If U Cant Get The Girl...

[Guest LilJoey]

Hi all. I am a 19/m that had a sort of ab experience a few months ago. I have had been in love with this girl Lindsay for a year almost but she had a boyfriend. We stayed best friends as he lived in another town. Finally this summer they broke up and Lindsay's family went on a camping trip. She invited me too and I was thinking as a boyfriend.

However, her sister's boyfriend brought a college roomate along. His name is Jason and he flirted with Lindsay from the get go. And she with him. He had much more game and was bigger than me. I was kind of intimidated and acted like a shadow to Lindsay. I could tell by the second day that Lindsay wanted to be alone with Jason and she regretted me being there. I could also see she was seeing me as a friend and that is all. I felt like a lil boy folllowing her around.

Finally Tuesday night some people were on the boat and Lindsay, Jason, me, Lindsay's aunt(a single lady in 40's), and a few little cousins of Lindsay were in the living room of one of the cabins. I saw Lindsay kind of nod at Jason and they went in the kitchen to talk. I was going to get up but Lindsay's aunt said just let them be honey and u can stay with me. She kind of admired how "cute" i was all week and she talked to me a bit. She then asked me to sit on her lap and I did after a little coxing by her. I needed to be held. I was embarrased and mad that I did not get the girl but the ab in me was a little turned on about lindsay seeing me sitting on her aunts lap. Lindsay and Jason left to go out to town with her sister and her bf. I stayed on aunts lap. By 8:30 I went to bed.

Thoughts?

[Guest LilJoey]

I think she felt sorry for me but also thought I was cute. I did not get diapered changed or anything like that. The only babyish thing I did was sit on her lap.

[Nangza]

I know exactly how you feel, Im the same way. Ill shadow a person (with them knowing Im there of course) but seldome have the "game" to tell the person how I feel or act enough like "a man" to impress them into liking me. Im sorry for your, and myself I guess, but I hope it makes you feel better that someone here knows your pain.

Collin

[Morv]

Good luck working on your game, man.

Sometimes ya got it, sometimes you don't. Think ya know where that night fell. Sorry about it, man. (No offense meant here, but chances are damned good that if she saw you sitting on her aunt's lap like that... you ain't gonna have a shot in hell with her. Sad but true.)

[Guest LilJoey]

Is it pretty safe to assume that she no longer sees me as an adult but a lil boy Morv?

[Morv]

I honestly am not sure in what way you mean to make that distinction. I don't think you mentioned how much Lindsay knew about the ab side of you, so in this response I'm assuming she does not know. As such, I don't think she makes a distinction between the two, so it doesn't matter.

I think where the chances would be shot are her seeing you as a viable date. Unless she understands the whole AB thing to some degree, AB is probably equal to little boy in her mind.

[Guest LilJoey]

[That is what I meant.. Do you think her seeing me sitting on her lap made her lose respect for me. She knows nothing about my ab side. I am just talking about the lap sitting.

[DollyDiaper]

I think Lindsay probably knows about your AB now.

She saw you sitting on her aunt's lap, didn't she question why?

I may be lacking in imagination here but putting myself in her shoes, I would have been surprised at the very least! I would be asking myself (even if not asking you) only one question out of a possible two.

Dolly

[Morv]

The average person hasn't had much if any exposure to ABs... I just have trouble thinking that she would both know enogh about ABs to associate that behavior with it, and then make that leap. I mean, if Joey had a pacifier in his mouth at the time, I'd consider betting that way...

but... ahh....

I've had the unfortunate recent experience of being around a fair number of women 18 to 22 or so... and it seems that most I met would be making snide remarks about the situation, not even taking the step of comprehension which could eventually lead to understanding and mayhap compassion.

I guess I just disagree Dolly -- I guess there's no real evidence either way, unless you've had further contact with her. Really, Joey, I guess that's what it boils down to, like so many situations -- too little information. Until you have more communication, it is hard to say one way or another. And certainly impossible to say for certain. Humans are such fickle creatures.

[DollyDiaper]

I don't know any more than anyone else here (apart from LilJoey of course) but I did emphasise that I was putting myself in her shoes.

If I'd invited a 19 year old friend/potential boyfriend to spend a vacation with sundry people including my 40+ year old aunt, as I said, I would be more than a little surprised to discover him sitting on her lap and would be curious to know the reason why. Or is that just me?

