Your Wet Friend

I've stopped updating the blog site, ourbedwettingfun.com . Obviously, the topic of that site is a niche within a niche within a niche. Which meant I was basically writing to myself according to web stats which is not very fulfilling. Maybe I should have given it more time, but such is life. No sweat. No bad feelings. All is well. I'll just do some updates here for those who might be interested and save the money on hosting my own blog. Cheers, Bob

I haven't posted much here lately, but that doesn't mean nothing has been happening. I've had a couple of "near misses" with wetting the bed in my sleep. By that I mean I woke up either just before I was about to wet my diaper, or maybe even "mid-stream." There have been no "go to bed dry, wake up wet in the morning" nights while sleeping through it all -- yet. My training now has me in diapers all the time except when in bed. At that time I wear a pair of normal underwear and sleep on a Goodnites disposable bed pad. I'm six weeks into this training. I really don't want to type the same information twice. It's updated almost every day at my blog which is shown below. If the ads for ABDL-related stuff on the blog bother you, just ignore them and read the content. Bob

As usual, I don't fall into the usual category. I get what everyone is saying here. And there is a lot to be said for being sure you want something because you just might get it. I'm looking to be corrected here if appropriate, but I don't think you have control one month and a month later find you have become permanently incontinent as a result of your training or whatever. Isn't it more gradual than that? Hence those who are persuaded they wish to be incontinent will get a taste of it before they finally "arrive." Or perhaps I'm wrong and it is like you are on a plateau and then suddenly slide down the slope helplessly as you become truly urinary incontinent. Returning to my original point of not fitting well into a specific category, I'm focused on bedwetting. My going 24/7 for the past six weeks is simply a way to accelerate the bedwetting thing as recommended to me. Yes, some daytime changes have happened such as the minor "bladder spasms" and increased frequency. But I'm quite sure that after 6 weeks of 24/7, I could still control myself daytime if I wished. I live alone and work for myself on a flexible schedule and from flexible locations, so wetting the bed, or more accurately, wetting in my sleep, impacts no one else. As far as being inconvenient, that's a matter of perspective. Obviously, the overwhelming majority report would be that being a bedwetter is a terrible inconvenience, something to be fixed. Yet if we were to follow the majority report in a broader sense, the whole ABDL scene would stand condemned. I combine some oddball desires/problems. I seek to become a bedwetter partly for the "naughty" motivation, but also so I sleep through the night. I am not deterred by some alleged inconvenience attached to a five minute morning ritual of taking off a disposable, throwing it away, and wiping myself down with some adult disposable wipes. I also detest public restrooms, and find the surest way to prevent me from urinating is to stand in front of a urinal in a men's room. Carry on! Bob

Wow. Now there is a huge quantity to absorb... I agree. The first sign that something is happening is when frequency goes up without having to consume copious amounts of liquid. I'm almost there. I would add that another sign of progress would be small "bladder spasms," for lack of a better term. It's that funny feeling you get in your bladder like it's quivering even when you don't have to urinate. It's like your bladder isn't sure what it should be doing. Maybe it's doing this because you changed your behavior and no longer make any attempt to stop yourself from peeing no matter the place or situation? It's just an odd feeling I get periodically that I don't recall ever having before other than when I really did need to urinate. I'm working more on the bedwetting angle. I believe I wet the bed in my sleep for the first time about a week ago. Actually, I'm not sure. I know I went to be dry. I recall waking up I believe shortly after I started wetting my diaper. So I woke up mid-stream? I then went back to sleep. Regardless of how conscious I was of "sleep-wetting," I know something happened since I was obviously wet in the morning. Your story is very encouraging. I'm confident you are correct on benchmarks two and three as well. Now if there were a way to compress the time required to get all this done.... I do know that I was not a bedwetter after age six. I also know that I began in earnest to start wetting the bed five weeks ago. To go from dry to a probable bedwetting incident in five weeks isn't bad. Now all I need is a couple more nights of confirmation and one morning when I wake up wet and have no idea when it happened. Bob

And that is an incredibly helpful post. It is amazing when you consider the amount of knowledge that is available here. The medical profession, bless their hearts, does not always get it right. Your comment about dealing with incontinence by "sinking a Foley and calling it done" demonstrates that. Sort of addressing the symptoms rather than the underlying problem I guess. On the other hand, if you have a patient wetting his or her pants, something needs to be done right away or the person is homebound. At least until a more permanent or effective solution can be found? Cheers, Bob

And there's the fact. My guess is the desire is to be truly incontinent, or truly a bedwetter. Such real individuals do not engage in extraordinary measures to remain incontinent or bedwetters. It just comes naturally to them, much to their dismay. Hence, even if you could induce those behaviors using extreme measures, it might sound like fun, but you would not be a real bedwetter or have achieved real incontinence. So it would all be a fake. Remove the extraordinary measures, and you'd bounce back to where you were before. It takes time, but the goal is achievable. Just try to enjoy the ride and the little successes along the way. Do nothing that might harm yourself.

