Chippy

To be honest I don't know that too many of us will be sad if DS doesn't come back. Last time they went offline for weeks (about a year ago) I started making a brand new, from the ground up, site to replace it for the community. Then of course it came back up and everyone just went right back to it. Well this time I can't say I picked up where I left off, but I have started a whole new base for the site. As of right now there's not much to see, but I do have a progress update page/blog set up where you can all follow the progress as I work on the site and even participate in beta testing it when the time comes if you're interested. I have my contact info on there for any who want to make comments/suggestions on what they read. And of course backlinks to DD for ya Di http://www.abdltown.com/

For starters you should definitely make sure you understand not only what she is ok with, but what she is certainly not ok with before going in. I've found over the years that when it comes to fetishes, there is definitely no second chance for a first impression with most people, and the best way to insure she'll never do it again is by making the experience anything less than enjoyable for her. So make sure you know what she does not want to do, or is not entirely comfortable doing, and steer clear of those activities. If she's exploring the AB/LG side of things, then I would certainly diaper her like she was just that. If she's just going to try wearing a diaper, stay clear of anything AB/LG related unless she's open to exploring it. The best way to be successful with this is to change her perception of what's going on. Don't make it "your fetish" that you're pushing on her, instead make it "a fetish" that the two of you can explore together. Talk to her about the lifestyle, the different types of fetish roles, etc. I would even go as far as showing her a bunch of different diapers and letting her pick out the ones to order for her to try. If she feels like the two of you are exploring this together, she's going to be a lot more receptive to it, and letting her have the choices along the way will help to reinforce that. When it comes to the actual play, since you're not a daddy/mommy normally, just think of how you would want to be treated and do that for her. All along the way you need to make sure you're not insisting or pushing any issues surrounding this. Let her make the choices along the way and then treat her with the love and care you would want. As for wetting. Make sure you discuss that with her before you start the play. You should obviously start her in a dry diaper. Although it is possible to enjoy a wet diaper, it is a really strange feeling for people who aren't already used to it. Your best bet is to let her stay in a dry diaper for a couple of hours. You may even consider wearing one with her to help her feel ok about the situation so she's not the only one diapered. If she is open to the idea of at least trying to wet herself, you can wet with her, or at least offer to change her if she feels uncomfortable with the sensation of a wet diaper. You may also want to mix some intimacy with the process of wetting or after. Maybe have her sit on your lap and you can put your arms around her while she relaxes and wets or something. When she's done you could kiss her neck or something of the sort and check her diaper, which will in turn cause some movement and light pressure on her genitals. Combined with the warm, moist feeling of the diaper that can actually be more than enough to arouse her slightly. The idea is not to engage in sexual activity, but to stimulate arousal by hormones and intimate contact. This will cause her to associate those feelings with the experience and result in a better chance of her being receptive to a repeat performance. If she is against the idea of wetting, you could always simulate the feeling for her with warm water. After she's been diapered for a few hours, you can untape it, and gently and slowly pour warm water (obviously check the temp so it's not too hot or too cold) over her genitals and into the crotch of the diaper. Pouring it over her genitals will create a pleasant sensation for her and that will help improve her receptiveness. Make sure you don't use too much water. About 8-10oz should be more than enough. You don't want the diaper to be flooded, just warm and wet like it would be if she just peed. Once you tape it back up, you can gently rub her crotch and encourage her to feel it herself. Again adding to the stimulation of the experience. At any rate, just make sure you do everything you can to make it enjoyable and sensual for her. That's the best way to success And for those who may be wondering what my credentials are for this: The first girlfriend I ever tried to introduce to this, was not receptive, but I was young at the time. Once I gained an understanding of psychology, I refined my approach. Since then I have had 5 girlfriends (and one female friend) who had never even heard of this before. All 5 were introduced to this by me and me alone using a very similar approach to what I gave you. Three of them ended up liking the DL side of things and just enjoyed wearing, using, and having sex in diapers. The other two ended up liking the AB/LG side of things, and allowed me to be their daddy for the duration of the relationship. Our relationships ended due to issues outside of the fetish, but to this day three of them still buy, wear, and use diapers regularly as they came to enjoy the experience.

