incontinence pads/pants compared to nappies

[aron in a nappy]

Hi all

I know its never going to be the same but what are peoples thoughts on pads or pants compared to nappies?

I haven't been able to wear in at least a year and its driving me nuts my stress recently has been through the the roof and I desperately want to put a nappy on but my wife is not keen to say the least and I have to think of family life as much as my need to wear so I was thinking of trying the closest I can get and the should be easier to hide on me and around (not that I know where yet)

I know some will say be yourself and wear if you need and my wife years ago agreed I could wear if I'm stressed and its under clothes but I haven't until now and don't want to push the mater by suddenly bringing it back up, I'm happy to take advise though.

So ends my waffle ? im just hoping to find the best option on how to deal with this and I'm sure I'm not the only one

Thank you everyone

[Forced2wet]

I’ve never tried pads but have worn pull up medical nappies in the early days.

The difference is vast, but if there was no other option then I suppose pull ups are better than nothing.

Is there no point during your week that you can wear away from your wife/family and avoid upsetting her?

The other option is to have a conversation wife your OH and let her know you ‘need’ to wear due to stress and hope she remembers your previous  chat and understands.

[2sail2]

Early on in marriage life, my wife gave me some of her pads.  I forgot how it came up, maybe I said I was running low or just starting to need something.  They are not for urine though and did not hold much.  They reflected the wetness back.  I did put them in an undergarment as a booster, but they I didn't configure to leak through.  It satisfied my desires.  I tried male undergarments, while ok at home, I wouldn't trust it outside.  Undergarments really went out of favor for more underwear look as well as they don't hold much.  So, I went with pull ups instead.  

So, try it and see how it turns out.

[aron in a nappy]

Thank you both I know the Pads and pullups aren't anywhere near the feel of a proper nappy but I'm just trying to think of ways to make do for the moment.

I'm not worrying about how much of wetting they can hold or not they can take I think im just after the comfort for the moment and the main part is to make it easy as possible to hide

As much as I would love to have a chat with the Mrs again I dont think it will change anything even though I have thought about it and have been tempted.

Just need to find somewhere to hide them and smuggle them in

[Forced2wet]

9 hours ago, aron in a nappy said:

Thank you both I know the Pads and pullups aren't anywhere near the feel of a proper nappy but I'm just trying to think of ways to make do for the moment.

I'm not worrying about how much of wetting they can hold or not they can take I think im just after the comfort for the moment and the main part is to make it easy as possible to hide

As much as I would love to have a chat with the Mrs again I dont think it will change anything even though I have thought about it and have been tempted.

Just need to find somewhere to hide them and smuggle them in

So if you’re hiding your ‘stash’ and wearing secretly, what do you think your partner would do if (and no doubt when) she finds out?

Why can you not bring up the conversation with your wife about you wearing? If she has previously said you can put a nappy on under clothes in certain circumstances why would she have know changed her mind? 

 

[aron in a nappy]

On 9/30/2020 at 7:32 AM, Forced2wet said:

So if you’re hiding your ‘stash’ and wearing secretly, what do you think your partner would do if (and no doubt when) she finds out?

Why can you not bring up the conversation with your wife about you wearing? If she has previously said you can put a nappy on under clothes in certain circumstances why would she have know changed her mind? 

 

I totally get what your saying and I have been very tempted to speak to her about them again but have always been worried as it didn't go well the first time around and I do wonder as it has been a while that she has forgotten about it.

One of my big concerns with hiding anything within easier reach is the chance of them being found but I would have a good look around first before doing anything, my normal stash of nappies are up in the loft which means they are out of the way but in the same way they are really difficult to get to

[Forced2wet]

11 hours ago, aron in a nappy said:

I totally get what your saying and I have been very tempted to speak to her about them again but have always been worried as it didn't go well the first time around and I do wonder as it has been a while that she has forgotten about it.

One of my big concerns with hiding anything within easier reach is the chance of them being found but I would have a good look around first before doing anything, my normal stash of nappies are up in the loft which means they are out of the way but in the same way they are really difficult to get to

Ah, I remember hiding my stash in the loft, really not easy to sneak bits down if you get the urge to wear!

Mine where there for quite a while before my wife (at the time) spotted a used Tena disposable in the footwell of my car.

TBH, I can’t believe that your partner would have forgotten a conversation like that, wives have amazing memories for things that you do to ‘upset’ them lol

I’d have thought that if you have never spoken about it since that initial chat that she is probably hoping that you’ve ‘grown out of it’ 

[aron in a nappy]

4 hours ago, Forced2wet said:

Ah, I remember hiding my stash in the loft, really not easy to sneak bits down if you get the urge to wear!

Mine where there for quite a while before my wife (at the time) spotted a used Tena disposable in the footwell of my car.

TBH, I can’t believe that your partner would have forgotten a conversation like that, wives have amazing memories for things that you do to ‘upset’ them lol

I’d have thought that if you have never spoken about it since that initial chat that she is probably hoping that you’ve ‘grown out of it’ 

Yep the loft stash is really difficult, I'd love to have it closer to hand

I bet that must have been a difficult chat when your wife at the time found the used tena, how did it go?

Very true wife's never forget anything especially when it comes to stuff they can tell you off about ??

So she probably does still remember but like you say has probably hoped that I've given up on them, especially as when I first got some I used to keep them in my bedside cabinet but agreed to move them.

[Forced2wet]

1 hour ago, aron in a nappy said:

Yep the loft stash is really difficult, I'd love to have it closer to hand

I bet that must have been a difficult chat when your wife at the time found the used tena, how did it go?

Long story, but if you have time on your hands I told the story of my early years including being caught by my then wife here

 

Did your wife ask you to move your nappies from the drawer?

If she did was it because they may have been discovered by your children? 

