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Hi all you kinky people, hugs Hubby and I met on Recon, and originally only wanted buddies for sex, neither of us wanted a relationship, but within a month I moved in, within a year he proposed, we got married and all that loveliness. We are both damned kinky, he is my Top, my man, my hairy dude, and well, sooner or later we had to play with chastity, I have been playing for over 10 years, had full steel belts, trapped ball devices and lately, built my own belt, turns out to be damned comfy and secure. So, we tried a 90 day challenge, he bet me I could not do it, then roll on to half way through and he timed it bloody perfectly. "darling, when your 90 days are up, what's next? What could be better, could you do a year?" And I bit...... we decided both of us men of our words, we needed boundaries and well, something to make it official, so here is the final draft of our contract. Starting 2nd December, I am locking up for minimum of 365 days, thankfully releases over the time, but also punishments for breaking the rules. As during my 90 days, every release for cleaning or what ever, I broke the rules, thankfully we had no contract, and no punishments set. This is going to be fun.... I hope! The Contract - This contract is made between the following parties(our fetlife names) - KEYHOLDER: zddtb9 USER: steelpants Contract does not start or apply unless signed by both parties below. Definitions CHASTITY DEVICE: Chosen device has been made by the USER, it is a custom fit, designed for continuous wear to prevent masturbation and erections, also stopping User from playing with their cock. This is the normal day to day device for the USER. During lockup it may be necessary to change to another device temporarily, the USER is to lock back up in the chosen device as soon as possible, or incur a punishment. The device may also require regular adjustment, for these times the User should wear a suitable device until the chosen device is ready again. USER: The individual who will wear the device. By definition, the USER has surrendered control of their sexual organs and services to the KEYHOLDER. As such, they can no longer have an erection without permission, nor can they masturbate or orgasm, unless authorised and released from the chastity device. Unauthorised orgasms will result in a penalty. KEYHOLDER: The individual who will hold the key and the control for the device. By definition, the KEYHOLDER is the individual entrusted to have absolute say in the use of the users sexual organs and services. Term User will wear the chastity device for a period of 365 days minimum, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, unless released through terms of this contract, starting officially Wednesday 2nd December 2020, when Keyholder arrives home from work, User should already be locked in chosen chastity device, ready to start this lock up period. Punishment for not being ready in time is the same as “Failure to put chastity device back on after a release”. Hygiene User is responsible for regular cleaning of device. User will notify the Keyholder immediately of any concerns regarding function or cleanliness of device. Keyholder will permit at least one removal of device in a seven-day period for cleaning and shaving as required. User agrees that such release may be supervised or restrained if necessary. User also agrees that unless the Keyholder specifies, the User shall not try for orgasm, if they do without permission, the punishment is below. User agrees that he will immediately re-secure device after all cleanings. Both parties acknowledge that a release from device may be permitted for medical or extreme discomfort issues. However during such release no orgasms are permitted and user agrees once medical condition is rectified immediate return of the device will commence without delay. Keys Keyholder will retain all keys to said chastity device. User will not attempt to break free from or defeat the purpose of the device in any way. Sexual Release / Orgasm Keyholder agrees that User will be entitled to at least 12 releases during this initial period of lock up. User will spend no less than 12 hours but no more than 30 hours out of the device. During the contract unless under punishment period, once per month the Keyholder will select a random day between 1 and the number of days that month, that will be the day of release that month for the User, the times of release for the period and length of release period will be set by Keyholder based on User’s level of dedication, if under punishment, punishment rules apply. Keyholder is given sole discretion of how releases will be carried out. Keyholder agrees that at least 9 uncaged periods will include an orgasm for User. Keyholder agrees that the User is entitled to one “Pink Elephant” per month under the length of the contract, regardless of punishment. This is know as the “Pink Elephant” allowance. If the User does not use the “Pink Elephant” allowance within that month, it will roll over, the User can save them and use in a batch if they wish, allowing them days of release for the number they wish to use. If the User says they wish to use “Pink Elephant”, they must specify the period and they must have enough “Pink Elephant” allowances to cover the release, 1 “Pink Elephant” allowance allows 24 hours of release from chastity, they are to be released immediately, and the specified units will be used and no longer available. Any punishments are immediately paused, and will resume when “Pink Elephant” allowance release period ends. Keyholder agrees that if User is allowed orgasm, should the User require their help they should assist in any way possible to help the User achieve orgasm. User will also have a full release from chastity for a period of a minimum of 24 hours and a maximum of 30 hours, including allowance of orgasms for the User’s birthday(1st December), and User and Keyholder’s wedding anniversary(18th December). These are additional days to those outlined above. If the User is under a punishment period for either of these two days, the punishment period will be placed on hold to allow release. It will resume immediately when release period is finished. Failure to lock back up in time will result in punishment below. Release from chastity on Christmas Day is at the