[Turning a corner]

On 8/28/2023 at 9:20 AM, nappy-cub said:

Thank goodness you were well padded! Were you aiming for an uncontrolled wetting? Several users has commented how they'd like to become incontinent.

When you get older nature sometimes just takes its own course. It's not a matter of aiming for it.

[how were your parents]

On 10/29/2018 at 2:09 PM, WBxx said:

Dad didn’t seem to care, mom was just the opposite.  As time passed she became more and more frustrated with my bed-wetting.  When I was still young, perhaps four, she stopped changing my bed during the night making me lay in it till morning.  On top of that she scolded and even spanked.  And yet a part of me enjoyed the whole thing … hard to figure.

My mother took care of the discipline for it. My father was against diapers for overage wetting so around 8 or 9 I just woke up in wet pjs and sheets. I was shamed and spanked too. I learned that if I cried at the breakfast table when I woke up wet my mom would go easy on me. I had to start taking care of my own wet bedding and pjs into puberty and by that point the spanking stopped. I made sure to keep the rubber sheet on my bed until I was 17 even after the frequency of my bedwetting decreased.

[How often do you wet the bed]

2 hours ago, Craig said:

Never went to any sleepovers or camps, so that wasn’t an issue.

My parents also gave up, but did so when I was is the early years of school. After all, what do you do after restricting fluids in the evening, watching the diet, etc? There were no meds to try back then. Or, at least I never tried any if there were prescription meds to help.

Interesting how some of the same themes appear in most of our stories and histories.

I went to summer sports camp at 14 because I convinced my mom I had control over my bedwetting. Well I didnt and ended up wetting the bed. It wasnt my finest moment.

As for medications, your about the same age I am and maybe a little younger. I was put on a drug called amyltriptilyne (spelling?). Its usually used as an antidepression med and has been around since the 1950s but has alternative uses like for bedwetting in children and young adults. I took it for maybe a year and didnt like it because it made me feel lethargical and dehydrated. It did reduce the bedwetting but isnt a cure because wetting at night returns when you go off of it. I suspect they have better meds available these days.

[How often do you wet the bed]

On 7/5/2023 at 11:53 PM, Nancy2 said:

My husband is the bedwetter and I diaper him every night before bed.  He very seldom wakes up in a dry diaper.

Did you know he was a bedwetter when you married him and how did you react if you did? I remember reading an advice column a few years ago where the columnist addressed the issue of newlywed women finding out their husbands were bedwetters. Most apparently weren't happy about it at all. My bedwetting largely cleared up by my early 20s after I (mostly) stopped drinking. I had a gf later in my 20s and wet our bed one night after I was out drinking with some of the guys from work. My gf was furious at me. After that if I was drinking I had to sleep on small single bed we put against the wall at the far side of the bedroom. "And you have to clean it up!" she said to me. We stayed together for about a year.

[Causes of overage and adult bedwetting]

1 hour ago, stevewet said:

I was a chronic nightly bedwetter growing up. The trouble was I just didn't care. My bedwetting didn't bother me. I just slept in it until morning. My folks eventually gave up trying to get me dry at night and it was just accepted I wet the bed and probably always would. 

By my teens I was actually enjoying my bedwetting and made no effort to become dry at night. I know with a little effort I could have beaten it when I was about 13 as I started waking needing to pee. I was so used to a wet bed I just peed my bed and went back to sleep. I did this every time I woke needing to pee and soon I was wetting in my sleep again. 

I don't know for certain but I have a feeling my mother knew I wet the bed deliberately but she never said anything. Anyway by the time I was 14 I was wetting in my sleep again more often than not. I never really knew why I wet the bed but knew I didn't want to be dry at night. Somehow being a bedwetter felt right and being dry was alien to me and I just didn't want to be dry at night.