I'm on the do not call list... but prior to that... I used to talk to them for about 5 minutes and express a really strong interest in whatever it was they were selling, then tell them I had another call but if they would hold on I would be right back... I'd mute the phone and see how long they stayed on the line before hanging up lol

Well actually from what I know about this BB system that's being used, when a thread/post is deleted on here it is actually wiped from the database completely. Locking/unlocking etc uses a simple boolean value entry on the database. So that being said, I've never in my years of working with databases seen corruption where an entire row of the database was the only thing lost lol Sadly from what I know about this system, I also don't think it keeps a log of mod/admin activity. So the only real way to find out would be to check the server logs, find the IP who logged in and accessed the page to delete the thread, then compare that to a list of the mods IP addresses maintained either in the sortware (if it keeps them) or in the server logs themselves. Which makes hunting the person down a real hassle lol I honestly don't care about it enough to have Di rummaging through server logfiles to find the culprit at this point. Once the site is up and running I'll just start up a new thread here. I wrote down most of the details that were discussed in the thread. The only reason to really continue the search is if you want to find out who did it and why so you can take appropriate action, but I've got too much work to do on the site to really care about someone yanking a thread off the forums here anymore

Yeah I know it's possible for errors to occur, but I've also been doing this long enough to know that one thread doesn't just *poof* out of a database on it's own lol Which means that one of the mods (who are the only ones with permission to delete an entire thread like that) must have deleted the thread. As for the forum software being used, deleting a post means clicking a little "Delete" icon/button looking thing on the actual post. Deleting a thread on the other hand, means going to the forum view, checking a box on the thread, and scrolling to the bottom to click the delete option. Very very different processes So I find it very hard to believe someone "accidentally" deleted the entire thread as you'd have to either be 1 drink shy of a death from alcohol poisoning... or have the IQ of a jar of mayonnaise that sat on a counter for a week... and in the event of the latter... you wouldn't even be a mod here... and in the event of the former... you probably would have done this before and lost your mod capabilities... so... that leaves us with the situation that for some reason, someone wanted to keep that post off the forums... so either one of the mods is working on their own site and wanted to snuff out the competition... or one of the mods already has their own site... and is secretly trying to keep us from stealing people from it... *coughdiaperspacenaziscough* Aaaanyway lol I'm gonna keep working on the site in my spare time, and hopefully we can find out who did this and why...

There wasn't anything promotional about it at all lol it was just a discussion of the features people would like to see and what I plan to offer that other sites like DS and DLtown didn't have etc etc And I know Di didn't have a problem with it... he was actually very supportive of the idea. Anyway hopefully we can find out who did it... I mean obviously if you're posting in support of the idea on the thread itself, I can't imagine any Mod you have thinking it would be "ok" to delete that thread even though the site owner supported it... Anyway I'm still working on the site lol with any luck it should be ready to go in a few weeks, though we may not have audio/video chat right away as those systems will take a little more time to get up and running.

So... any mods wanna enlighten me as to what happened to my thread about the new social networking site I've been working on? I put a lot of time into listing all the features and talking about the progress and I can't say I appreciate the thread being deleted...

Actually, you could look into order tranquility ATN. http://www.northshorecare.com/ The prices aren't bad at all. If you order like 2-3 packs at a time you end up paying a little over $1/ea and they're much better than store brand. Considering you would need at least 2-3 store brand diapers to get the level of absorption in 1 tranquility ATN, I think it's definitely a better buy. And if you order from NSC before 4pm central time, they usually show up within 2-3 business days for most of the northeast/east-central states including almost all but the east coast of NC with just ground shipping. They have a pretty centralized location, and you can view a map of estimated shipping times for them by visiting: http://www.ups.com/maps?loc=en_US&WT.svl=SubNav And entering their zip code: 60062 I'm in PA so i'm listed as a 2-day delivery time. And I've ordered from them on Monday before 4pm central time and had my order here Wed morning. So for ground shipping, that's not half bad at all Anyway just a suggestion if you wanna try to get your hands on a really good, cost-effective diaper that's not a crappy store brand

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Just a thought, I know a lot of people on here probably have some sort of digital cable package from their provider. If you don't feel like going to the gym, or don't want to pay to do it. There are usually a variety of workout/exercise videos available in the "On Demand" section of most cable providers. They're usually provided free of charge as well. You could work out in the comfort of your own home, diapered or not. That's one option for those who maybe can't, don't feel like, or simply won't go to the gym

Not to get off the topic here lol but what about a pink thong sticking out over a diaper... And for that matter, has anyone else noticed how like 90% of the giapergal videos have them wearing thongs over diapers now... Like I can understand wearing maybe underwear, or even a bikini cut or boyshorts over one... but a thong really? What purpose could that little string of fabric really serve lol "Hey did you see that? I think that girl was wearing a diaper..." *looks over* "Nah man she's got a pink thong on... get your eyes checked..." And for that matter, wtf is with the pricing on these things... a friend of mine was shopping the other day and she bought a couple new shirts, a pair of jeans, and a couple thongs... The shirts were like $9.99, jeans were $19.99 and the thongs cost... yeah $14.99 each... someone please explain to me how that works lol She can buy enough fabric to cover her entire body for the same price as 2 pieces of assfloss... and people wonder why other countries look at the USA and go o.O wtf mates? And just to continue this pointless off-topic rant... How does pizza hut justify charging $20 for a freaking pizza lol furthermore why the hell do people pay that? Hell you can make your own pizza at home for about $5-6... you can usually find a frozen one in the store for $3-5 and if you're really wanting something tasty every fast food place in the country has a $1 menu now lol go pick up a couple sandwiches and an order of fries for the same cost... This concludes my random rant. Anyone wishing to give me kudos for talking about diapers, thongs, and food all in the same rant, may proceed... now lol

