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maybe i should mention....personally...i don't wear, nor do i care to ever wear....i am attracted to a grown woman who is diapered....it's usually due to the force....i am not into wearing...so my entire fetish can be lived through by simply masturbating in front of a computer...i just desire to have the occasional real world desire of diapering her before sex once in a blue moon. just fyi

I think many of you are forgetting, and it's likely bc you don't know her or I personally...which makes sense...obviously. I want to spend my life with her, it's just sex...i can jerk off at the computer if I need that "fuck" and I do not have to act it out in other ways....grown men do this thing all the time...example...always wanting a threesome and being married to a woman who doesn't want that. She is a fantastic woman, and a great friend. she just doesn't want to do my fantasy....I have to deal with that on my own.. I have appreciated the advice...but you don't just break up with someone because they don't have the same fetish desires you have...if you did, you would never have an adult relationship with anyone. you have to be compatable in way more then just sex....which we still manage to have normal, healthy routine sex as well....just somtimes I have to imagine a fantasy during to help me get off...it's just something that I need to learn to control. I want to have my desires fulfilled, but I can't expect her to do something she doesn't want to do her whole life. and pamperspete...the divorce rate is so high in this country bc most americans are fucking morons. they give up when it isn't right (as in so many of you think I should just because we aren't sexually compatable in every way). grow some balls, when you say i do, it is supposed to be forever, you are commited to stand by, respect, and love that person above your own self the rest of your life. instead people let their selfish desires and lack of long term sight get in the way of their happiness. many rush into marriage, get married bc of a kid, and yes some bc of financial security (which usually ends in a divorce anyway). you really have to be commited. but i am happy i don't have your outlook pamperspete...to be that cynical must be difficult to fall asleep at night...thinking the whole world sucks. word of advice.....optimism gives a man more power then any amount of fame, money or fortune in the world....those that have that matched with positive enthusiasm can not fail.

and if she is that easy, give me a call my friends and i always say that to each other

I like how Jim on the Office did this with Dwight and Altoids

i know the abdl community is predominetly male....does anyone know about what the percentages are?

no def not! i wouldn't use that on her. it was more of a curiosity posting...nothing I would actually ever use...or don't for see ever wanting to use.

well pamperspete...you are quite the outrageous one. and shoelessjoe....you are even worse. I love her...sex is like number 198 on our list of importance in our lives...it's an act of love between the two of us... there is a difference between fucking and love making...i make love to her...i love her. but sometimes when I am just in that horny mood...it's hard to not want to be that very dominant person. and it makes me want to take control...which she doesn't like. I'm not going to freaking mess around on the girl just because she doesn't want to do it. how simple some of you think. Our child is our blessing in life...my dream has always been to become a father...and i am lucky that I will get to have it with such a wonderful woman. I just struggle because i have some desires that I sadly enough don't get to share with her. and I don't want to hurt her by having those desires...but they don't just disapear...they remain inert. I just want to make sure I can handle our relationship with love, trust, and compatability enough to be respectful to her and her wishes as we grow old together. But I also, want to be able to pursue my wants and needs as well. In a relationship you have to put the other person above you...and your relationship above each other. and it's hard at times...thus the purpose of creating this thread.

great replies! havne't even gotten to read them all yet. no, i will not be cheating...that's about the least mature thing i could ever imagine to do. I respect her to much, as well myself, and anyone else that would be involved to ever cheat on her. I have asked her if there was a fantasy of hers that we could indulge. she doesn't really have any. the bigger issue, is that she feels degraded with the diaper thing...and it hurts her emotionally. I love her enough to not make a big enough deal about it. but it's hard, and i have weak moments where I want to suggest it, or say something about it...but all that does is upset her. I can stick with online imagination as the root for my fantasy i supposed. to me, sex is an aspect of marriage and a relationship. to me, it is an act like holding hands...and finding someone sexually compatable with you, is near impossible, especially someone that you could have a normal relationship with. I plan to let things go, and let my mind have it's fun with an online community. I don't think she would care that I am on a forum like this for example. I just think she doesn't want to be a part of it. she constantly says it makes her feel like a bad gf whenever i bring it up....which obviously she isn't....but because she doesn't just do it, she feels like she is a bad gf or something. as though not giving in is something all gfs are required to do. Which isn't the case. it hurts her emotionally to do it, i need to respect that, but it's very hard at times...especially when i know i can find girls that will indulge me in this in our area (friends that know about it). i am afraid real life play would hurt her even worse...and will not stoop to that. I plan to read the rest of the replies here soon, kind of busy haha, thanks guys!