I got dragged off to the family doctor when I was 15 following my mother's final attempt to get me dry at night.  She demanded something done. I was refered to the fledgling NHS continence service. The nurse arranged for me to get adult nappies and a "sandra" mattres cover for my bed.  No cure for my wetting was offered just a better way of managing it. 

After that I was expected to deal with it my self and nothing much was ever said. My folks split when I was 18 and my mother had no interest whethervzI wet the bed or not. I continued to wet more often deliberately but still in my sleep as well and finally became dry at night just before my 22nd birthday.

 

Did your parents make you use protection for bedwetting when you were young or did you just pee your pjs and sheets like I did? I wet deliberately in my teens too but mainly to keep the rubber sheet on my bed because it was like a security blanket for me. A counselor I had to see years later told me my post-puberty bedwetting including deliberate bedwetting was "attention seeking" behavior that was likely caused because I grew up in a big family and had other bedwetting siblings including an older brother who got more attention than I did. As for your mother having no interest after your parents split up Im not surprised. I helped a friend coparent her son for a year after her marriage split up. She was dealing with a messy divorce and custody battle while undergoing medical treatment for a serious condition and needed somebody to be at home during the week to get her son up, feed him and get him to school in the morning so I offered to stay over an do it. I quickly realized he was wetting the bed but she was oblivious to it. 'I thought he stopped that a couple years ago' was all she said when I told her. I bought a mattress protector for his bed and overnight pullups and I believe his bedwetting stopped several months later. My friend lost the custody case and she moved away to live with her mother so I lost contract both with her and her son.

[Bedwetting/accident chart]

On 8/8/2020 at 10:17 AM, WBxx said:

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again.  Purposely wetting the bed to retain your rubber sheet was ingenious.  Not as smart, I lost mine (mom removed) long before I was ready to give it up.

I had to do my own laundry starting when I was 14. But I still had to report when I wet the bed. I seldom went dry for more than a couple weeks before the rubber sheet was used for its intended purpose even though by then I was having real accidents only once every few months. I remember begging my mom not to put me down as a bedwetter when I was sent to summer sports camp at 14. I believed I could control it but then I ended up wetting the bed at camp.

[Bed Wetting Families]

On 9/6/2023 at 1:15 PM, WBxx said:

Wetting the bed bothered me to the extent it might result in a tongue lashing or spanking.  Despite that, as far back as I can remember, part of me enjoyed bedwetting even doing it on purpose.  Fairly sure mom knew.

Growing up my friends wanted to be older so they could stay up late, drive a car, etc.  Not me, I dreamt of the day I’d have a place of my own to wet my pants and bed at will without repercussions.

I didn't like being lecture or spanked for it either. Because of the advice of a counselor to my parents after I got into trouble the spanking at least stopped when I got into puberty. But I always wanted to keep the rubber sheet on my bed and did whatever it took to make sure that happened. I was on my bed until I was 17.  

[Dealing with smells.]

On 8/9/2023 at 7:05 PM, diaperuser said:

The person was over a month on the sheets that they had been wetting every night 

I did that to a mattress when I first moved away from my parent home. I was drinking almost every night after work back then and completely ruined the mattress is my small apartment. It was extremely stained on both sides because I kept flipping it over to try to dry it. I had to replace it after a few months and then started using a waterproof mattress cover and then only had to worry about washing the sheets.

[Bed wetting]

On 9/4/2023 at 8:09 AM, stevewet said:

The first thing Is to find out why all of a sudden you are incontinent and enuretic. Although I wet the bed in to my 20s it is not considered normal and could e symptom of an underlying problem.

This is true. Anybody who develops urinary IC after not having it for many years should always see a doctor. It could be a sign of something more serious. I was mostly dry at night by my late teens but after I moved out of home and started drinking a lot my bedwetting returned. It took a few years to deal with it but the main thing I had to do was get the drinking under control. After that I was dry at night for at least two decades.

