bobbyc

Hi, I live in New York City. I have a girlfriend but would like to meet or at least chat with anyone in the area. I've never hung out with a diaper-wearer (my girlfriend wears sometimes but mostly when we're at home).

P.S. In retrospect I don't think I would show her a website like 'adultbabysource.com' to introduce her to the fetish. There are several websites, including dailydiapers, that have a section explaining what diaper fetishism is all about to the uninformed. http://www.geocities.com/seaotter1975/ is also a good one that is more explanatory rather than graphic. You can email the guy who runs it with any questions as well and he will be more than helpful. It's a tough fetish to deal with for most and the more answers significant others have the better. Both of the girlfriends i've had whom i told did lots of research on the topic as to the psychology behind it. That was something even I had never done but am now very curious as to why I like this. The more knowledge you have the easier it will be to explain in the future.

I'm sorry it didn't go so well. I admire you, though, for telling her. I don't think I could have told anyone when I was 19. Actually, I didn't open up to anyone until I was 25, so you are at least more honest with yourself for telling her. I think you need to ask yourself how important is this fetish to you. If you are like me, and many others, diapers are a big part of who we are and we would be unhappy if we could not be honest with at least one person in our lives. It is so important to me that I can wear my diapers around my girlfriend. If I couldn't, I wouldn't have much time to wear them and I would probably distance myself from her. So, maybe it was a necessity that you told her, whether the outcome was good or bad. I hope things go well with you two but even if they don't it seems the majority of the members here have found someone who accepts this fetish. Things will work out eventually for you.

I usually end up having a wet night or two towards the two-week mark of 24/7. I've found that nighttime control is the first to go. I also notice that telling myself, right before I go to bed, that it's ok to wet my diaper, etc. really helps and generally works.

Good question. I told my current girlfriend after going out with her for about 5 months. She seemed alright with it at times (she confessed that she was a bedwetter into her teen years) but other times she would say that it's taken her 'a lot of getting used to'. She wears diapers on occasion, even in public (by my request), and has told me that she wears them on her own now and again (she bought herself a pack!). I guess all-in-all she's ok with it but I still feel self-conscious about it and won't wear them if we've had a fight or if I upset her because I just feel too vulnerable then. I suppose I feel similar to Jilly Poo in that I sometimes end up distancing myself from my gf in order to have more diaper time. I've never told her that but maybe it would help things. In the end I still need to accept who I am, completely, and be more confident about it. Cheers to the rest of you who have done so!