choice anymore. The questions changed from will people find out, to how will I handle it when people find out. It actually doesnt matter what the hospital thinks, I need to wear a diaper and nothing they say is gonna change that. I am discovering that I can handle more than I thought, and a 24/7 lifestyle. whether for want or need, is very manageable, and very satisfying.

I agree with what others have posted. I have been twice in the hospitol since being back in diapers 24/7. As long as you are clear with the hospital regarding your needs, you should be all set. During the pre-admission meeting, I told them I was incon and was in diapers. They said it would be better if I brought my own diapers, as the hospital diapers were not the best quality. They asked me what assistance I needed and offered to help in any way they could. I was able to change my own diaper, but needed assistance standing, as I diaper myself while standing. It was a very positive experience. Whether you wear by choice or for need, be confident in the fact that you are back in diapers, accept it, own it. If you do this, others will as well. Good luck.

Having been a DL all of my life, I found myself permenantly incontinent due to a car crash and nerve damage. It has been almost a year now, and I am adjusting pretty well. I just had another neck surgery, and this was really the first time I was open about wearing diapers. I was in the hospital overnight, and this was obviously obvious. They made no big deal about it and neither did I. I was able to change my own diaper, only once, shortly after surgery, did someone else change it. I don’t remember who or when as I was pretty drugged. But, it was extremely comfortable for me to just have it known that I was wearing diapers. No explanations, no problems, no long tedious discussions…it just was. The only assistance I needed, was help into the bathroom..once inside, leaning against the wall, I was able to change my diaper. The whole situation got so comfortable that I was just walking into the bathroom in the diaper, and returning to my bed the same way. I am sure my room mate noticed, and I was in plain view of the nurse, who had to be there to make sure I did not fall. And, it was so empowering. So, this ended up being a great experience for me. The other situation came in a conversation with my sister. I have not told any of my family members about being back in diapers. The other day, just before surgery, I was speaking with my sister and she flat out said “Ya know Joe, you have been pretty lucky. A lot of people with your neck and back injuries end up back in diapers

All I can add if this.. I have been DL all my life, About 8 months ago I became incon due to a car crash and multiple surgeries and nerve damage. Since then I hav to be diapered at ALL times. Once I made the adjustment, It was no problem for me. I easily spend about 200-250 per months on supplies. I use a lot of different diapers as different times require different absorbancy/protection. I have leaned a lot and have adapted well. I can say two things, the one positive thing about the car crash, is that it sent me into diapers permanantly and as much as I would have wanted to make myself voluntary incon, I most likely never have been able to make the committment. Having the choice taken away. I was forced to make the change. If anything, being 24/7 has increased my DL. tendancies. The pleasure is there 24/7. along with the diapers. I just got out of the hospitol for another neck surgery...the hospitol was a breeze in diapers. Yes, people in my life have discovered I need diapers. I dont advertise it, but i have no room in my life for shame and insecurity. If anything, the diapers have become a source of pride for me. Each time I see myself in a diaper, feel the bulk, hear the crinkle of the plastic, I am aware of how well I have done to incorporate diapers into my life. There are still hard times...including all of the things others have listed, but I can honestly say that after almost a year, I would never want to go back, even if it was an option/

Good luck as you begin your journey. I have been 24/7 for a little over 10 months now, although not by choice. The biggest thing I can suggest, is to have back up for when things get tough. Find people you can talk to to help you through this process. I didnt have any choice in the matter, and I can tell you, that there have been some extremely difficult adjustment periods. I honestly yhink that if I had a choice, I might have given up. But, I made it through those times, and today, this is an easily managed situation for me. I read Blakes posts a lot, and they helped as well. I really had to remind myself at times, that I actually enjoy wearing diapers. Let me know if you have any adjustment questions, i certainly have a lot of tips to make 24/7 manageable. We can also talk in chat or messenger if you like. Good Luck!

I became totally incontinent about 8 or so months ago. Since then, I have been working hard to incorporate diapers into my 24/7 life. Probably the biggest hurdle I face, is accepting and identifying myself as an incontinent man. I have never had an issue with diapers, having been DL for all of my life. But there were an awful lot of emotional hurdles that had to be managed once the choice to wear diapers was taken away from me. Acceptance has been key, this is me now, this is part of who i am and a diaper is a permanant part of my wardrobe, just like glasses or contacts. I have not told anyone about being incon though. Today, the opportunity finally presented itself. I was discussing my upcoming surgery with my sister and she said, "You know Joe, you have been pretty lucky so far, I have heard that so many people with neck/back injuries end up back in diapers" (This one was a no-brainer) I told her that I had, in fact, ended up back in diapers. She was very supportive and asked a few questions. It was refreshing to be able to talk so openly with someone besides my fiancee about this. And it gets just a little bit easier to deal with each day.

oh..the surgery is not for incontinence...its another neck/spine operation.

I have been in the hospitol many times, but this is the first time since becoming incon. I am having neck surgery next week and will be in the hospital for a couple days. I was pretty apprehensive about it, but they were very cool about it all. They offered me the choice of either a catheter or a diaper. I have tremendous issues with catheters and use diapers daily, so that was my choice. The suggested that I bring my own diapers as the hospital diapers are not very good, and assistance will be provided if needed. Its been about 10 months since I became incon, after years of being a DL, and I still struggle at times, when faced with new situations. It went well though, and it is becoming easier and easier to accept and to identify myself as incontinent. its part of who i am now, its permanant, and its working out just fine. Like This Quote MultiQuote Edit

I have had the samer problem and have been waiting for weeks for the validationg email that never arrives. No response from the emails I send to admins except one, who directed me to someone else who never responded

I have always had the fetish, but became incontinent in reality a few years ago after a bad car crash and nerve damage. being forced into diapers hasn't diminished the fetish aspect at all. i have a much younger fiancee, (he is 20 years younger). He is not in to diapers at ALL. But.. he is totally in love with me.. He suprised me one day by having a diaper on when i got home one day and it really turned me on. he was clearly aroused, and I asked him how he managed to get aroused while wearing a diaper if it had no appeal for him. He told me that, while the diaper did not do anything for him, seeing me turned on by it was a total turn on for him. We have a great sex life. When i start to grumble about having to wear diapers 24/7, he teases me about getting what i asked for. Contrast this to an earlier long term relationship. My previous partner, also much younger, was not into diapers either, and seemed to have contempt for the fetish aspect. He didnt try at all, and our relationship suffered from it as a result. So..my advice would be this: You dont need to find an ab/dl..just a decent guy who is willing to please his partner while his partner pleases him. The props, (diapers, sexy underwear, leather, or whatever)..are unimportant. If someone is showing contempt and major discomfort, you will eventually have to choose between the two things..and that just iant necessary.

My fiance is neither AB or DL, and has absolutly no interest in diapers whatsoever. What he tells me is that he enjoys participating because he sees what a charge I get out of it and that pleases and excites him. Out of nowhere, he will appear in a diaper, and although it does nothing for him, seeing it turn me on gets him all worked up and off we go. Pleasing each other is what its all about, in pleasing him, i get satisfaction, and it works the same for him.

Hi Blake... I love what you do here.. A quick question for you...what diaper do you use and what is the approximate monthly cost of supplies? Thanks! Joe