[aron in a nappy]

8 hours ago, Forced2wet said:

Long story, but if you have time on your hands I told the story of my early years including being caught by my then wife here

 

Did your wife ask you to move your nappies from the drawer?

If she did was it because they may have been discovered by your children? 

Wow thats really cool and was great to read

We had a similar early stage up to the point of getting caught but the point about the chat was very similar, it didn't help that due to nerves I was drunk when I confessed everything, I almost didn't say anything but my heart was racing and she knew there was something.

 

I cant remember fully but I think it was a joint decision and yes it was because of children which is why they got moved and this is also why I'm desperate to make sure nothing gets found.

[Forced2wet]

8 hours ago, aron in a nappy said:

Wow thats really cool and was great to read

We had a similar early stage up to the point of getting caught but the point about the chat was very similar, it didn't help that due to nerves I was drunk when I confessed everything, I almost didn't say anything but my heart was racing and she knew there was something.

 

I cant remember fully but I think it was a joint decision and yes it was because of children which is why they got moved and this is also why I'm desperate to make sure nothing gets found.

How long into the relationship did you wait until you told your wife about this thing? 

Was she upset that you hadn’t shared it at the beginning of your relationship?

Do you have other AB bits like bottles, dummies etc that she would not like to discover?

I know looking at all the various ‘fail’ stories here that I’ve been lucky with the three long term relationships I’ve had in that they’ve all agreed to join in to different degrees.

TBH I’m now at the age where I pretty much do want I feel like and I don’t think that I’d now ever want to stop wearing/wetting so any future partners would need to be accepting.

[aron in a nappy]

9 hours ago, Forced2wet said:

How long into the relationship did you wait until you told your wife about this thing? 

Was she upset that you hadn’t shared it at the beginning of your relationship?

Do you have other AB bits like bottles, dummies etc that she would not like to discover?

I know looking at all the various ‘fail’ stories here that I’ve been lucky with the three long term relationships I’ve had in that they’ve all agreed to join in to different degrees.

TBH I’m now at the age where I pretty much do want I feel like and I don’t think that I’d now ever want to stop wearing/wetting so any future partners would need to be accepting.

I cant remember how long it was but it was a long time mostly because I was scared she would tell other people as we had a lot of mutual friends, I now wish I had told her a lot earlier.

Yeah that was a big issue almost as much as telling her about being an abdl, her trust in me was a big knock.

Yeah I've got a few bits AB nappies, dummy and tights (I have a bit sissy side) which I think she would be shocked to see as l don't think she would be expecting them but thankfully she doesn't go up in the loft at the moment lol.

Yeah that has been really lucky and must be great to have a partner who is willing to join in, although being caught the first time must have been difficult.

I do think my wife might be willing to get involved if I could finally get her to experience it in a small way but never want to push it especially as the original chat had never gone that well

[Forced2wet]

14 hours ago, aron in a nappy said:

I cant remember how long it was but it was a long time mostly because I was scared she would tell other people as we had a lot of mutual friends, I now wish I had told her a lot earlier.

Yeah that was a big issue almost as much as telling her about being an abdl, her trust in me was a big knock.

Yeah I've got a few bits AB nappies, dummy and tights (I have a bit sissy side) which I think she would be shocked to see as l don't think she would be expecting them but thankfully she doesn't go up in the loft at the moment lol.

Yeah that has been really lucky and must be great to have a partner who is willing to join in, although being caught the first time must have been difficult.

I do think my wife might be willing to get involved if I could finally get her to experience it in a small way but never want to push it especially as the original chat had never gone that well

Well I hope that your stash is hidden well in the loft because if your wife ventures up into your loft and finds any feminine bits that may be a harder conversation to have. ?

Of the three partners I have had to join in I’d say only one of them, I felt, enjoyed participating, the other two did it out of love and they could see how different I was in my demeanor after being in a nappy for a couple of nights. 
I think if you have that chat, saying to your wife that it’ll you will very seldom wear, she’ll see the positive effect that it will have on you and ultimately your relationship and maybe eventually even encourage you to do it more often.

If your wife ‘okays’ your wearing how often do you think you’ll dress up?

And, if you get the best outcome from the chat with your Missus, what level of participation would you like from her? 

[aron in a nappy]

13 hours ago, Forced2wet said:

Well I hope that your stash is hidden well in the loft because if your wife ventures up into your loft and finds any feminine bits that may be a harder conversation to have. ?

Of the three partners I have had to join in I’d say only one of them, I felt, enjoyed participating, the other two did it out of love and they could see how different I was in my demeanor after being in a nappy for a couple of nights. 
I think if you have that chat, saying to your wife that it’ll you will very seldom wear, she’ll see the positive effect that it will have on you and ultimately your relationship and maybe eventually even encourage you to do it more often.

If your wife ‘okays’ your wearing how often do you think you’ll dress up?

And, if you get the best outcome from the chat with your Missus, what level of participation would you like from her? 

?? yeah good point thankfully I don't think she would ever go up there

Typing this did remind me of you biography about how you showed your wife the posts on here not sure I can do that now can I ??

Yeah fair point she might be more accepting of it with the fact I can't wear whilst she is working at home especially if I wear under clothes.

I think your advice has been a huge help so I owe you a huge thank you and it has given me a bit more confidence to think about having the chat, just need to do it without alcohol involved this time which could be difficult but makes more sense.

Not sure how much I would wear I dont think a lot as I had grown to accept to the limited amount of wearing I had but would love to wear more if I could.

If participation was to happen I would be over the moon and would happily take any involvement but like all absl's I think we all  have a long list of things I would love given the opportunity.

Is there any advise you can give me? Happy to pm if that is easier

You have been so helpful and can't thank you enough

[Forced2wet]

PM sent ?