discretion of the Keyholder. If User is under a punishment period, they will remain locked. User acknowledges and agrees that Keyholder has certain sexual needs that may need fulfilled and such releases for Keyholder do not constitute a release for User. User agrees to satisfy Keyholder by whatever means Keyholder deems necessary for sexual gratification. User agrees that sexual releases may be accompanied by being restrained as determined by Keyholder. User agrees that Keyholder may release User for the means of sexual play but that no orgasm is permitted unless Keyholder permits one. User agrees that Keyholder may use devices such as (but not limited to) vibrators, dildos, electro, and other artificial aids on User when Keyholder pleases, including any restraints as needed. User agrees that Keyholder is responsible, and knows their limits and he respects them, the User wants to expand those limits, User agrees to explore their limits on cock electro training, for every 60 minutes cock electro training the User experiences under the control of the Keyholder, they earn an additional 24 hour release(orgasm for this period is at the discretion of the Keyholder). User will require restraining and gagging. For every 120 minutes cock electro training, they earn an orgasm for that 24 hour release period. User will require restraining and gagging. User has option to build minutes for release or orgasm, however only stages of 30 minutes training completed will count, if User stops a session of training at less than 30 minutes, it will not count. However if Keyholder has to stop session due to outside influences, then User will be allowed to continue this session at a later time and this time will still count as earned. For Electro-cock training, the User must be reminded it is training, and he should accept it as such and trust his Top, the Keyholder. He has written this in the contract, so thereby is willing to trust his Top. Keyholder will always remember and respect the Users limits, if the User feels the Keyholder has pushed beyond their limits too far, they are allowed to restart the session again, with 15 minutes earned towards their goal before they start. Non-Sexual Releases User agrees that Keyholder may release User out of good nature and that such a release from device is not grounds for sexual release and without express permission, orgasm is not allowed, if broken, the punishment is further in this contract. User agrees to abide by all directions from Keyholder during such releases. User agrees to re-secure device upon command from Keyholder. Anal activity For the duration of this contract, the User is allowed anal stimulation, either with toys, or with other Tops, if they orgasm through anal stimulation, it will not class as a punishment, providing they are in chastity and did not achieve an erection. Other Top Play If another Top wants to play and also wishes access to the key, this will be allowed, User is not to use the key for the duration of this period, they will be responsible only to deliver it to the Top and return it to the Keyholder. The User is not allowed to use the Key, or to put the key in the Lock. Punishment for breaking this is the same as unauthorised removal of chastity belt. Unless they are told to do so by the Top they are visiting. If the user orgasms during control of another Top, unless the Top specifically told the User not to, then it will have no punishment. However if the Top has told the User not to orgasm and they do, the punishment is an unauthorised orgasm and should be treated as such. Any Tops should be made aware of these rules and how to report to Keyholder should the User break this rule. Diapering Both the Keyholder and the User have noticed that the User is much more relaxed and calmer when diapered, the User has a safe space, and are no longer reliant on bathrooms, freeing the User from additional triggers and flashbacks. Apart from morning pooh, shower, bath times and any sexual activity, the User should remain diapered at all other times, and the Keyholder will support the User to make this a normal part of life. If the User crumbles like so many others have, the Keyholder will support and remind the User of the benefits and how it helps the User daily. Attire User agrees that Keyholder may require User to wear what ever they please during the confines of the household. The key holder may also choose clothing to wear hidden under street clothes when both User and Keyholder are out in public, or User is out on their own. Hidden items can also include any sexual toys and any bondage items suitable and any items from the Users wardrobe. This can also include lockable clothes for the duration the User is out, leaving the key at home. User agrees that Keyholder may specify that User remove all clothing within the confines of the household, and be either naked, in a diaper or dress in items the Keyholder can choose from attire available for User, including any bondage items, any sexual toys, or anything within the household that fits the User. Keyholder agrees that they will not require clothing that would be detrimental to normal public wear or that would otherwise affect public opinion, interfere with work duties, or that would cause public humiliation for User. User agrees to always wear a diaper if Keyholder requests it, failure to do so in a timely manner will result in punishment equivalent to an unauthorised orgasm, as below. User acknowledges that Keyholder may adorn themselves in various clothing to tease and/or torment User. User Health and Medical needs. Keyholder will make keys available to User for use in medical emergency, doctor appointments, and any other situation in which excessive bodily harm or embarrassment may be present to User. Keyholder is to release User. User agrees that in such emergency he will notify Keyholder immediately and that no orgasm is permitted. User agrees that once medical condition has been rectified User will re-secure device immediately and notify Keyholder of said action. Should the User suffer mental distress and expresses they are suffering and as such cannot continue, then the contract is to be paused immediately, the User should be released. As soon as they can continue and are properly locked again, the contract will continue exactly as it was when paused. General recommendations for good