[I wonder just how many adults do actually wet the bed]

5 hours ago, stevewet said:

I often wonder just how many of us there are. The continence nurse I see periodically says it is more common than you would think.

According to a recent Time article called 'The Shame of the Adult Bedwetter' about 1 to 3 percent of adults in the U.S. wet the bed. I have read other estimates of 1 to 2 percent.

[Bisex]

On 6/28/2022 at 5:38 PM, WeaselDiaperBoy said:

I mostly do kink play involving ABDL themes along with spanking and I am curious about anal play. For play, it doesn't matter to me if the partner is male or female. I am not interested in sex with women now, and I am not interested in sex with most men, but there are definite exceptions. So, gay? Bi? Confused?

I think that after a while where fetishes are involved the gender of your partner is less important. If I find a partner whose into the same kink scenes I am Im not really very picky about gender. Mind you as you age actual sex tends to be far less frequent. I now call myself asexual even though Im probably not. My fantasies and porn preferences tend to be for hetero situations but in real life Ive been more diverse. Early in my adult life I figured out that gay guys tended to be more open to experimenting with lots of things. A gay guy introduced me to adult disposable diapers which he wore 24/7. So Id say that you like me are probably bi. Your not confused unless you dont know what you like.

[Has being a bedwetter held you back.]

It did when I was younger and I had to get it under control in my 20s just to have a dating and sex life. Now I'm a retired older guy so it doesn't hold me back at all.

[Causes of overage and adult bedwetting]

1 hour ago, Little Sherri said:

It's an interesting question - two questions, really, because of the inheritability aspect, and the stress aspect. 

As to heritability, I can comment first hand on that. I don't know of anyone in my ancestry who was an accomplished and inveterate bedwetter, like I was as a kid, but people tended not to talk about those things as much back then.

I think heredity related bedwetting is fairly common. In our family it was on our father's side. I grew up in a family of seven kids and four were overage wetters, three boys and one girl. We had a cousin in his teens from my father's who stayed with us for several months and he wet the bed literally every night. Mind you he was staying with us because of disruption in his family so it may have caused by both heredity and stress.

Back when I was growing up we didn't have "products" to make bedwetting more comfortable, or at least we didn't have products that we were aware of. At a certain age we were just switched from cloth diapers to having to sleep with a rubber sheet and absorbing pad on the bed. My father felt diapers made it too easy to keep on wetting once we reached a certain age.

[Causes of overage and adult bedwetting]

I often wonder about this because I grew up in a chaotic environment in a big family with an alcoholic mother. There are theories about emotional stress leading to overage and adult bedwetting but there's also fairly strong evidence that it's often an inherited condition. Or maybe both combine to make it more severe? I know there's an inherited aspect in my family that seems to affect mainly males. But during puberty and beyond I developed an attachment to it and to my rubber sheet, which became like a security blanket that i didn't want to give up. I wonder what the experiences of others on here is, especially where they believe emotional stress led to bedwetting.

[Alcohol and bedwetting]

10 hours ago, babykeiff said:

This also gives the reason for the hangover - dry mouth, headache and oversensitivity to touch, sound and light (due to low body water content / balance). These symptoms also occur in the case of heat stroke / severe dehydration.

Alcohol does not interfer with an anti-duretic hormone, and the one you are referring to is vasopressin. It does overload the bladder due to ones over production of water as a dilutant to the alcohol - as a result, the vaspressin effect of reducing water production is cancelled.

As a result, if one indulges / overindulges in alcohol, one will pass out and, will wet themselves while alseep. If one has a prediliction to wearing diapers and wetting same, this is almost guarenteed, although there are some exceptions.

I don't mean to be rude about it, but I think antidiuretic hormone and vasopressin are the same thing. According to the U.S. National Institutes of Health "As most investigators now agree, increasing urine flow results from alcohol's acute inhibition of the release of antidiuretic hormone (ADH), a hormone also known as vasopressin." 

