Guest EgaoNoGenki Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 If someone could please be so kind as to read the blog and answer the questions, alright? http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.ph...blogid=162& 1 Link to comment
diamondback6881 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 The users here normally don't read the blogs on this site. Yours was only the second I ahve read, and that is just because you posted the link. It would be better if you posted those questions in the 'Our Lifestyle Discussion' area. Also, shorten the story a bit. It was really long and I only read about half before I scrolled down to look at the questions. Link to comment
Guest EgaoNoGenki Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Ok then, I'll post the questions here. 1. What do you think my friend REALLY thought that night? 2. Why didn't he speak of the discovered diaper even once? 3. Would you have fallen for the vinyl pillowcase ruse a while after spotting a diaper for 3-4 seconds? 4. When I return to America in August and see him again, how do you suppose he'll act toward me then? 1 Link to comment
Goerge Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 I tend to read the first few paragraphs on blogs, if they don't interest me I don't continue reading it. Like diamondback said, post you're quetions in the Lifestyle Discussion. You'll get more people read it and answer it. Edit If you only had one diaper hanging around and he seen it you should of said it was part of a halloween custom. Finding one diaper is a lot easier to explain them finding a huge full bag full of them Link to comment
Guest EgaoNoGenki Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 Well, I made a plan to explain it when the need comes: Say when I come back to the States, and run into each other again, a dialogue happens like this: Me: "Hey (name), how's the summer been? And why’d you turn away when I waved at you for the last time from the UHaul truck?" Him: (he answers, but not as excitedly as before his discovery. Also, he tries to finish the conversation more quickly than usual.) Me: "I see how you feel, and thought I'd give an analogous tale that relates to what you're thinking." "Here’s a GREAT example: Two guys- Dillon and Ethan, live down the hall from each other. Ethan is a morally strong Christian who wouldn't glance at a porn magazine for two seconds. Dillon, however, is a promiscuous & lustful guy who subscribes to several. They (outwardly) overlook their differences and are just casual friends with each other; they share video games, have LAN parties, and all that jazz." "Then one day, Ethan brings his girlfriend for homework help, or whatever they need help on. While they work, Dillon visits them, asks what they're doing, and while Ethan answers, Dillon goes to an inconspicuous part of the room, and pulls something out." "Dillon shows Ethan and his girlfriend the porno mags and asks, "Hey, Ethan! I didn't know you’d look at these for even two seconds! You're a real man now; way to go!"" "While Ethan wasn't looking, Dillon hid these porn magazines last week, in a part of Ethan's room where he wasn't likely to look, to prank and embarrass him when his girlfriend visits." "You see, I live off-campus, but that doesn't mean I'm immune; I've had visitors too, and can think of one friend who'd have a tendency to pull this off and leave something like that in my apartment. I’ll not name names nor the last time he visited, but I'll have a word with him the next time I see him." Him: "Why would he want to prank you if he knew he probably wouldn’t be there when it happens?" Me: "Leaving an incriminating object was probably more than enough for him to laugh about as soon as he'd leave my apartment. He knew there was a risk of me discovering that thing before I moved out, but figured chances were good that a friend would discover it as they were helping me move out. Looks like his plan succeeded." Him: "What about that vinyl pillowcase ruse? Why'd you attempt that one then?" Me: "Because when I saw in my sheer horror that this thing somehow wound up in my apartment, thoughts raced in my mind too fast to think straight. I relied on instincts for a little bit, and thought I must’ve been pranked, but figured since I DIDN'T live in a residence hall, you wouldn't believe me if I’d have told you this. 1 Link to comment
underwhere Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 Unfortunately, you can plan a conversation out as clearly and succinctly as you want to have it, but unless you are planning to have a monologue rather than a conversation, you really can't plan beyond very rudimentary stuff because even that is subject to the whim of a variety of factors at play at that moment in time well beyond your ability to control. Rather than thinking about specific conversations you would like to have, perhaps you will find it more useful to think about ways to generate conversation around topics of interest to you, and do so in a way that will interest the other person enough to be willing to talk with you about the same topics. (That works even better in reverse if you happen upon a topic that you know the other person will be interested in even if you are not.) If you manage that, you will probably find the other person's interest level is sufficient that how the conversation actually plays out won't matter as much as the fact that it did play out. I know this isn't really the advice you were looking for, but unless you know some way to predict, without failure, how other people think (I am a social experiment in trying to do so myself my whole life), you'll be hard pressed to get the results you seek in the way you are planning to seek them. Link to comment