That makes me el oh el Unlike most people you've probably come to know I don't force personal beliefs on others. Do I feel like people should be discouraged from doing that sort of thing, yes. Will I personally discourage it if they ask about whether it's right or wrong, yes. Will I go out of my way and throw my opinion in their face if they're not specifically asking if it's "ok", nope. Bottom line is that really even if we tell people who do things wrong not to do them, they're still going to do them anyway. It's human nature to be defiant and learn on your own. So odds are they would just continue doing what they do until something happens that they don't like. Whether that's exposing themselves to someone and going to jail, or flashing their diaper to a hot girl and having her freak out on them calling them a pervert, or whatever it may be. Most people won't change their behavior unless something happens that makes them want to. And I highly doubt anyone's going to be very receptive to any suggestions made by a bunch of strangers (as far as they'd be concerned) on the internet. Point is, what everyone does is their business, if they ask an opinion of me, they're going to get MY opinion lol but I'm not going to scour the forums here to hunt down everyone who might be a little pervy and unload my ideals onto them lol Besides it's like DD said... we're all a little pervy anyway

I do have to agree with you for the most part, but there are some cases where the "acceptable" behavior becomes wrong. Wearing out in public is nothing. Intentionally letting your diaper show by tucking in your shirt, or wearing pants/shorts that have a low waist band, that's fine too. But when you're intentionally trying to show off your diaper to specific people in the hopes of getting a reaction from them, that's probably not something we should encourage as that behavior is the exact same thought process that leads violent sex offenders and flashers to do what they do. It's not about the sex for them. People don't go out and rape people because they wanna get laid. They do it because of the reaction, or the thrill of forcing themselves (or their sexual beliefs) on others. Same goes for flashing people. I see nothing wrong with making sure your diapers are visible at all times when you're out, but when you start concealing them, then walking up to a person and making sure to expose it to them as much as possible to catch a reaction... that's where I personally feel like you're crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed. You wouldn't walk up to some stranger, start talking to them, and pull out a huge butt plug to show them casually while you talked about the weather. You wouldn't drop trou and show off your chastity belt. If diapers are a sexual thing for you, they are really no different in these cases if you ask me. Making it "ok" to run around flashing your sexual fetish to girls in public isn't really a good idea in my opinion. Obviously there are some lines that shouldn't be crossed and I agree with you that we should probably be more of a helping hand in advising people what is and isn't appropriate to do. And yeah pretending to be retarded to get strangers to change you... yeah that's totally fucked up. That's not the sort of thing where you go "oh sorry I thought that was ok" that's just... you know it's wrong... but you don't care and you do it anyway... aka straight jacket and padded room in a year behavior lol

Amen to that. Running around in public wearing an obviously adult-sized baby diaper and showing it off is exactly what our community does NOT need in publicity. You wanna run around ostracizing yourself from the college community, that's your business, but at least do us all a favor and leave the diapers out of it. I'd venture to guess that at least half of the bad PR our community gets in the world is from horny guys running around trying to expose as many people as they can to this fetish in the hopes that one of them is going to go o.O That's hot, can I change you? Which undoubtedly will never EVER happen to you. I mean for example if you did happen to flash your diaper to someone who was into this fetish. They have no idea if you are as well. For all they know you have a medical condition. So they aren't going to risk exposing their desires to you just because they caught a glimpse of a diaper under your jeans. And please some of you guys who can back me up on this, do so... I think most of us who have had girlfriends who accepted and/or participated in this fetish with us will tell you here that we did not meet them because of it. In my lifetime (I'm 25 now) I've had 5 girlfriends who both accepted, tried, and liked this fetish. However when I met them they had no idea what this was, or that I was into it. You need to leave the diapers out of the equation, and go meet a nice girl who likes you for who you are man. Then once you've been together for a while and you know your relationship is going to last, find a way to tell her about this. And if she's open minded enough to try it out, then great. If not then you'll have to decide at that time if you care about her for who she is, or if you have to have someone who will get into diapers with you. And if you choose the latter I'm sure you'll look back one day and kick yourself in the ass, so choose wisely. Ultimately, you're not going to meet a girl in public, in college, in a bar, at a concert, in a coffee shop, etc etc who's going to see your diaper, whisper something in your ear, take you into the bathroom to hump your brains out and change you, and follow you home to marry you. That's what FICTIONAL stories are for lol Go find a nice girl, get to know her, and a few months to a year down the road when you feel like you can trust her, find a way to break it to her. That's the only way you're going to get what you're after my friend. Best luck to ya, and please chillax out with the public diaper flashing. It's hard enough for all of us as it is.

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