I was referring to urinary...something that is completely temporary, and can be reversed back

speaking from expierence, i don't even notice it....my fetish doesn't really relate very well, especially when it comes to children. it's an adult woman thing only that it works for me....so diaper changes are still just gross haha

over in southeast missouri....not that far from ya

mine doesn't. very few people (other then my gf) even know it exists...and a few exs, and a few girls that have helped me

then what about the one's that are wet? or the one's on pay sites that are used frequently?

my six month pregnant gf and i have been together for over two years now. we have a great relationship etc. I am a complete dominant person sexually. she isn't as sexual as i am. for me, my dl stems from wanting to 'punish' or force a woman into diapers for a short period of time, and she may or may not have to use them. and pacifiers some what excite me sometimes. for me, the diaper thing is no different then handcuffs, or other sexually supporting items that are for dominant people. she doesn't like my fantasy, it upsets her actually. and we plan to be married next year, that means no more sexual trying with anyone else. She wishes i wouldn't even mention it, she has tried it before, didn't like it...and wants me to not mention it. So I have been respsectful to her for a long time, we also have normal sex...it isn't my only turn on, but it's my biggest one. I have over time, gotten girls to make attempts with this for me, I have very little trouble getting women, and I still haven't gotten to fully explore my fantasy. I need help on being respectful to her but still getting the sexual thrills i strive for...any advice? she knows about it, just doesn't want to be a part of it...

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that cause temporary incontinence? like for a day or two? as a side effect that is...any that can be purchased over the counter

What percentage of diaper models do you think are actually into this whole thing? there are so many different women that have agreed at some point to have photos taken of them in diapers...what percentage of those women are actually into it? and how did so many get talked into it? money?

After finishing the dishes, Rachel starts to walk back into the living room to watch some tv, not much else to do all winter. Here mom and sister immediately notice the wet diaper, but neither say a word. No point in embarrasing her. So they watch tv, after about an hour, Rachel's diaper is starting to get a tiny bit itchy. She burts out of nowhere in the middle of a commercial,"ARE YOU GOING TO FREAKING CHANGE ME?" "woah!" replied Amy. what's with the outburst? I was told that you need to wait to be changed." and with that Rachel started crying, and ran up to her room....with Amy following. "Rachel, what do you want me to do?" "Just change me and leave me the hell alone!" "Look i know this is hard, but things will be ok, and they will get better." While talking, Amy grabbed one of the diapers from the closet and starts to change her daughter's diaper again...the same way she did in the doctor's office, making Rachel roll over onto her back. "Look, i understand this is tough, and it'll be harder before it will be easier, but just do your best, know that Michelle and I are here to help you." Rachel didn't say a word, and managed to fall asleep after her mother left the room

