How Do You Deal With Incontinence?

[Juliabam]

I was wondering how every body that is incontinent hear has dealt with all the shortcomings that comes with it. I know it was devistating when it began for me. I was in my mid thirties, and my life was on top of the world. it has effected every aspect of my life. I went for tests, probing, prodding,therios,suicide, and therapy. but what worked for me I still dont know. I do know that starting to like the feel was a large part of it, and a lot of support. does anyone have any imput, or thoughts on this subject? All comments I think will be helpful, what do you think?

For me, it happened together with an array of other problems. I woke up in a hospital, unable to feel or move anything below the middle of my chest. I have to admit that suddently being double incontinent was close to the last thing I worried about. I guess I just grew into this new life accepting the incontinence issues as much as possible together with the rest of my disability. So to round my message off I believe I must say that I just woke up and also were incontinent, end of story I never had any special problems directly adressed to coping with that single issue in my new life.........Shit just happpens sometimes I guess(what a luck diapers exist to to contain it when the accident occurs)

[t baby]

I use an underpad when we make love.If i do have an accident the pad keeps the bed dry.

I use an underpad while doing the same thing Val cause T always has accidents. Have to use pads at night for when my diaper leaks but hey been dealing with it for 15 years now.

[ Agrees with Julia, I have had other problems related to my ms to worry about other than double incontinence. I have been dealing with it for 15 years so diapers are a part of my ward robe. T just thankful that there are adult size diapers

quote name='Juliabam' date='Feb 11 2006, 07:08 AM' post='19341']

For me, it happened together with an array of other problems. I woke up in a hospital, unable to feel or move anything below the middle of my chest. I have to admit that suddently being double incontinent was close to the last thing I worried about. I guess I just grew into this new life accepting the incontinence issues as much as possible together with the rest of my disability. So to round my message off I believe I must say that I just woke up and also were incontinent, end of story I never had any special problems directly adressed to coping with that single issue in my new life.........Shit just happpens sometimes I guess(what a luck diapers exist to to contain it when the accident occurs)

[babykimmy25]

I was wondering how every body that is incontinent hear has dealt with all the shortcomings that comes with it. I know it was devistating when it began for me. I was in my mid thirties, and my life was on top of the world. it has effected every aspect of my life. I went for tests, probing, prodding,therios,suicide, and therapy. but what worked for me I still dont know. I do know that starting to like the feel was a large part of it, and a lot of support. does anyone have any imput, or thoughts on this subject? All comments I think will be helpful, what do you think?

For me it was diffrent I wet my self alot at school as a kid ..More of a day wetter then in high school out grew it..Was fine until i had my baby when after i had her I had not much control over my bladder and started wearing pads and day diapers..Then my doctor told me it was a fallen bladder.. I was down because not many people my age have bladder problems... Now for the Ab/dl side i do Love the whole regression part and diapers are so much fun when I role play in them.. But as for wearing every day i have just gotten use to it.. But do have fun.. So don't get down you know there are millions out there just like us..

[dlsmd]

now i will tell u how i deal with it i jus let people know that im incon but this can be a double edge sword so keep in mind that if thay r ur friends thay wont care and if thay do then thay werent ur friends befor

its easer to not hide it then to hide it

so being open about it definetly helps

plus people know ware ur coming from befor thare ur friends

p.s.

most people never realy care as long as u treat it like u don't care

and thats the truth

[babykimmy25]

The one thing I find very hard about suffering from incontinence is.. Days like today..I needed to let my skin breath so i wore a pad with my panties..The hole time i was in class i spent all my time on the pottie running back and forth knowing a pad is not going to hold it all and wished i had my diaper on..I find it so hard to go with out a diaper..With out wetting my self and causeing me to get all red..from embarasment..I hate even going to pool partys because of knowing if i don't get in that pool soon i'm going to wet my self infront of my family and friends.. Or ride to the pool in the car in your swim suit..always have so much trouble with that..Hard to find swim diapers with out looking so noticable..That is the hard part of incontinence..You can't wear for fun and takes alot of the fun out of wearing..But if i role play as a baby it helps..Does anyone else have this trouble too???

[laxed_mikey]

Hewoh Kimmy, I know how you feel. I can't go without a diaper now ever since I was 13 and puberty started. And over the years it has gotten worse, where messing is now common. So I am basically used to the routine now of wearing one wherever I am no matter what. And because of needing to wear them I am glad I do especially if I have a major accident in public. I think it must be harder for someone like you, cuz you wear adult diapers which are so obvious with the sound. I wear baby diapers during the day and goodnites at night, and yes I feel like a baby a lot and acting that way helps me deal. All I can say is be cool and confident even though you need diapers. Best wishes. Wuv, Mikey

[pink nappies]

I am very similar in that my problems go back as far as maybe 9-10 and now Im pretty much fully incontinent. I know all about needing to let your skin breathe, it gets to the stage where you permenantly feel clammy, especially if you're a sensitive person like me There isnt a lot I can do about it (Im way too scared to go back to pads after bad experiences) but I try to give myself a few minutes in between changes, after I've had a shower, and other times like that just so that I have a little time to 'air'.

