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I became totally incontinent about 8 or so months ago. Since then, I have been working hard to incorporate diapers into my 24/7 life. Probably the biggest hurdle I face, is accepting and identifying myself as an incontinent man. I have never had an issue with diapers, having been DL for all of my life. But there were an awful lot of emotional hurdles that had to be managed once the choice to wear diapers was taken away from me. Acceptance has been key, this is me now, this is part of who i am and a diaper is a permanant part of my wardrobe, just like glasses or contacts. I have not told anyone about being incon though. Today, the opportunity finally presented itself. I was discussing my upcoming surgery with my sister and she said, "You know Joe, you have been pretty lucky so far, I have heard that so many people with neck/back injuries end up back in diapers" (This one was a no-brainer) I told her that I had, in fact, ended up back in diapers. She was very supportive and asked a few questions. It was refreshing to be able to talk so openly with someone besides my fiancee about this. And it gets just a little bit easier to deal with each day.

It's good to hear you have a supporting family member. I remember when I told my mother a few years ago and she understood with few questions (it helped that my Dad is incon too). The most awkward situation came up though when my mom asked, on my dad's behalf, about the products I was using. He is hard of hearing and was looking for something that works better than the Depends pull-ups, etc. Due to my still being fairly active and working, I told her briefs work better for me than pull-ups because I can't undress to change all the time at work. Dad refuses to wear "diapers" and I've never had another question since. --- Edit --- Hello from another Upstate New Yorker!

I like elfking's take on religion, my own non-agnostic views about religions being similar Like Churchill once said, I'm not sure god is ready to meet me even if I'm ready for that meeting How you deal with being ABDL (or anything else that is sexual to you) creates the issues it brings you. For my, my DL is non-sexual. I wear 24/7 so I don't stay home because I'm wearing- I stay home because I'm a homebody Earlier today I spent about an hour at Walmart wearing a Molicare super- a diaper that some consider to be too thick for discretion reasons My diaper wearing doesn't affect my life adversely except that it takes some of my discretionary income and it adds to the amount of trash I have to put out by the curb. Because of it, I am a happier person, I no longer have to worry about wetting my pants in public the way I once did, and I get to spend more of my internet time on this website, which I also like doing What I see here is someone who cannot deal with the fact that their creator saw fit to imbue them with a sexuality which they have not learned to deal with well yet. That same creator also added some tendencies toward things which they do not like having in them and do not yet know how to deal with either. And then they want that same creator to change this in them Sorry, but there's no point in praying for things that are not going to happen- far better to spend your time learning how to deal with life for yourself because that is what you're going to have to do anyway Attempting to deny or stay away from the things you crave only disturbs the peace which you can find in simply accepting who and what you are. Don't let those things define you or run your life; instead indulge in them enough to quell their furor which will allow you a far more peaceful life with some happiness in it. This is all about balancing the things you crave with the things you need to do to more than just survive, but to live and live happily. It is the simple process of creating as lasting a happiness as you can for yourself. And nobody said it would be easy because it ain't Bettypooh

"You're nuts," Lilly said, eying the reindeer suspiciously. "It'll work. Our lord may be omnipresent, but he can't possibly keep track of everyone all at once. You're on the nice list, so all you have to do is fly Blitzen to an orphanage, sneak in, add yourself to the registration, and you're in." "I still think its stupid." Holly smirked. "You wanted a toy. I'll pick you up on New Years, don't worry. Just make sure your ears stay covered and you stay in character." Lilly weighed it in her head, then nodded. "You have the costume?" "It's in the bag. Go get changed, I'll saddle up your ride." Holly smiled, grabbing some reigns. Lilly nodded, taking the bag and walking to the back. The plan was simple enough: pretend to be a human child, get toy, come home. She was barely tall enough to pass for a young toddler, but it'd work... Hopefully. Looking through the bag, she pulled the bonnet over her head to cover her ears first. There. Looking human already. Undoing the buttons on her dress, she pulled it off. Then her shoes, then her stockings. Now, for her new outfit... Wearing anything besides the uniform dress would be weird, but this outfit was especially so. The first item she retrieved was a thick baby diaper. A human baby diapered, of course, it was far too large for any elf baby. It would fit her well enough though, judging by it's size. Lying down, she awkwardly pulled it on and taped it on loosely. Not a perfect fit, but she hadn't put one on before and hadn't worn one for nearly two hundred years. And, it fit on at any rate. Standing up, she found her legs were spread by its bulk, making standing difficult. It was all she could do not to fall over as she stepped into the footed sleeper Holly had nabbed for her, zipping it up. "Haha!" Was Holly's reaction when Lilly waddled out, blushing. Her diapered bulged obviously under the PJs, there was a loud crinkle every time she moved, and the teddy bear print on the sleeper was adorable. "Your idea," Lilly reminded. "Your toy," Holly retorted. "One more thing..." Leaning forward, she pinned a ribbon to the sleeper with a blue pacifier tied to the end. "There! Perfect! Let's get you flying."

It is demeaning to women when people think that THEY are the ones who are the best at changing diapers and doing all the "mommy" stuff. That's why we now have the STEM programs in our schools--to teach young girls that they can pursue Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math instead of being expected to do "female" stuff which limits them. Maybe if guys would offer women a chance to expand their horizons and explore all that they want to be, then they would be more willing to "try something new." I'm sure that playing Mommy to a man isn't fulfilling to a woman--that's why some women charge a fee for it. Sorry if I'm up on my soapbox, but I believe in treating women with the same respect I want to be treated with.

Diapermonkey, I truely do respect you for your decisions to stop using diapers etc. on your faith. However, you have to understand that many of us on this site have grappled with out faith and religion and continue to wear diapers. Also, your original post was open to anyone, whether christian or not, and this post did not specify who could answer. By specifying all christians are we to assume that anyone, who is of another faith or religion did not go through the exact same struggle you did. You are young. VERY young to be telling others what to think and what you 'know'. I understand it is what you think and know at this moment, and it is fantastic you are seeking to better understand yourself and your relationship to the god you believe in, but i must say in your posts, you seem to be taking on the stance of preacher. You cannot teach others until you yourself have learned. And you have not yet given up diapers completely, for if you have, i doubt you would be coming back to such a tempting website as this. You may have stopped wearing them, but as this website is an adults only website it would constitute as looking at pornographic material. As I said, i commend you on the path you are trying to walk, but would ask that you refrain from assuming you are the only correct one. I would be interested to see where you stand even just a year down the road. It is the VERY VERY rare person indeed who finds what they said about themselves at 23 still holds true years later. And i will say, i was raised in the christian tradition, went to church, taught sunday school, went to catholic high school and now a catholic university, was a counselor at two different christian camps. I feel i have a decent understanding of christian theology, but all that experience and all that knowledge is not welcome because i do not believe in the same god as you. That my friend, is the beginning of bigotry and ignorance. I am not saying you are either, but if you are not willing to open your eyes, and ears, and mind to all that others have to say, you never will truely understand yourself, but rather you will only be pretending to be the person you think you want to be. Yes, that last part does actually make sense. I mean no disrespect to you diapermonkey. And i do wish you well on your path to self discovery, just dont close your eyes so tight, or block your ears so well, that you can't see or hear what others who have already been there have to say.