hi
interesting thread... I too was emotionally, physically and sexually abused... remember being beaten and humiliated for bed and pants wetting.... I wet the bed up until i was 16 but was never made to wear nappies.. it was often threatened and was hugely shameful at the time.. Over the years I have had a lot of therapy,and have had a lot of good people in my life and I feel reasonably OK now about my experiences.
Yes. Forgiveness. Interesting question. Sometimes I think we hear that as an order. You must forgive.. and of course that just doesn't work.. For me I wanted to be free of all the pain, the anger, the rage, so that's what helped with my healing... and in the process you reclaim the experiences and get control again your emotional response.... my abusers have receded into the category of normal, screwed up human being... if that is what forgiveness is then Im some way down the track... but it is NOT possible to just forgive without going through the process of healing. People say you must forgive like it is something we can do on the spot! Forgiveness is never about making someone else whiter than white. When we do harm we live with the consequences in our lives.. so people who abused us deeply harmed us and in some way i believe their lives are marred by it to. Forgiveness for me is simply wanting to be free of all the pain and crap...
love to you all you have had these experiences too... so helpful knowing that im not alone as a child who was abused, a child who wet her pants and her bed, and an adult who is just coming to terms with being a diaper / nappy lover and getting alot of comfort out of wearing them in the evenings.
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