They return home. Rachel doesn't say a single word. She goes straight upstairs feeling the bulk of her diaper underneath her jeans. and lays on her bed. She starts to cry, not really understanding why she was even crying. Rachel started to give herself a small pep talk. You can do this she said to herself. You are tough, it's only six weeks and no one else is going to know. Things will get better. You just need to tough it out, and get through it. Rachel decided to start writing in her journal what she was thinking, trying to keep it updated. It wasn't going to be easy to do all of this, and have a normal six weeks. What was she supposed to do? no sports, no work, nothing but lay around the house all Christmas diapered. Amy came up to Rachel's room. "Dr. Bennett suggested we keep your pants off when you are around the house so i can tell when your diaper needs to be changed. Are you ok with that?" "whatever mom, i'm past embarassed, i am going to tough through this and just do it. But please don't make me sit in a mess for a long time or anything, please?" "I won't baby, i am going to do what the doctor suggests and help you get through this." "Please don't call me baby." Amy smiled and proceeded to unbottun Rachel's jeans, leaving her in her white t shirt and her duckies diaper. Rachel managed to play on facebook and a few other websites. Her sister Michelle came home, went up to their room and noticed her sister sitting on their laptop at their desk....she immediately noticed the diaper and lack of pants. "Mom, told me, don't worry i am not going to make it any harder on you then it is. I will try and be helpful, and if you need anything let me know, ok?" Michelle said "Thanks." Rachel muttered, she didn't want to face her sister yet, and was too shy to speak right now. Rachel knew she had to pee, but the urge wasn't severe enough to worry about it. The girls all had dinner, Rachel barely saying a word, feeling overly exposed, she crinkled everywhere she went, she just did her best to not move. While doing the dishes, Rachel really had to pee....and decided to try it standing up...the running water helped. and she was able to after straining for awhile. It was by no means easy....after she did it, she didn't even think about asking to be changed. She just continued to wash dishes. She didn't assume she would be changed anyway. Overall Rachel is depressed at the beginning of all of this. it's a tough road, the doctor has been hoping to see this depression surface the bigger issues, but there is an understanding that it will take ample time.

I actually wish someone else could rewrite it for me...adding ideas, but someone who is a more accomplished writer...i have a long story planned out...but i don't update parts very often because i struggle with being a good writer

"Well Rachel, I can see you had success." Dr. Bennett said "Yes, it was very difficult to do, reversing the training you have had your entire life." "I can understand that, you have spent all of your life not peeing on yourself, and now you have to conciously reverse that. It will not be easy, but we are here to help you get used to it. Now your mother will change you in abuot a half an hour. I want you to get used to sitting in a wet diaper, and get used to wearing a wet one, because you will not get to always just be changed whenever it needs to be done." "ok" she replied, and with that everyone went back to their respective seats and managed to change the topic and just talk about different things. After about a half an hour Dr. Bennett looks at his watch and says "ok, Amy, you can change Rachel now." Amy reaches into her purse, grabs another diaper and some wipes and asks Rachel to lay down. She lays down on the floor, in front of the doctor and just lays her head back looking up to the ceiling. Not sure what to think. Amy gets on her knees, and starts to untape the soiled diaper. Pulls the front down and starts to wipe her daughter. Picks up Rachel's legs and slides the old diaper out and slides the fresh one under her. Rachel immediately notices the difference between both diapers. Amy expertly tapes up the new diaper and they wraps up the old one and puts it into an old wal-mart bag. "Now you will also need to get used to pooping in them over the next six weeks. You can not use the restroom at all. Sometimes you will have to use your diaper more than once, and sometimes you will make a mess and have to deal with it." Dr. Bennett said "Amy, if Rachel has not had a BM in her diaper after Tuesday give me a call and we can schedule another appointment. In the mean time, do your best to keep her diapers clean for her and every once in awhile let her sit in a wet diaper to get used to it. Thank you guys." And with that Amy and Rachel leave their doctor's office. Rachel remains very quiet. Feeling overly exposed and unhappy, embarrased and degraded. She doesn't think she is going to like this diaper vacation very much.

any more upsdates coming?

