I'm pretty good at that is the crazy part. The last three years I have taken a week, two week and two and a half week vacation in Maui and a week in Vegas. As far as a message, I like them but only from my wife lol and I like what follows that even better lol It isn't like its constant stress, it just builds up after three or four months and frankly I can't take off on vacation every four months. The more severe incontinence only lasts two to three weeks so really over a year I may only have one or two months of incontinence that requires protection. The rest of the time I may have an occasional leak but most of the time its not enough to warrant protection. I'm just wondering if anyone has any extra insight or advice, especially before I revisit the doctor. But definitely thanks for the response and idea, it definitely sounds good, especially a diapered message but that will only happen in my fantasies lol