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Wow! I am amazed! since this site was ever started, it was free and no age verification was needed.... and amazingly you, sorry for the vulgar language, (AB's, close your eyes!) fuck ya!. (OK AB's, open your eyes again.) I have been into this lifestyle for many years now. I am 27, about to be 28. I think I have every right to be here, probably more than you do. I remember when this site was nothing more than pictures. I chose to not be a part of this forum for the reasons that you just proved. Your awesome! You should straight out be banned. I thought it only appropriate to reintroduce myself for the real people that are hear. You truly shame the ab/dl life. Yes I was young when I found the ab/dl lifestyle through this site. Not my fault. I stumbled upon the site and was able to bypass it with no problems. Anyone still can. Do I wish for them to change that? No! It should be upon the members to moderate. Without dd I would have never come to terms with myself.... Are you saying they are a bad thing? With out dd I would have never realized that there were others out there that were like me. and as I have said it was many years ago. I dont condone children viewing sites, but your never gonna stop them. But decent and expose the youngsters, but never punish them for being curious. You start that and the younger generations, not kids you sick fuck, but generations stop coming and learning and hearing the experiences of the elders of the community, and they become lost. As I have said I would never condone a child being introduced into the life. Plain and simple. I dont ever care for tb's. But they're are there. And somebody is going to teach them. I prefer they learn the truth. From a site that is going to screen like dd does, but never discriminize.... think before you speak

Ok I agree and disagree with all that have posted so far. A relationship is more than just a fetish, more than just sex. Yes you might have diapers in common but are you really willing to live with someone who might be a neat freak and your a slob (or vice versa)! Be open with the people that your with and you will be surprised at how many women, (and men for women) will do things to make the other happy. Especially if there is a connection. I say ride it out (no pun intended) and when the sex gets boring bring it up. Everyone has fantasies, but never push yours more than hers. Open up to her. Tell her the truth and shell like you that much more. But telling her the truth is the main point. Let her make up her mind after that. Don't push it. Just a nudge. A nudge. Every now and then. But let her take the lead. Shell be more willing to open up that way. Encourage her. But never ever push....

Baby steps mate. Baby steps. Let her take the reigns from here. Nudge but don't push. Congrats otherwise! Have fun and as it was said, save your energy until she gets home! Have loads of fun!

Hey All. Just felt like I should re-introduce myself after being away for like 9 months to a year. Ive been coming to dd for a long time. Since between the ages of 12 and 15, I think closer to 12 but cant really remember. So heres to another hello to the group! hopefully I can still be welcomed back.

So a few weeks ago, my g/f just about caught me wearing diapers.... Ok so I had a choice. Either take the diapers off, or hide the diapers. I chose to take them off. She seen the package of depends on my bedroom floor. I was really embarrassed. She asked me "Who are the depends for?" I was really caught off guard. And I told her as much. Nothing more was said until later that day. She asked me about them and I had to explain why I was into them and why I didn't tell her.... I just didn't know if she would be ok with it or not, that's why I didn't tell her right off.... We've only been together 5 months. She has since worn them for me twice. I got to diaper her both times and then we did it. I loved it. She even told me to get the "pull on kind". Ok so maybe Im wrong for doing this, but I really wanted to brag about this. Im so happy about it. Also I know it comes up on this forum quite often on how to tell an s/o. They get treated like shit for asking the question cause its already been posted. I find it quite rude of the forumers on this site to be judgemental in any case. Ive been coming here for a long time. We try for equality and yet judge the new ones that seek advice and help? Really is that who we are? Thats not what I ever dreamed of this site. Shit the first time I ever stumbled upon this site was at least 12/13 years ago. This site you to be open and willing to help answer questions. The forum came a few years ago and I became Ashamed. Everyone was so judgmental... Thats just wrong. We should be here to help everyone that visits.... help them understand.... help them with relationships... just BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER! Instead of the hatred and judgment that we receive every where else. Its not just each other though. I have been here for many years and how many of you know me or have ever spoken to me? Why are we judging when were the ones being judged? We should set the example of openess, freedom, and happiness.

I stumbled upon this site many many years ago through a watersport site... Wetset I think but am not positive. I clicked on the link and the link clicked into my head as to what I was. This was the first ab/dl friendly site I ever found and have been coming to ever since. Back then there was three female pics and that was it. It sure has expanded over the years.

I agree with WallaWalla 100%.

