I wish you luck in your chosen path, but Darkfinn and Willow are spot-on as is a lot of what else has been said. Relationships are a compromise, and while this is a lot of 'baggage' (which may mean that the right one for you is going to have a lot of their own 'baggage' too ) I have seen that the strongest bonds often occur in those who have had the most to overcome to make things work out. Yeah, the oidds of us finding the perfect mate are nigh on impossible with a suitable one not too far away, but it does happen and it can happen to you