Dill_Pickle Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 QUOTE ( @ Jul 17 2008, 10:55 AM) Ok then, I'll post the questions here. 1. What do you think my friend REALLY thought that night? 2. Why didn't he speak of the discovered diaper even once? 3. Would you have fallen for the vinyl pillowcase ruse a while after spotting a diaper for 3-4 seconds? 4. When I return to America in August and see him again, how do you suppose he'll act toward me then? Without reading the long blog, but on general principles: 1. That's odd. Wonder what's wrong with him he that he needs a diaper? 2. I don't want to know-- I'm not comfortable enough about my own sexuality, or with you, to speak of something that private -- you were clearly embarrassed or otherwise uncomfortable about it, and he isn't going to make his friend feel embarrassed. 3. No, but I'm a DL. He might have ... less cognitive dissonance. 4. Focus on everything else...it will be fine. Leave your diapers at home if you can. Link to comment
Guest EgaoNoGenki Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 It's already at the Lifestyle Discussion area. Why did you tell me to suggest that? (And when are the most people in the chat? I feel like talking about this in real-time too.) 1 Link to comment
sarah_ab Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 its hit or mis in the chat,theres no one "good time" to come in as we are all in different time zones. Link to comment
DavidMW Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 QUOTE ( @ Jul 17 2008, 07:43 PM) Well, I made a plan to explain it when the need comes: Say when I come back to the States, and run into each other again, a dialogue happens like this: Me: "Hey (name), how's the summer been? And why’d you turn away when I waved at you for the last time from the UHaul truck?" .... I don't see much point in anticipating a lengthy dialog like you posted following this opening line. But I'd suggest a different opening line, such as Me: "Hey (name), how's the summer been?" I don't see the point of putting him on the spot with the rest of it just so you can explain away a diaper that he may or may not have seen some time ago. Especially because he might not have given it much thought. (From your blog description, it doesn't sound like it registered, or if it did he didn't much care.) If he does ask, have a simple explanation ready ("Diaper? What diaper?" is good - don't elaborate, though, as if it weren't a diaper, you'd have no reason to recall anything from that day that might have looked diaper-like to him). From the blog description and the thread here, you seem - I really hate to use the word - paranoid about it to the extent that you might end up giving away your secret in your effort to keep it secret. Link to comment
tenderheart Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Honestly as much as you don't want to admit it to yourself there is a 90% probability that he realizes that there is something strange about you having a diaper in your room. He may suspect medical reasons, but I don't think you have to be to worried about a confrontation over it. If he had any serious objections he would've voiced them during the incident. Having gone through a similar experience I would say he knows but he is being nice about it. Perhaps you are reading to much into his actions after his discovery because of personal feelings. I don't know the people involved but you can't miss a diaper sitting in front of you. Especially if it is adult sized. Link to comment
Hunter1076 Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 If he does ask, have a simple explanation ready ("Diaper? What diaper?" is good - don't elaborate, though, as if it weren't a diaper, you'd have no reason to recall anything from that day that might have looked diaper-like to him). The one thing to remember Neo, There is no spoon Link to comment
sarah_ab Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 I didn't read your blog, but given whats been written here, it does in fact seem you are quite obsessed with the incident that happened, and perhaps it was that your friend picked up on the changes in YOUR behavior around HIM. It could be without you even knowing it, your own behavior changed when you were around him, and he distanced himself as a result of your subconscious shift in attitude and behavior. Link to comment
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