Ok here is my thought on this. And forgive me, for this is just my thought. Fuck Them. Im sorry to say it so harshly, but its true. Why should we put others happiness before ourselves, (and this is comming from someone who is nothing more than a hippy)? For starters, I say move out! I know how hard this can be, for the second time in my life I have to move in with my dad. Im 26yrs old! Thats where you should start. Even if you get out on your own for a year. Its a start. Second point. Its your life. You dont need someones approval for you to be happy. I know my family would never accept anything of my life, but I dont care. Its makes me happy. So if they cant be happy for me, then as previously stated, FUCK THEM! As for your mom drinking again. Its not your fault no matter what she says! It really isnt. And if you want some help to, help you understand her addiction, seek the help of either Alcoholics anonymous, or Al-anon. Obviously AA is more about the acoholic themselves, but the ones who truly beilieve in it will be more than happy to help you out. Same as al-anon. Al-anon was created for the loved ones of alcoholics/drug addicts. Seek there help. You cant change her, but your not the reason she drinks either. This I can gurantee. I dont know if alcoholism is nesacarilly a disease, I have been sober of drugs for almost ten years now. But know matter what your mothers problem is not your fault. Reach out to friends that you have, and in case may know about what you are going through. Ask their advice. Ask for their help. Dont abuse the help they offer, but turn to them. Some of my best friends when I was younger, though they didnt agree with my life, helped me out through words or housing, or even food. Some housed me for weeks at a time. I used to feel so guilty of it, but over the years I came to realize that they helped me out, because they cared about me and I didnt need to feel guilty for it, as they accepted me, for me. And in return I have housed many people in return. I "payed it forward" if you will. So if you ever need someone to lean on, and are in MN/SD, look me up. Or hell just send a message with whatever you need, if I can help, Id be more than happy too. Hope this helps you a little bit. I know where you come from. Many people do. Ask for advice and help and you shall receive the wealth of the world. You might just find the happiness you seek.

Im from the small town of ortonville MN. Where about are you from?

Im just wondering if any others out there have used cloth baby diapers as soakers? I do. I fold five or six of them together and put them i my primary diaper. Adds great bulk and super absorbency.

Hello all! I just want to introduce myself. I'm a dl. I very otherwise. Ab/sissy/sub/dom/top/bottom Etc. I am bi, or so I feel. I have been with a few men hopefully one day I get the chance to be with more. So yeah, just wanted to say "Hi". Iam from MN.

Ok maybe its just me. So shes not into the ab side, right? but you want her to be in charge, right? "Mommy" if you will. If you just want a mommy then get out. If you want to be controlled then stick with it. Shes willing to let you wear diapers? maybe for the humiliation. Maybe the rest will come. Who knows? I say if it feels right give it a shot for a few weeks, after that, if it dont feel right, say good bye, but in a respectfull way.

A "chomo" was kind of a typo, I work in a prison. It should read "Cho-mo", meaning a child molester.

Thank you for the welcome, and yes I plan on sticking around.

Ok, so I have been reading that this topic has been burned to the ground, yet people still speak of it. Its a good thing to speak of especially for anyone who is new to telling someone, so I wouldnt like to think that anyone into this lifestyle would critisize anyone for asking, which seems to be the case. I mean how often have you felt judged for being an ab/dl? Let alone to ask advice on how to tell someone close to you? And then to actually tell them knowing full well your gonna be judged? I dont like what Ive read on here from some people, about judging the topic of asking for advice on how to tell someone close to you. Where you not one of the people that has ever told someone? Dont you wish that someone might have been there to give you advice? On a subject that we all know we are judged on? I have had the luxory of being able to tell my girlfriends, and not have them freak out. In fact I was more freaked out by telling them than they were of hearing it. I didnt push the limits. I didnt ask them to participate right away. I just straight told them that I wore diapers. I enjoyed wearing. That I want them to go online, which has a vast array of info on the subject. I would go online with them. I always did stresss the fact that were not pedophiles. That were just normal people. No more kinky than someone who has a rape fantasy, (Which I have learned, many females do). I dont know how many post on here have been one that has critisized, or "Hmmmph, this is a subject thats been talked about before". Do we no longer believe in there is "no stupid queestion"? I believe in the theory of, if someone is asking, they obviously dont know. And theres no reason to give them a hard time, or to be sarcastic about it. So what they didnt read through the many posts on here. Whats the big deal? There asking for advice. Just like all of us have either hoped for or asked for at one time. My advice to anyone looking to tell someone they are with: Know your partner. Ive been with alot of people. Be up front. Just straight tell them with confidence and pride. Many want someone to particiapate right away. I was actually living with a few girls when I told them and just said, "Hey this is what im into. This is where the diapers are. Im not a freak. Im no chomo. If you want info on it then Ill give you a million websites that have the info on it. Otherwise ask. Id be more than happy to indulge. Ask away." Thats not to say when you tell them, that you should just start wearing around them or pushing for them to participate, (This is especially true when telling women.) Give them a little time to think about it, to do some research if they want. But be open. Be open to ridicule. Dont take it personally. Dont push. You should know who you are with, and how much you can trust them. The opening of bondage was kind of the same way and it is no longer that much of a taboo. Be open and honest. The main point is to not push!