I think it's good that this question is here and all the responses followed ... showed that people really do give a damn!
I've always had a hard time dealing with this fetish (for me), sometimes wanting to hide it or forget about it, can't believe or understand why its even in my thought process ... but it is, and I've done much better with it as soon as I was willing to not stress myself out and be casual about it (have fun when I want to, not ALL the time, but whenever I want/can)
I think your best resource base is right in front of you. This site (or sort of site vs. extreme porn), the members of this site who know first hand ... you can see that many hold conversations, have pictures up, very "normal" people who have an interest in the obvious.
I think anyone can work through it just as they can work through anything. If you're helpful, open and you have open communication between you and the one involved, things will be fine.
I wouldn't stress out about it.