Just wanted to let you guys know that you have provided all the source material for me as I found about about AB/DL. I've still got a lot to learn, but thank you for being here and being so helpful.
For people who want to introduce this topic to someone gently, might I suggest having them read Nancy Friday? Almost everyone has some sort of fantasy or fetish, and seeing them all laid out equally can do great things for expanding the mind. There are several books, the most famous of which is 'My Secret Garden' of women's fatasies. 'Men in Love' may also be useful.