Alcohol may well be a poison to the body but it's one that's generally expelled within a fairly short period of time. I think moderate alcohol use is okay for most adults. I had a problem with drinking way too much when I was younger, maybe because of the trauma of growing up in a chaotic environment with an alcoholic mother. I got treatment and counseling in my 20s and even though I started drinking moderately again after several years I now pretty much know my limits. Two drinks, two pints of beer for instance, gives me a bit of a buzz that wears off over three or so hours and doesn't result in bedwetting as long as I don't drink anything within two or three hours before going to bed. Three pints is tempting fate and results in wetting about half the time. Anything more than that has an inevitable conclusion and usually results in a morning hangover, something that in the latter case usually causes me to stop after having three drinks at most.

 

[Ten years since my bedwetting came back]

On 3/23/2023 at 7:42 AM, stevewet said:

I have been wetting the bed every night now for 10 years. After the initial shock of my bedwetting coming back after a long dry spell. I soon settled back in to my soggy smelly habit. I decided not to fight it and just see how it developed. Don't ask me why but I have always liked being a bedwetter and it never bothered me even when younger.

After 10 years my bedwetting feels perfectly natural and normal for me. 

It was a bit of a shock to me when it started again after an almost twenty year period of being dry at night. I pretty much stopped drinking in my mid twenties to get my bedwetting under control. After a decade or so I started drinking very moderately again, having no more than a couple drinks and none in the three or four hours before going to bed, and this went well for quite a long time. And then in my mid forties after going to a friend's milestone birthday party where everybody was drinking heavily and I got really drunk, I woke up at about 5 in the morning soaked and I wasn't wearing protection nor did I have the mattress protected. I immediately put a vinyl cover on the mattress and stopped worrying about whether or not I'd have a dry night.

On 3/23/2023 at 12:26 PM, WBxx said:

I’m with you.  According to literature all kids who wet the bed hate it.  Not the case, far from hating, growing up part of me enjoyed my bedwetting and still does.  It defines me, makes me special.  I can’t picture life without it.

I hated wetting the bed when I was very young. It wasn't until I entered puberty that I started to enjoy it. And I didn't want to give up my rubber sheet, which I kept on the bed until I was 17. A psychology counselor later told me that because I grew up in a big family where I had to compete for attention I probably viewed wetting the bed as a way of getting attention. He told me that even negative attention is interpreted by some as being good attention.

[Alcohol and bedwetting]

It was explained to me decades ago that alcohol interferes with the production of the antidiuretic hormone that reduces the amount of urine produced during the night. So if you've already got a medical issue, have a muscle control problem or you're a deep sleeper and you're drinking alcohol you're far more likely to wake up soaked during the night or in the morning.

[Back again but I never stopped wetting]

2 hours ago, WBxx said:

If not mistaken you’re the one that purposely peed the bed so mom wouldn’t remove the rubber sheet … my hero.  Wish I’d been so smart.

And yes, the frequency of my sleep wetting has increased as I’ve grown older.  It’s to the point dry nights are few and far between.  I’m not complaining. 

You're not mistaken. I stopped regularly bedwetting at around 13 but was able to keep the rubber sheet on my bed until I was 17. My mothers rule was that after six dry months, which I think she later changed to three months, the rubber sheet would be removed. She saw that as a reward. I saw it as a punishment and made sure that I extended its use until I was 17. It was well used past 13 although by then I had to do my own laundry so I guess she probably lost interest somewhere along the way. I still got lectured though.

8 hours ago, stevewet said:

I peed the bed right in to my 20s and have been back to wetting every night again since I turned 50.

My regular bedwetting began to lessen during puberty and by 13 I had only occasional overnight accidents, although as I told WBxx above, I was able to keep the rubber sheet on my bed until I was 17. When I moved out of my parents home over a year later and was working in construction and had my own place I was drinking a lot after work and the overnight bedwetting returned. I wrecked a mattress because of constant wetting and learned to keep protection on it after I had to replace it. I had to curb my drinking just for the sake of being able to date and have relationships. But when i got older and developed health problems the wetting issues returned. I think that if overage bedwetting is a problem when you're younger it's probably more likely to return when you get older.