Sunday Sunday morning Rachel wakes up with a very major need to use the bathroom. She immediately is regretting accepting the doctor's suggestion so easily. She didn't really think very well through the idea of doing this. and now, here she was stuck, wearing a diaper under her sweat pants and a pink t-shirt....and she had to use her diaper like some child. It was a way worse fate then she imagined originially. Thank God the doctor's appointment was in 30 minutes. She cleaned herself up a little bit, but didn't bother trying to shower or change clothes. She grabs a quick bite to eat and is off with her mother to meet the doctor who did this to her. Rachel has made minimal contributions into her journal, and all are very brief, but she also isn't fully sure what she is supposed to say. She hates this, has to pee, feels socially concerned, is very aware of her diaper, and feels above all else incredibly embarrassed. She wants to change the plan and try something else. As they pull up to the doctor's office, Rachel is starting to bounce a little from needing to go. Amy brought a couple of extra diapers in her purse. wasn't sure if she needed to but assumed they would learn a lot more today. Doctor Bennett, the phsycologist who made this suggestion was waiting, his practice was empty as he had made this a special appointment. The come into his office, and sit down, all three of them. "Well Rachel, how are you doing?" "Been much better." "Are you wearing the diaper?" "Yes, and I need to go, but I doubt I can in a diaper. I just don't think I can do it." "Well that's very common. You have spent 16 years knowing not to pee on yourself. and now you are supposed to try to reverse that training, and that is difficult to try to do. But you will need to for this to work." "Well Dr. Bennett, I was hoping we could try something else." "Nothing else is going to get down to the trauma that I want to expose with you. I stand by my recomendation, but of course, you are not forced to do anything. I believe it will be the best thing for you though. And am positive that you will thank me for it when we are done." Amy interjected, "I have remained very quiet on everything to this point, but I feel I should speak up. Rachel, you haven't been the same girl for a long time, I assumed much of it was puberty, but I didn't know what was really going on. I am excited about us bonding more over this break, you will be home more, and I believe the man with all the plaques on the wall when he says he can help you. I am going to do whatever I can to help you, but I am strongly suggesting that we do this." Rachel replied slowly, "we can do it, I am just having a hard time accepting it and understanding it." Dr. Bennett quickly replies with, "Well right now, we are going to do something to help that. You can chose to keep your mother in the room if you would like, but it will be something that will make you very uncomfortable at first." "Mom, how about just doctor Bennett and me for whatever this discussion may be?" "Ok dear." With that Amy leaves the room and doctor Bennett gives her a document stating the process better Below is the document he gave her 'There are many reasons why teenagers may have difficulty with using diapers, whether the trouble is simply wearing the diaper, or using it. Obvious social concerns arise when teens are forced to wear and use diapers; as well as the feeling that privacy and control are being seriously infringed. Different situations present different difficulties. Hopefully, these techniques will help most circumstances. The specific problem to be addressed is how to deal with teenagers who refuse to use their diapers. This problem applies more to teens who, for one reason or another, have been put into diapers recently, and have not used diapers for the better part of their life. Certain aspects of this particular technique can be personalized and adapted to fit your situation whether it be punishment, need, or fun. Note: It is important to know your teen when making decisions regarding his diapering. Most importantly, diapering decisions affect her health Determining if This Method is Appropriate: This method is successful for encouraging stubborn teenagers to relieve themselves in their diapers. The importance of this is self-evident. However, this method is not appropriate for treating medical conditions that might be impairing the teen from voiding. First we must establish that the problem is simply your teen not being cooperative. Commonly, this condition occurs in teens immediately, or a few days, after the first time the teen is put back into diapers. The teen might exhibit defiant behavior or simply vocally refuse to use the diapers. If such behavior is observed, it may be assumed that the problem is a conscious defiance on the part of the teen. Over the course of three or four days observe your teen’s behavior and diaper use patterns. Feed the teen plenty of healthy food. Three meals a day at least, with several snacks. Also, be sure the teen is consuming lots of water. If after four days the teen has not had a bowel movement something is out of the ordinary. If, after the course of your observation you conclude that the teen is not consciously refusing to use the diapers a trip to the doctor is in order. Encouraging Your Teen to Wet: For most people, wetting pants is not fun. It is perfectly understandable why a teen would not want to wet a diaper, and then sit in it until it is changed. Unfortunately for the teen, this is what must happen. Luckily for us, encouraging your teen to wet is not terribly difficult. The recipe for a wet diaper is simple, and fast acting. This method adds several elements to further the effects so that the teen is more readily cooperative in the future. If she has not wet her diaper yet, this will be a memorable experience. If the teen has wet the diaper, but has for some