Mark,
Your pessimism was valid. I've seen countless retreads of the same fap material posted here and elsewhere. You have no need to apologize. I know the heuristic I would have probably applied too.
What I do really appreciate is that response. It was eye opening, insightful, and just a wonderful read. Heck, it may even be one of my favorite posts I've read on this forum that I can remember - aside from the abuse you suffered. For that, you have my sympathy.
My Little Girl is most certainly all in. We've spent the past several days really defining our dynamic and establishing rules, reviewing phone apps for tasks, and in constant contact. It's amazing how convenient that is these days. Sharing everything via Google Documents and our choice out of a plethora of Task Apps. She will be tasked with asking Daddy for permission to use the potty. Given our time differences (UK for her, US East Coast for me), response times there could be detrimental for staying dry. I have created some tasks and dares, based on feedback from other forums, that she will have to play out and potentially pay the consequences for (ie wetting herself in public or private)
We haven't exactly had the conversation about messing yet. Unless she wants to bring it up, I'm quite content just visiting that conversation if the event arises, or not at all. I'm comfortable enough with the idea, but since I'm not exactly there to help with cleanup, that's a lot to put on one partner in a relationship
That last kind of play you mentioned is what really excites us both. I would never push her beyond her limits, but we will both enjoy humiliating her at her expense. Her enjoying the thrill, and me watching her desperation and reactions.