DBiker

Being disabled is not a job.

That's not a job. That's taking handouts from the UK government (aka benefits) while wearing nappies and contributing nothing back to society.

I'm interested to know from anyone who has followed the 12 month diaper program or worn for extended periods of time with the intention to become incontinent, how long did it take you to experience your first episode of wetting without knowing? By this I don't mean full incontinence, but rather when you still had control but first started to notice you'd occasionally be wet when you checked your diaper and not know when you'd wet. The 12 month diaper program states that "Find yourself in a wet diaper and not remember doing it" is in month 7. Is this roughly what others have found, or did this take you less or more time?

I'm in a similar situation. My wife accepts my fetish which is great, but does not like the pee side of it. For example, she has no problem with me wearing diapers (even during sex), but any hint of pee or knowing that I have peed without washing, turns her off. To be honest, I accept this and understand her feelings. If I am wearing a wet diaper and we want sex, then the only thing she asks is that I shower before we have sex. It might be an inconvenience in the moment, but a 2-3min shower is minimal compromise on my part to enjoy a happy sex life while still being able to wet my diapers. If she didn't accept my diaper wearing at all then I wouldn't have married her. It's part of me and after going through countless binge-purges as a teen, I accept fully (now in my thirties) that this fetish is going nowhere. But for her to be so accepting of my fetish with one request that I am clean before we have sex, then that is the least I can do and fully understandable.

Another thread for any diaper lovers in Nottinghamshire. Would be nice to have a meet up with guys/gals with similar interests in nappies. If anyone is particularly interested in hiking (peak district)/motorbike rides then message me

Your surgeon will try to give you the least side effects and complications as possible (including incontinence etc) regardless of what you say. This is not only for good medical practice, but also to reduce the risk of medico legal litigation against the surgeon. Good luck with your surgery.

^^ Would love to see your design Paul

I honestly hope you DO understand how incontinence would stop someone enjoying life, because hopefully you understand that not everyone lives your life or wants to live your life. Incontinence can make things harder and more inconvenient, thereby making the things you enjoy in life more difficult and less enjoyable. Not everybody lives your life. Some people live very sociable, active and ambitious lives, and I find it surprising how you cannot understand how being incontinent would stop people from enjoying their lives to the full. Maybe you do have a super sociable and very active life and you just have a different mindset to most people. Are you saying if the football player Ronaldo became incontinent he should just get over himself and run around the pitch for 90 minutes in a nappy? You can't see how him going to wear a nappy on his beach holidays in the public eye would stop him enjoying his life? Let's tame it down a bit, how about any regular sane minded person who enjoys beach holidays...Wearing a nappy still has a stigma attached to it and therefore will attract public attention if not well concealed. Maybe you don't care about this but most people do. How about a young guy/girl in their twenties or thirties going out with friends or trying to date someone. You think everyone they meet is going to say 'oh you wear a diaper, that's cool'. How about people that like hiking/mountaineering like myself. You think I am able to carry a case of Tena Maxi with me on a 7 day trip? Think outside the box and appreciate there are millions of people who do not live your lifestyle and their 'enjoyment' in life depends on different things to yours which wearing nappies would definitely impact on.

I can agree with what most people have said here. I feel that wanting and then getting true urinary incontinence is a bit like having your favourite meal every day. It tastes great at first, but after a while it becomes old and tiresome. Although I don't deny that some still love every minute of it. Sadly, like many on here, the desire to be incontinent - or at least experience it - is very strong and hard to suppress. The cons of being incontinent by far outweigh the benefits. As far as I can see the ONLY benefit of being incontinent for me is that it fulfils my desire to wear which gives me happiness. It is a very fine balance of weighing up this happiness that wearing brings compared to the negatives it brings. After a few weeks of wearing 24/7, the happiness that wearing brings me starts to fall and no longer outweighs the negatives, so I stop wearing. The negatives are pretty huge for me - my work does not allow me to have a bag with me at all times, so going off to get a bag with spare supplies to then go to the toilet and then drop my bag off would not be feasible, I would not want to be incontinent when I have kids, being incontinent would make it very difficult to relax on beach/pool holidays, diapers are uncomfortable on long hikes, the heat around my private parts generated from wearing is uncomfortable at times and evidence has consistently shown that consistently raised testicular temperature will reduce fertility - something I do not want to risk for a fetish. I get paranoid about urine odour, which even with good hygiene, regular changes and drinking lots of water, I can still occasionally faintly detect. Then there is the cons of not being able to wear the good fitting clothes I like due to them being unable to conceal any diaper bulge/outline. Maybe it's because I have a pretty fast, active, ambitious life that make the negatives stand out. If I was an introvert in a low skilled job with minimal ambition in life then yes, wearing 24/7 would probably be very easy for me. Would wearing 24/7 stop me from doing anything? Probably not, but it would make most things more difficult for me. Still though, despite all these negatives, I can't stop wanting to wear diapers 24/7 to at least experience incontinence. I somehow convince myself that if I don't experience it now when I have the chance then I will regret it later in life. I have experimented with catheters before but like others find these uncomfortable and too high risk. I feel the best option would be to persevere for 1-2 years and experience some degree of urinary incontinence and then try to retrain my bladder and go back to normal so that I have 'got it out my system' so to say. If there was a pill I could take to stop liking diapers I would probably take it. I stopped the binge purge cycles many years ago an now accept that this is a fetish I have for life and nothing will change that. I can explain to you what I like about wearing, but cannot explain to you how this fetish came about. The one thing I like about these forums is that it is nice to hear from other people who also have such strong desires to wear 24/7 but refrain from doing so because of the negative impact this would have on their life. To NYJoe, I am really sorry to hear about your accident.

Hey, I'm also living in Nottingham. Would be cool to meet a man/woman around the same age with similar interests. Would also be nice to meet couples with the same interest.

Hey, i've been visiting this site for over 10 years and finally decided to make an account. I'm a heterosexual male looking for DL guys/girls to hang out with in the Midlands area. I'm currently living in Nottingham. Would be great to hang/meet with someone who's interested in motorbikes and up for some trips around the peak district. PM me/reply to this thread if interested.