prostate health are either regular orgasms, or regular milking. Keyholder should ensure that the User either receives anal stimulation through their cock, or other toys available, and Keyholder should ensure User’s prostate has been effectively drained, assisting in anyway possible. General Understandings Both parties agree that everyday life decisions such as child development, household finances, and other decisions outside the bedroom will have no effect on terms of this agreement, and that such decisions made can have no impact on the terms of this agreement. Keyholder understands that they are free to receive any form of sexual gratification needed from User during periods of confinement. User is aware that rewards up to and including orgasm are given for good behaviour including but not limited to things that the Keyholder enjoys and makes known to the User from time to time; e.g. restraint, electro. Rewards assigned will be at the discretion of Keyholder. Both parties agree that modifications to this agreement may be needed during the period of this agreement and that such modifications can be made as long as both parties are in agreement. Keyholder responsibilities Keyholder is responsible for monitoring and ensuring Users mental health and wellbeing are healthy and maintained, as both User and Keyholder are fully aware “Ignoring him ruins everything”, if User feels neglected, he can simply say or text this to the Keyholder to let him know he is having problems and needs urgent support. Keyholder will always ensure User is fully aware of their situation, what they have given up, when their likely next release may be, and when their eventual release could be. This should happen regularly to ensure User stays at a required level of horniness and mental well being. If Keyholder fails in either of these duties, punishment is below Bath time Keyholder will choose a number between 1 and 4, 4 being freedom for the period of bath and a reasonable cool down period, numbers 1 to 3 represent a silicone device already labelled(1.small device, 2. device with spikes inside(punishment device), 3. Comfy silicone device). Failure to lock back up in normal chosen daily belt in a reasonable time after a bath will result in a punishment. Naked nights Monthly at random intervals chosen by the Keyholder, after bath time, the User will be allowed a night of freedom, from both Chastity and diapers, allowed to sleep completely naked if they desire, they must however after their shower the next morning, reattach their chastity belt as per this agreement, it is simply a night off, and unless the Keyholder specifies, the User must not orgasm for this release period. Punishment for unauthorised orgasm is below. Penalties and Punishments - User Only one punishment may be administered for any rule breach, if two can apply to what the User has done, only one punishment may be chosen. No Orgasm penalty periods start immediately or as soon as possible, any extra time will be added to the end of the contract. Both parties agree that deviation from contract will result in either cancellation of contract or punishments to correct errant behaviour. Breach of contract by Keyholder will constitute a cancellation of contract. Cancellation of contract will result in immediate release of User from device. Breach of contract by User will be handled at the discretion of the Keyholder as outlined below. Any unauthorised removal of the device will result in 90 days added to the contract and denial of three entitled releases, if any are left at this point in the contract. Also absolutely no orgasms will be allowed for User for 90 days, to start immediately or straight after any ongoing punishment period. Any bath times during this period, the chosen device will always be number 2 unless the Keyholder decides different. Any unauthorised orgasms will result in a 21 day period added to the contract and denial of one entitled release. User will also have 21 days orgasm denial plus 30 days punishment, making a total of 51 days of absolutely no orgasms, to start immediately, or straight after any other outstanding punishment periods. Any bath times during this period, the chosen device will always be number 2 unless the Keyholder decides different. If told no masturbation for a release period, and User breaks this instruction, it will result in a 14 day period added to the contract, and absolutely no orgasms will be allowed for User for a period of 28 days, to start immediately, or straight after any other outstanding punishment periods. Any bath times during this period, number 4 will not be an available option. Failure to put chastity device back on after a release(including bath times) within an acceptable time will result in a penalty of 7 extra days added to the contract and if any releases are left, one scheduled release will be denied (except for cleaning), and absolutely no orgasms will be allowed for User for a period of 14 days, to start immediately, or straight after any other outstanding punishment periods. Any bath times during this period, the chosen device will always be number 2 unless the Keyholder decides different. User agrees that additional punishments may be administered by Keyholder to correct or punish infractions from contract: [punishments agreed upon by couple] [ex: spanking, flogging, crop, electro, strict bondage positions for extended periods, also additional days to lockup period to be included to ensure User does not break the rules any further] Penalties and Punishments - Keyholder Should Keyholder fail their duties in ensuring the User is mentally safe and well, then the User can punish the Keyholder. User has the choice of any of the bondage positions and experiences they have had with the Keyholder, and is allowed to share that experience by putting the Keyholder through the same. The User can also introduce new situations as they wish. User also has the option to place Keyholder in a diaper for the duration of up to a maximum of 6 hours.User will earn one extra “Pink Elephant” allowance to use when they select. Signed User __________________________________________ Print Name ___________________________________________ Signed Keyholder ______________________________________ Print Name ___________________________________________ Date Signed __________________________________________