reason decided to refuse further wetting, this method should be effective in persuading cooperation. The method has three parts which are easily adapted to a wide range of situations. The first part is a simple communication session between you and the teen. Next, she will consume a great amount of fluid, and finally wet. Finally, from the time of wetting, she will record her thoughts in a journal. At the end of the treatment, another communication session will occur. Let’s go into detail with an example: Jamie is a fourteen year old girl who has been put into diapers as part of a recommended treatment for her occasional bowel accidents. She has visited several specialists who have all agreed that the problem is not medical, but rather psychological. Now that Jamie has been in diapers for a day, she is refusing to wet. The decision is reached that it is a conscious decision; Jamie is called in for a talk with her mother and I. Jamie is required to sit in a chair wearing only her diaper while we talk with her. Over the course of thirty minutes we indirectly gather the following information: · How much fluid has been consumed · How is she dealing with diapers · Are the diapers comfortable · Has she felt the need to wet · Is she having any difficulty using the diapers · What are her thoughts about her mother putting her in diapers In Jamies’s case, she has shown clear resentment towards her mother at being placed in diapers. She finds them disgusting, and refuses to wet them. Also, she feels that it is unfair for her to have to use them. Her mother has been giving her caffeinated fluids (caffeine is recommended as it is a reasonably efficient diuretic). Over the course of these two days she has consumed enough liquids for us to assume she is becoming reasonably uncomfortable and her posture reaffirms our assumption. At this point Jamie is comfortable wearing just her diaper (this is necessary, as the wetting must occur while she is wearing only a diaper), and I begin to explain to her the procedure. I explain that she will be: · Allowed to wet her diaper here, free from any real-world consequences. · She should look upon this opportunity to explore what it is like to wet and wear a wet diaper · She will keep a log of her thoughts throughout the procedure. · Finally, I reassure her that she has all the time she needs to wet her diaper, and that she will be given as much time as she wants afterward to explore her wet diaper. After we have talked about the procedure and I am sure she understands, she is given a notebook and a pen, and one last soft drink that has a mild diuretic (not necessary, just speeds up the process). I tell her to knock on the door of the room when she has wet and I offer to let her choose whether her mother stays during the first session. She chooses no, so her mother and I both exit the room. After about fifteen minutes we hear the knock and reenter the room to find her diaper is indeed wet. She is told that she can have as much time as she wants with her diaper, but that eventually she should start writing in the journal before her memory fades. This turned out well, and she is required to keep her journal as a reminder. The method allowed her to become much more comfortable wetting her diaper, and her treatment has since ended. Things to keep in mind: Keep the atmosphere non-confrontational. Allow it to be an exploration session, and less of a punishment. Be sure that she realizes that the journal is for her benefit and not for yours. Remind her that she has enough time to explore what she needs to. Also, be sure she remains in the diaper at least thirty minutes. Dealing with a Teen who Won’t Mess: Compelling a teen to mess a diaper is much more difficult than encouraging them to wet. Quite simply because wetting is much for immediate, and cannot be held for over several days without intense discomfort. Bowel movements however are not naturally as urgent, and can be put off up to weeks with only mild discomfort. This method is similar to that used in the wetting method, however, the use of over-the-counter medication is encouraged. With the use of outside chemicals, much more care must be used. If any substantial side effects result, you must consult a doctor immediately. At any rate, the three steps are the same, so I will not detail them with an example. However, more detail about the method of invoking a bowel movement is important, more information concerning the communication sessions, and an example journal will be included. Methods of Encouraging a Bowel Movement: If it is decided that the teen will not mess of her own accord, it will be difficult to persuade her to. The immediate expulsion is not nearly as important as convincing the teen of her need to mess her diapers. For this reason, this method recommends the use of Liquid Glycerin Suppositories as a way of encouraging a bowel movement, and reinforcing the need of further bowel movements. Obviously, if she has not had a bowel movement for four days, the resources are present for one, and the need of one exist. As a result, the effect of the medication will be even more memorable. Because this treatment is delivered anally, the impression will be heavy on the teen, and as a result communication beforehand is important. Like before, it will be important to discuss how the teen is dealing with being in diapers, and her diaper use patterns. But after the chitchat, it is important for you to explain that she will be given a little medication and that it is similar to an enema. Be sure that she understands the treatment, and how she will be expected to mess afterward and record in her journal. Use very gentle words, and try to ensure that the teen is not nervous. Inform her that she may feel some discomfort as a result of the treatment, but that everything will feel better when she uses her diapers. Be sure to over emphasize the “relief