Much to be said for your comments. Am I in a position to know exactly how it works? No. Have I had some progress? Yes, but after about four weeks. Since I do not know how he starts everyone off, that first free week might be very generic -- after all, it's free. There have been some changes to what I'm doing further into the program. Can I be certain these are unique to me? Nope. Like I said, I do not know what he does with others. I know I have made more progress in the direction of wetting the bed in my sleep than I did on my own a few years ago. Is there a placebo effect here in that just having a coach is moving things along? I don't know. I'm not here either to promote his site nor to dissuade others from giving it a whirl. That's part of the reason I set up a blog of my own -- so I could comment much more there, and would not be thought obnoxious here in reporting my progress I think he goes eight to twelve weeks, so I'm half-way there. Of course, his is a very unusual service, so it's not like one can check out others' experiences like a product sold on Amazon. And he does not claim 100% success. Cheers, Bob

Hi Friend, I understand where you are coming from. As long as you do nothing to harm your health, I'm not sure there are very many wrong turns you can take. Just stuff that might not help you reach your goal. No, I don't have a signed NDA, but that sort of misses the point. This is a customized coaching program with daily contact, usually via email, sometimes via text message. Obviously, were I to get specific with you, you'd still not have the whole program. And what works for me based on an interview with the coach before we started might not work for you. Then there is the ethical issue. While I derive no compensation from the coach, I'm just not real comfortable getting specific. And, as I mentioned, since it was and is being customized for me, its effectiveness for you might not be what you hoped for anyway. The point is that learning to wet the bed in your sleep or to become a daytime pants-wetter is not something that requires anything more than what's available on Daily Diapers in various parts of this site. Bettypooh, for example, offers great insight. That I wake up every night to wet my diaper in bed is not much of a revelation -- most could figure out that might be a good idea. I set an alarm to do that. If I wake up before the alarm and wet myself, I turn it off. In any case, I go back to sleep. That's part of what I've been doing, but it shouldn't come as much of a surprise as a technique to try. All I'm doing is trying to expedite the whole process. If that's what you want, you'll need to consider the unique service I'm using. Even with that, he claims a 70% success rate. So there is no "silver bullet" here. If you pay attention to those who offer credible information on this site, you'll like get what you want. Just be patient and enjoy the ride! Bob You nailed it. As the Fourth Doctor (Tom Baker) once said, "People often overlook the obvious." Bob

Correct. Perhaps unfortunate, but still correct. Some of us are more predisposed to becoming incontinent or bedwettters than others. There are things you can do to move the process on quite a bit. For example, getting over your fear of leaks. And persisting. But you're working to reverse training, or call it a habit, that you've been following for decades. All the physical "equipment" is there for you to void just like any other adult. Now you want it to behave in the opposite way. That's probably not the best news you could have heard, but no point in kidding yourself. I've been going 24/7 for wetting for almost six weeks. I might have had a very close call last night with wetting the bed. I'm not sure if I woke up right before I started or part way into wetting myself. But the goal is to not wake up at all. That remains to be accomplished sometime in the future. Bob

I do post a log on my blog and send it to my Twitter account, but I also update those here who are just interested in my progress. So.... Last night I woke up in the middle of the night as I was just starting to wet my diaper in bed. Whether you call that a "near miss" or a real "bedwetting accident" I'm not sure. Maybe somewhere in between. Yet it is encouraging. This is almost weeks into going 24/7 with regard to peeing. The important part, I think is that I never, ever, do anything in response to feeling the urge to pee. No "getting adjusted" or "just checking." While I have to pee, I pee. In other words, it's an "act as if so that you achieve your goal." Those who are incontinent or are real bedwetters don't have much of an option of postponing things until a more convenient time. Hence, that's part of the training I'm doing. I have noticed a couple of times that I have not noticed an urge before wetting myself during the day. Those brave souls who have trod this path before I'm sure have a lot more useful information to share if they are so inclined. What I don't do is drink huge amounts of water a half hour before going to bed. Again, the goal is to mimic a real bedwetter with a few "extras" thrown in. So far, so good. Bob

Yes, you can buy SAP from Amazon in 1 pound containers for $20.00. You can do a search at Amazon. Or you can go to my blog shown below. Iand there is an ad on most of my pages for the stuff along with other ABDL stuff. Full disclosure: I am an Amazon Affiliate and earn a bit on stuff bought from those ads. If that bothers you, just go to Amazon directly and do a search! And the creativity of this community knows no bounds. Carry on! Bob

You make a great point. A glass mason jar should do it for sure. If that leaks, then a lot of stuff our mothers or grandmothers canned should have been health disasters. Bob

I posted an article on my blog with the same title as the title of this thread, but I thought I'd post an excerpt here since I have commenting turned off on my blog. And the group here is never short or suggestions or comments on this topic. Why People Fail in Their Goal to Start Bedwetting: They do not have a workable plan. They think they can just drink a bunch of water or whatever before bedtime and it will magically start. They are not confident that their diapers will work. Or they worry about leaks. You must be 100% comfortable with wetting your bed in any position at any time, and must be completely indifferent to the possibility of leaks. If they wake up with the urge to go, they have to get themselves into position or check things out before letting go. That’s a brick wall in your progress. They give up too soon Here's the full article: http://ourbedwettingfun.com/why-people-fail-in-the-goal-to-start-bedwetting/

Keep us posted. Always eager to hear how others are doing. And there are no doubt a lot of others who do not post here who are VERY interested. Bob

For what my opinion is worth, I think you are right, my friend. And it makes sense -- muscles that are no longer used, or that are used less, get weaker. Which I think is the result we want. The other help seems to be to just ignore the whole peeing thing. Do nothing to "get ready to get wet" when you feel the urge. Just the heck with it, and let happen what will. Again, just my thoughts for what they are worth. Bob