Is the above scenario recognised as everyday regular behaviour and nothing out of the ordinary and unremarkable?

Dolly

[Valentine]

Dolly, while I may not think of AB,he certainly would not be what I would really consider boyfriend material, unless I had a really strong maternal streak.

[Guest LilJoey]

diaprbayb got it.. It was my fault for baseically letting Jason get Lindsay without really even putting up a fight. After that I was almost Lindsay's shadow and you could tell she wanted some time alone with Jason.

I think her aunt saw that and saw I was sad. As a 40 something lady I think her maternal instincts kicked in and she felt sorry for me. I was kind of acting like a pouty lil boy so that is how she treated me.

I did not expect Lindsay to expect AB. I dont even think she knows what an ab was. I was just wondering if it was safe to assume that LIndsay saw me as a lill boy not a man or boyfriend material. After seeing how I acted and sat on aunts lap.

I have to admit. I was not even embarrased sitting on her aunts lap after the first few minutes. I needed to be held and consoled.

[diaprbayb]

Woo hoo I got it!

do I get a cookie?

[Rocky]

Hey Joey what's up. Although your story has the makings for an interesting ab story if this is truely a real event may i first say, Dude, WTF. Why would you sit on her lap? The second lindsay seen that you were blown out of the water for life!

Even though a liljoey lives in you its time "big joey" ran the show. So what he's bigger than you. BFD let say this ok, so you know you made a mistake not speaking up. i'v been there done that bought T-shirt. Until you say what's on your mind she will never and i mean never, have a clue how you really feel. Maybe she does know and is looking for you to speak up, who knows. either way your in rough place now. You can walk in her shadow all your life and that's what you will be from now on and if that's what you want then great! If not, then say what you feel to her and if she declines then you know where you stand and can move on with you life thus learning from this mistake.

Im not saying go out pick a fight or demand she love you, that would be double tragic... im just saying until you speak your mind your destined to get run over just like what happened. Its still not to late to tell her how you feel but sitting on her aunts lap pretty much killed her view of you. You might do a hail Mary and save yourself by telling her how you really feel but i wouldn't expect a revelation on her part. Girls want someone that's genuine. It dosen't matter size it matters if your secure in who you are, whether it be class clown or the jock. The problem is your waiting for her and there is no way in ------ she is going to pick you if you don't make a stand and let people plow over you like road kill. You have to beleive in "you" before she will......

Good luck

Rocky

[dldad]

I would think the aunts actions were more maternal on her part and possibly saw that Lindsay had no particular feelings for you, at that point, or for the whole trip. It would have been interesting if the aunt would have made more (moves) and possibly more had happened, would have been a very good story indeed.

[Guest LilJoey]

Rocky.. before the trip I informed her of my feelings and she said she was still not looking for a boyfriend. I guess it showed my immaturity and lack of confidence when I saw that guy Jason and basically gave up without even putting up a fight.

I was sad..Would I have rather had the girl, yes!. I don't know if it was the embarrasement or sadness or the ab in me, but I actually needed to sit on her aunts lap and feel the TLC. The rest of the week, Lindsay kind of ignored me and I almost literally tagged along her aunt., Other family members were telling her she found a little buddy and stuff..

dldad.. Did she diaper me or anything no? The closest things was on her lap, having her send me to bed that night and kind of taklind care of me for rest of the week. There was no ab stuff at all. Nor did I hint at it.

[digger58610]

Hey Joey what's up. Although your story has the makings for an interesting ab story if this is truely a real event may i first say, Dude, WTF. Why would you sit on her lap?

[Guest Guest_Matty_*]

I think it showed your immaturity that you did not fight for the girl that brought you to the trip. Jason was the man, and deserved what he got. Also, you saying u had a need to sit on her lap tells me that you needed that.

I think it safe to assume that the aunt felt bad for you and her maternal instincts kicked in. She saw a sad lil boy and comforted him. You are lucky she did not send u to bed early.

It is also obvious you have no chance with Lindsay. I say you blew the chance before you sat on her lap. I am sure when she saw that you would not even put up a fight for her she knew you were lost. Sitting on her aunt's lap only proved the point.

[Guest liljoey]

That is what I was getting at. It sucks but kind of turns me on too.,

[Guest LilJoey]

I hate to bump my own post. I am still interested in your opinions and thoughts. Maybe there are some new people here who could state their own opnions.