Ok, I'll try...

[El Lobo Rojo]

I'm a guy in Dallas that loves fishing, 90s alternative music, woodworking, writing, renaissance faires and animals. I have a degree in English and I love to read and watch movies. I have a good job that I work very hard at, and I'm a diehard romantic.

I'm also a military veteran with social anxiety disorder and as such, I sometimes get nervous in crowded places or big, elaborate affairs. I've been described as a "big personality" which is hard because often, I am the life of the party - even though it's a nervous response to being uncomfortable.

My job is stable and I've worked very hard to get to where I'm at. I have a good, solid position where I can, have, and do help a lot of people. I'm also submissive in a myriad of ways. My life is such that if this part of me ever came to light I would lose most, if not all, of what I've built.

My submissive AB side is something that I've been aware of for a long time - though I wasted many years trying to hide, avoid, or divorce myself from it. The few people who have known about it have made my life much harder because of it, and it's taken me years to get to a place where I'm okay liking myself as, and for, the person that I am.

I'm looking to meet someone who is strong, and assertive. Someone who wants and appreciates a partner that cares about making them feel special. Someone that would like to go camping, or watch a good movie, or go to a nice dinner.

I once saw a spray painted message on a dilapidated wall that read "See me. Not as I am - but as I long to be."

In a nutshell, that's what I'm looking for. Somebody that will acknowledge, accept; and mentally, emotionally, and spiritually embrace the whole me.

I'd also love to make new friends, and have the opportunity to talk to lots of people... So please feel free to message me any time!  My PMs are open!

[AbabeBill]

Hi and welcome to DD! Nice to meet you, glad to have you join us. No worries, you can feel free here, and no one will say a word. It’s a big deal to be ok with this, and yourself. Sometimes that is not an easy accomplishment. Sounds funny, in a way, someone who would spray paint that on a wall? But not, that it isn’t a fine sentiment. Well, there’s lots of good, likeminded people here, and I think you can be right a home here. I hope you can find that special someone, maybe someone who had taken that spray painted message to heart? For now, relax, have fun, and enjoy!