Thank you all for the replies. Have been using Metanium nappy rash cream since, it was recommended years ago by a district nurse, I suffer like so many other guys, ingrown hairs in the crotch area. And this was was right on the entrance to my anus, so extremely painful, sit, lay, didn't matter, it hurt all the time. Thankfully a few days of cream and its gone! YAY, last night I managed to diaper up for bed, and OMG, what a lovely sleep, no nightmares, and my heart rate just steadily dropped overnight, unfortunately woke early by the post man, swine! But a lovely sleep. Glad to be diapered again, today enjoyed waking in my Pride diaper, then changed to Aquanauts, and after my shower was ABU Little Pawz till bedtime, and for bed tonight, again Pride, love the rainbows and unicorns, so cute.

Metanium cream has started to work reducing the zit and the pain; happily diapered again

Hey all I have mentioned it before, I suffer PTSD and Depression! For the last few days I have not been able to be diapered, due to a pain in the arse! Literally. Damned zit, so painful, can’t have anything against it, even boxers! Thankfully metianiem is working and taking it down to a more manageable pain in the ass…! But, looking back at my Fitbit logs, and comparing against a nights sleep diapered….. OMG, what a difference. Top image was Monday night, heart rate all over the place, and many nightmares, woke in a pool of sweat and bedding had to be changed today! Middle image, that was Saturday night as Sunday night did not register as sleep, heart rate was way too high! Loads of nightmares again, and woke absolutely soaked in sweat. Bottom image - that is me diapered, look at how stead my heart rate drops, some nights has dropped to as low as 42! It’s amazing now seeing the difference there in black and white, when not diapered, my PTSD has free run on my head overnight and many nightmares will play out. Diapered, I sleep like a baby. Hubby was amazed when I showed him. Anyone else have similar when diapered?

Did the straps a different way today, much more secure, very comfy!

Yeah these are one size too big, a smaller size pair is on way! With the chastity, these make it very snug and very comfy, its amazing. The body strap, you can do it in an H, or like I tried, crossed over, they support both ways, I just fancied trying this way, and this way holds everything up much better

They arrived, and oh my they are so secure. Cool thing, under everyday clothes, you would not know, hubby loves this new level of control, giving me the choice of diaper, do I need plastic pants, do I need to control my fluid intake, do I need to control my flow so not to flood and leak, and can only change when he allows. This could be quite fun, he is looking forward to playing.

I too cuddle ted under my chin, in to my chest, I lay on my side, and I snuggle against him, like a prop, he keeps me in a nice position on the bed, and he is soooooo soft, love him, love snuggling, at the mo, he stays in the bedroom, a few times I have been tempted to go grab him for a quick snuggle during the day, I work from home, so never far from him.