Rachel just laid there, covering her eyes. Trying to not bring any attention to what was just done. There she was laying in a diaper for the first time since she was a child. The entire thought of it all mad her incredibly uncomfortable. The emotions that she had were mixed. Mostly embarrasement with a hint of uncomfortableness. She was wearing her white t-shirt, and a diaper, a fu(king diaper. and she couldn't believe it. and her mother, of all people is the one who had to put it on her! Amy left the room....leaving Rachel alone to sit there and try to feel comfortable on her own....but not before saying. "and remember, you need to use those things, no bathrooms for you for six weeks baby. Just come get me when you need to be changed and we can change you." Rachel didn't say a reply. What a humiliating thought. To have to wet and mess herself. Granted she had already done that, but now to have to do it whether she could make it or not. Difficult thing to accept. The doctor told her to keep a journal. Not for the doctor's sake, but for Rachel's. And that he would review it. Write down your thoughts, emotions, what you go through and whatever you are feeling. Get to know the diaper, and get to know what her emotions will be through it all. So Rachel got out her journal. 'Well I just got diapered for the first time. That word diaper now has a whole new meaning to me. The diaper itself is fairly uncomfortable. It's thick and crinkles everytime I move. I can't imagine trying to cover it up. There will be no point in even trying. I feel humiliated but am also slightly optimistic. If this helps me out in the long run, then who knows, it could be kind of fun. I can't imagine actually using them. But I also will not cheat. But I don't want to have to sit in my messes any longer then I have to. I don't like the diaper, I felt like I was a two year old having my mother put a diaper on me. I don't resent her, but I didn't like that feeling.' And with that Rachel found some sweat pants and put them on and laid in bed to watch a movie and fall asleep. Michelle came home much later in the evening, and went straight to bed, no words exchanged. Saturday morning Day 2 Rachel was happy to not need to go to the bathroom when she woke up. She didn't normally use the bathroom until later in the day anyway. And would do her best to have as few 'accidents' as possible. She put her hair up into a pony tail and went into the kitchen to get some breakfast. She chose a very very light breakfast, in order to try not to have any messes or accidents. The whole day was rather uneventful. Rachel stayed in and tried to remain lazy, was on the computer a lot, and played a lot of games and just did her best to ignore her diaper status. Michelle had to work all day, and wasn't really around. The only words they exchanged were in passing, Rachel was pleased with this. She didn't need anyone adding to her embarrasement. Amy worked Saturday morning until noon, when she got home asked politely if Rachel needed a change, she said no and it was left at that. Saturday evening, Rachel felt a growing need to pee. But was determined to hold it. and wasn't going to wet until she was just going to explode. She bounced around a little and went to sleep as early as she could. Amy thought maybe she had snucked in a trip to the bathroom at some point, wasn't going to push anything, especially since they would be meeting with the doctor the next morning.

I know my replies are short, I am having a hard time writing out my thoughts on this story and giving it enough time to complete...so lil by lil we will get there