Oh Dear

[Gennie]

I haven't read the whole thread, but let me add my thoughts to this.

Yes, he should move out. He can't afford it.

The problem isn't so much his wearing diapers, it's his mothers perception of his wearing diapers. Her comment of 'what am I going to do with you' prove that.

Education is the answer in this situation. Possibly joint counselling to see WHY R wants to be in diapers, and then help for his mother to be accepting of the fact.

I consider myself very fortunate that my mom both knows and is accepting, albeit not fully understanding, of both my diaper and TG selves. If R's mom could understand that he's not 'sick' or 'perverted' or some other horrible thing, that there is a perfectly good reason for this, and he may not be able to control it, then it might be easier for her to deal with it.

A third party would be what's needed. The UK NHS should be able to provide counselling for both R and his mom.

Gary

[wsdler]

Oh, and you need to drink more so your pee is less concentrated, too...

Dill Pickle

I drink tons so I can pee more often!!!

[Mean Mommy]

Back when you were 18, you could probably afford to move out; the world WAS a cheaper place to live. Average cars weren't 20k and houses certainly weren't 250k. Although there might have been such thing as a 30yr mortgage then, paying for cars over 7 years was unheard of. A loaf of bread was still under a buck, sometimes under 50 cents. Gas was cheaper, and on top of that, jobs were had by those with little to no training; not all corporations were fueled by shareholder's greed; and a college degree didn't necessarily mean you were on the top of the list for employment consideration. It was an easier time to live. Life was still simple.

QUE?!!!!!

Yes, perhaps living in the past does sound a whole hell of a lot cheaper by today's standards, but you're forgetting there's a little thing called inflation

In other words, bread was 10 cents, but you were only paid 25 cents an hour. So, all in all, it was still hard to get by. Especially if you had a diaper fetish. No online communities, no discreet shipping, no readily available adult diapers. Also it would be a horrid, filthy, take-to-the-grave secret. And I think the world has loosened up since then. Now AB/DLs are "weirdos" but that's a lot better than "damnations".

And I will not give you a break, R-Cho!

I am 21 (I always say I'm 23 so people trust me just a little more) and I'm in New York City. Rent is sky-fucking-high. So unless you live in the financial district of London, there is no reason you can't move out! Of course you'll still need financial support, but you'll still have that cherished independence. Yes you'll probably live with some roommates, but hopefully you'll have your own room. And if you don't, you can work around their schedule. The good thing is roommates never feel the compulsion to clean your room.

You're making excuses. I can tell because I am an expert at making excuses.

Everything in life has trade offs. Yes, you save money and are safe at home, but you're also monitored. Yes, living on your own is hard, but it comes with sweet rewards. What is more important to you?

I don't think I'd want to deal with your diaper fetish if I were your mum. But then again I'm a very hands-off person. Perhaps it's because my parents willingly snooped through my things REPEATEDLY and then gave me knowing looks at the dinner table. Like they knew it was harmless but wanted to see more for the hell of it (I drew porn). They are such freaking freaks.

Anyway, I digress..

Who is the other major player in the fantasy of an adult baby? A mommy. Now don't you think that's enough for your poor mum to think about? I don't think you guys should bring it up unless it saves one of you from spontaneously combusting.

I'm gonna give my two cents, and it's gonna be a doozy, but I'll be honest with you:

Here are the assumptions I am making:

1. You live at home (true)

2. You are not in school

3. You don't have a job

4. No medical condition or special circumstance is keeping you from making that big leap

If any of these assumptions are wrong, then this does not apply to you and I apologize. If all these things are true, then you are a dead weight. You need to get your life on track to at least show your mother you are not a baby outside of the bedroom. If you have a job - or even better - a career, have a healthy social life, and varied interests then I believe you have ample evidence to show that your diaper fetish doesn't reflect the rest of your existence and your mother has nothing to worry about.

Here's what your mum would then think:

"Oh dear, Billy was wearing diapers! Does that mean he wants to be a baby? Did I do a good job of raising him? But he's doing so well at that company he works at. He has lots of mates and a band and is even investing! He's such a successful young man, the idea of him being a baby just doesn't seem to fit. I guess it's some sort of fetish. Hmm, I think I'll drink some tequila so I can better repress those memories."

Otherwise, here's what your dear old mum is thinking:

"Oh Nooooooo! I didn't raise him right! What if he wants to be a baby now? He can't wear diapers around the kids! They'll get confused and wear diapers too! Then we'll be a family of diaper freaks and they'll excommunicate us from England!"

Okay, maybe that's a little too far but you get my drift.

[Repaid1]

QUE?!!!!!

Yes, perhaps living in the past does sound a whole hell of a lot cheaper by today's standards, but you're forgetting there's a little thing called inflation

(SNIP)

Okay, maybe that's a little too far but you get my drift.

I must say you give me hope for the future, I thought our youth had us doomed. You are wise beyond your years. It must be that little thing called life huh. Your insite and practicality show a involved train of thought. Bravo to you. I cannot comment on the true situation at hand as I couldn't relate to living in another country and their own little pee'ves and perks. But I must admit to relate them to our standards or what I think them to be you hit the nail on the head. While I don't totally agree with your and any of the posts I think we all have a angle thats leading to the same point. Take care and best of luck to you in your endeavours.

[tris]

I must say you give me hope for the future, I thought our youth had us doomed. You are wise beyond your years. It must be that little thing called life huh. Your insite and practicality show a involved train of thought. Bravo to you. I cannot comment on the true situation at hand as I couldn't relate to living in another country and their own little pee'ves and perks. But I must admit to relate them to our standards or what I think them to be you hit the nail on the head. While I don't totally agree with your and any of the posts I think we all have a angle thats leading to the same point.

What point is that?

And were we reading the same post?

:/