No it cannot, even after long term lock up, at best a day later, back to normal. Wearing chastity is hard to explain, depends on the device, captive ball devices do not work for everyone, some guys prefer a full belt, I wear a full belt, it certainly adds to it, and wearing a diaper over it, actually makes it more secure.

I wear a full steel belt, thankfully have found under diapers, unlike plastic and silicone devices, after a wet wipe, there is no smell on the belt anymore. Due release on the 12th November and very looking forward to it, will have completed 90 days. I do get regular releases for cleaning, shaving etc, and the occasional orgasm. Then 2nd December, will be starting a one year lockup, 9 orgasms guaranteed, I can earn more, I can also loose more, and can earn extra time, going to be fun, certainly diapered is it much more, the belt is much more comfy, the padding helps. Pair of jeans over the top, no one would know.

My shorts with harness ship tomorrow.... getting excited.....

I only started wearing on the 19th October 2020! So completely new to this, however I suffer moderate to severe PTSD and moderate to severe anxiety, due to childhood abuse from the age of 11 to 15. I know when I wear, part of me regresses to an age before, and it feels around 4, so far not much, except my scared teenager inside kind of goes to sleep when I wear, and inside I feel safer, younger, not scared anymore. Just wearing a diaper is a grounding technique for me, and now I can wear and not visit the bathroom for wee, as bathroom is a major trigger room, a lot of my abuse happened in a bathroom, and going wee has always bee a trigger since. Wearing a diaper and using for wee, gives me a secure safe space, I am much calmer wearing and much less anxiety.

I could spend a fortune in that shop!

Me and Ted had a very good sleep, and was lovely to wake cuddling him again.... really like it

Pride diapers, rather comfy so far

Thanks for that, I have a few onesie bodies that I like to wear, holds everything in, and like you say, once dressed, its a bugger to strip all off

I am starting to love going to sleep cuddling, sleep much better

Crinklz Aquanaut

Was a great day, met up with hubby later, he had to go see a different customer, was nice to get home and change in to a fresh diaper

Tomorrow I am off to meet customers on my own, no hubby for support, and of course, diapered! This is going to be fun, my first time alone...

I suffer PTSD, and when wearing I do regress to an age before my abuse, which is nice, I feel very secure in a diaper. But the other evening on the way to bed, I had a little wobble, felt anxious and before I knew it or realised (didn't until morning when my husband pointed out the teddy in bed next to me) I had gone in to my 8 year old sons room and take his softest (and most unused teddy), it is so soft. I woke that morning cuddling it, and my sleep was unreal, so deep and peaceful. Hubby said he was amazed, normally I grind my teeth, with ted, I do not. Have tried him now 3 nights in a row, and definitely much better sleep. Age 47, snuggling a teddy....... but he is so soft, hubby said I looked cute asleep cuddling ted.

A rather loaded ABU Little Pawz, but holding very well, really impressed, 6 wees in and still holding

Today is a hard day every year, it is my Mother’s birthday and it has been a hard day since I lost her in 2014 due to terminal illness. It was also just after PTSD struck me, and after her death, I fell in to depression, my marriage fell apart due to falling out of the closet and admitting I am actually Gay. But I also met my man that year, we have been married since 2018. He is my rock, and fully supportive of me diapered, he loves how relaxed I am, he has never seen me so chilled. Today was also the day I was picking my 8 year old son up for his half term break with Daddy, so I was anxious about seeing him, diapered, I have only been wearing for over a week, and not had him here yet, so the anxiety put me off, and I chickened out this morning. We had a busy time, had to go get lunch, then pick our other car up from the garage, then home. By the time I got home, undiapered, I was an emotional mess, stressed out as hell. Having to drive the other car home on my own, following hubby, he could even see in the mirror I was getting very stressed, thankfully my son was travelling with him so did not notice. Hubby helped hide it from him when we got home. Hubby looked at me when we were at home and simply said “I think its time you got properly dressed and padded dear, why don't you go get changed and comfy?” I love my man, and since getting in to my Rearz Dinosaur Elite, I am much more relaxed, he has already noticed. He even said to me “Do not worry, your son will not notice, lets see how it goes, come on, relax” And I am starting to. I really love my hubby.

In Greenhithe, Kent

I also love just chilling in my diaper, and maybe a onesie, I love the bodies with popper crotch, just lounging around the house like this, very chilled out