Neverwillbeout

You mention getting your wife comfortable. Did she know about your interests, before you were married. Either way, is it possible for everyone to cross that bridge with their spouse? I have read stories with both good and “bad”/unsuccessful outcomes. Bottom line, if you had to choose and your choice is your spouse above all, should I just keep to myself because there is no guarantee everyone could embrace such a complicated and EASILY miss understood interest? Don’t get me wrong, I would love to hold nothing back when connecting with someone you love but... let’s be honest, no one who is not a DL could even fathom the real (not twisted impulsive explanation) a DL’s rational for why they are who they are. So... is it worth the risk?