I dont go swimming much, although I did find a swim diaper that wasnt too bad under the right one piece bathing suit Never been to a pool part (too cold where I live!) but I can imagine it would be hard.

As for having fun, I cant do it simply because Im in them all the time so its hard to differentiate between what should be fun time and, well every other time. I tihnk its great people have ways to help, like role playing as a baby, but I havent found anything like that The closest time for me is when I've just changed and am still dry. I havent ever tried the baby thing so i dont know if it would work. I just dont have the chance since I wouldnt know what to do and have no one to help

[Guest diamondback688]

if you want to let your skin breathe you can get a changing mat from www.xpmedical.com and sit it on a chair or couch and just sit there without a diaper on...just a suggestion...hope that helps...

[nappyloon]

I was wondering how every body that is incontinent hear has dealt with all the shortcomings that comes with it. I know it was devistating when it began for me. I was in my mid thirties, and my life was on top of the world. it has effected every aspect of my life. I went for tests, probing, prodding,therios,suicide, and therapy. but what worked for me I still dont know. I do know that starting to like the feel was a large part of it, and a lot of support. does anyone have any imput, or thoughts on this subject? All comments I think will be helpful, what do you think?

I first started to have problems about 25 years ago when at work I had a sudden urge to go to the toilet and only just made it in time-I felt like I was going to burst! and that came from nowhere, the situation then got rapidly worse until the wife suggested I go see the doctor-that seemed to cure it for a while almost to the point where I had forgotten all about it.

Then one night I am out in the garden and realised I needed to have a wee but before I had even moved a step towards the back door I just started flooding everything (including my wellies!-I always thiught that they were designed to keep water out not in From that time on it all went downhill, trips to the doctor who refferred me to a specialist and an incontinence advisor (what a witch-she thought I was a Diaper Lover what next?)of course at this time no one knew my secret about having bladder troubles except the wife who was very good about it all-including the extra clothes washes that were needed.

Having seen the specialist who then gave me a test involving filling my bladder with liquid to see how much it would hold before springing a leak-the diagnosis was then made-unstable bladder! get your nappy on and get on with it! So back to the witch of an incontinence advisor (who had since changed jobs-probably gone to stoke boilers somewhere!) to a new and very nice as well as sympathetic lady who did her job extremely well, by the time I left her office I was fully kitted up with a leg bag-what a dissapointment that turned out to be-by the time I got home the car seat was wet where the attachment had come off my willy-Mr not impressed! my wife said that perhaps I should consider "nappies and plastic pants" as that was what they used to use on the elderly patients in the hospital she used to work in-I was not happy with that but had to do something or the whole house would very quickly end up smelling like a public toilet.

So after another trip to the nice incontinence advisor I left wearing my first "Nappy" as an adult, I really felt self-conscious walking outside, sure that everyone knew-ooh look at him in his nappy! but it was reassuring when my wife said that you or anyone else would never know I was wearing one-got home dry as a desert until I put the key in the door-"blimey" it certainly turned out to be a lifesaver as the next door neighbour was talking to us before we went in and there is no way I could have hidden my indiscretion had I not been in a nappy.

I now have to "Pad up" for virtually any journeys out of the house and always when off to work and having been saved from severe humiliation a few thousand times would not consider going without and yes I have grown to accept and love them as they have allowed me the return to the freedom I once had.

[idl john]

hi, i dont let it botheir me, there,s always someone out there to put down a person wearing diapers, i have bebeen through all that, now it does not matter anymore, no one is anybetter then anyone else in this would, go out and enjoy your self, theres shame but shame it self...

[nappyloon]

Having now had to put up with incontinence issues for over half my life I have become very accepting of these issues, especially when I read articles saying that 1 in 10 men have some incontinence issues and the number in females is even higher, now thats scary

Also I have only just found this site and feel very sad that I did not have a computer or the internet all those years ago as it would have undoubtedly made my life a lot easier reading that I am NOT alone with all the problems these issues bring with them

It is very nice to get a "Perspective" on ones problems, and does tend to bring you back to earth with a bump making you realise that perhaps you are rather selfish in your attitude, it has done that with me

As for the problems of both bowel and urinary incontinence I will do as a well know person quoted = tape on a new nappy and get on with it.

I now take the opinion that I rule my incontinence and not the other way round, so I will don a clean nappy and go out as I did once before, with my only concession being I do not drink very much unless I am on my way home