I don't know how long i have been lurking on sites like this always reading never posting. So very much i have learn t about this fetish and how to find a girl willing to become involved in such a thing.
First off I'm a daddy. I have little interest in wearing diapers myself and what little i do is limited to being a DL.
I have had 4 girls in my time all young 19-26 willing to be involved in AB/DL play including my current girlfriend now.
Finding a girl online...
So many thousands of guys are looking for that special girl that is on diaperspace or some other personals saying hey i love diapers. So much so that usually most of them are overrun with friend requests and offers they seem to shy away from it. Where i met two of my babygirls online is sites such as alt and collarme whilst there are again only the handful of girls there that list diapers as a fetish, so many many many girls list things that lead into AB/DL play such as role play fantasies and age play fantasies. If you find you are also a dominate male then many submissive girls are willing to let you do anything to them. Some get off on the humiliation of wearing a diaper. Some love to have a daddy and being a baby is just another aspect of that. Anyways that's a chance if you want to find someone online. The relationships i started online haven't worked out for me, we remain friends but there was unfortunately no romantic spark.
What to do, how to get your current GF inferested in diapers...
This is how i did it, its not always going to work of course you need a GF that is open minded to start with.
1. Establish that you love seeing her in cute things. This started for me by cute pale pink undies and such young looking clothes.
2. Cute nicknames. Chuck them out there and see what response you get. I started using ones such as 'baby' 'cutie' then moved onto ones such as 'huggiesbum' she did not even think twice about them. And started to like them. Any questions they ask just answer as honestly as possible, but say you enjoy calling her cute names.
3. Bring up diapers. Don't just say i like diapers. Its never going to go down well. You need more than this for girls. The why the when the how. In bed one night (it can help if you have had a few drinks together) mention the thought of it. Hey 'huggiesbum' ever thought how cute you would look in a nappy? I'd love to see it i think it would be adorable. You know how i like seeing you all cute like. Something like that opens the door very openly and doesn't at all sound too bad.
4. Getting the first diapers. If all is going well and the idea is open for further play, then a diaper such as a goodnight is a much easier and less of a shock diaper. Its still cute (after all that's what you like about them) but not real thick and overwhelming. Then move onto diapers like bambino and others. They must be cute a boring white hospital like diaper isn't going to help the cause.
5. And the biggest one ever! When you do get you GF into a nice nappy. For gods sake guys its not about you. Associate her in diapers with big intense / multiple orgasms and lots and lots of cuddles and love and your homeward bound.
6. Where to go from here? Well if you can do all that and you want to be in a diaper that conversation should go down much easier. Big warning! Girls are often attracted to Manliness. If she is in love with you as a big strong guy then seeing you a diaper or wanting to act like a baby can be a real bad thing.
7. Further warnings. Females are programmed to think diapers and babies (real babies) And that can be a very personal thing that they don't want to share with you as an adult.
I have a GF now willing to do all things Adult baby with me and that's how i did it, we have the spark on a non fetish level and now have an amazing sex life that includes role-play.
I welcome any feedback on these thoughts. Just try and be positive not negative.
Thanks