[What Other Fetishes Are You Into?]

1 hour ago, WBxx said:

Sounds good to me!

Like many kids that wet the bed in the 50’s I was punished and humiliated for it.  Strangely, or perhaps not, I now crave the same when it happens.

Looks like we're pretty close in age. I think it was pretty common back in the 50s and 60s to deal with bedwetting as a discipline issue. I wet the bed regularly into puberty and got punished for it.

[Growing up as a bedwetter]

1 minute ago, AbabeBill said:

Yeah, handled and view very differently. I know my mom would talk to others, not so much about me directly, but she would say how she felt about such things. And one being, if a bedwetter has diapers, they won’t stop! 🤷‍♂️

I think back then moms would talk to lots of people including neighbors about their bedwetting kids. I heard my mom discussing my issues with a neighbor one day. You know, the "one day he'll grow out of it like mine did" talk. But back then diapers weren't common at all for overage bedwetting. I remember driving on my bike around the neighborhood in the summer and seeing quite a few soiled pjs and sheets out on lines to dry. My mom hung mine on the line sometimes too when she didn't have the time to use the washer and dryer. There were probably at least ten or more homes with bedwetters within the few blocks around my childhood home. Of course it was the baby boom era so lots of homes had lots of kids.

[Back again but I never stopped wetting]

Hi to all. I just came back to this site after being off it for a long time. There seemed to be a lot of technical issues with the site in the past. Hope to reconnect with many. No, I haven't stopped peeing my bed. In fact I seem to be doing it more as I get older. Funny how that works, right? Any other on here have that experience too?

[Growing up as a bedwetter]

On 7/9/2023 at 12:27 PM, AbabeBill said:

I wet the bed on occasion till about 6, I believe. No diapers for me! It was cloth diapers back then, and my mom wasn’t going to have me still in diapers for wetting the bed. She was not a fan of washing diapers, for one thing. And both my parents thought, I wouldn’t be motivated to stop bedwetting, if I was in a diaper. I had a plastic sheet, that kept the mattress safe. And when I wet the bed, I had to get my mother up, to help me change everything. She must have really been convinced, not to use diapers, to still have to do all that extra wash, pj’s, underwear, sheets, plus the waking up in the middle of the night part. I look back on that experience, and think everyone would have been better off, if I was in a diaper and plastic pants! But they did what they thought was best. 

Just til you were 6? For me it was 13 although I had a rubber sheet on my bed until 17. I wasn't allowed to wear diapers either. My folks thought they'd make bedwetting too comfortable. I guess it's an age thing. We're both close to the same age and I think bedwetting was dealt with a lot differently decades ago than it is now.

[What Other Fetishes Are You Into?]

My fetish involves being punished, and mainly spanked, for bedwetting.

[Losing daytime control]

Managing night wetting isn't a big problem with protection but Im having a lot more problems with daytime control these days. I buy pullups and only usually wear them when I know Im going to be out for a while. But now going out even for 20 or 30 minutes is a challenge. Its now getting cold where I live - about 10 in Farenheit today - and I had to go to the store today after lunch to buy a few things. I felt fine when I left and so just had my cotton briefs on under my jeans. Once I got to the store and there was a long line for the cash I felt the 'pee dance' setting in an I tried not to be noticed. And almost no place has open bathrooms these days because of the pandemic. On the way home I wet myself, soaking my briefs and the front of my jeans and down one pant leg. I didnt even feel myself wetting until Id gone and knew I was wet. I have health problems including neurology and heart issues and take drugs for these and wonder if this is the main reason for the increasing pants wetting?

[The urge to go]

I constantly have a strong urge to go especially when Im not at home.