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Aaaaaand guys like this are why our community has such a bad name in the mainstream world. I know there are mixed feelings on how exhibitionist we should be out in public, to what degree we should wear our baby clothes and that in the public world, but I think going to the extreme of purposefully drawing attention to ourselves is not cool. I think its one thing to do what we do, and either a.) try to blend in, or b.) not make a big scene of things (for example going out in little's clothes, but not making a big deal of it unless someone asks), but another to make it completely obvious that we are flouting the norms. All stuff like this does is make other people uncomfortable. I'm firmly a believer of the concept that if we're going to be accepted, we have to act normal. I wear in public all the time, at times if you know what to look for its obvious I'm diapered, other times not. I've gone to places wearing and carrying my diaper supplies in my backpack knowing that my bags were going to be opened and checked. I've never had an issue, never even been so much as asked why I had diapers in my bag. There are stories all the time of folks who wear baby clothes, pacis, etc out in pubic, but act like its a normal state of affairs, and get a far more positive response than negative one (Bri, Lynnie, and DW come to mind). But what this guy did was what cements the image of all of us as creeps and perverts in the eyes of a lot of folk. <Gets off soapbox> Sorry for the rant....

Yeah, abena x plus are my favorite, You get comfort, discretion, and that classic feel all in one. I'm thinking of trying the bambino classics (with out the prints) too, as I've heard they are some of the best. I can wear my abena under baggy jeans and there is no sound or bulge. Although the feel of the attends with 6 tapes are the best of the best but discretion goes out the window as they are much more noisier.

I just want to clarify a few things about what the communitiy thinks is appropreate and what is not. I am not going to rant of complain. On the contrary I have been dying for reasonable and thought provoking talk about how we will present ourselves to the public for years. DiaperBoyKR-I noticed that you mentioned that what Bri, Lynnie and DW have been doing is ok since it represnets us in a cute way and not just in your face "I get off on wearing diapers". Did you mean Heidi Lynn by "Lynnie"?. I noticed that you left me out? Just by curiosity what do you think of my outtings to places like Fetish balls, Pride events and the occasional trip to vegas? If cute is the criteria then mayby I am a succsess. Not that I am cute but my outfits could not be described as anything but. In fact that is the response that I get almost without exception. Since the public flock to me and want my picture and say what I am doing is fun is this exceptable? I know that opinons will very some but I am intrested in the mood of the community in general. I pick my places and I do my best to pull it off in a cute and hummorus mannor. If an Celebrity were to wear a dipaer out in public to make a statement or cause a stir would we be all over it? History says that we would. When "shock jock" Howard Stern dose a piece on "Diaper Fetishes" and or "Audlt Babies" That is all over the boards. What about when it shows up in movies or on TV like the scean in "CSI" or "Stop or my Mom will Shoot". Some of these shows we come off looking very bad and others not to bad but rarely do we look good. One question that I have is if we never present ourselves in a possitive way and the media continues to present us in a negitive way how will we ever change public perception? Some of us will continue to pull dumb stunts that the media will jump all over to further propogate the lie about who we really are as a community. Do we just want to continue to keep our head in the sand and let be? Do you mind being thought a pervert even though you are not just because people are uneducated? The next generation will grow up thinking that they are weird or perverted and close themsleves off and have poor self image and low selfestem. How may of the people who pull dump stunts or outward supididy are uneducated themselves about our community and have not been able to find resourses to help them cope with their feelings? If we were more out there as a community and took a little annishitive to educate the public about who we are and what we are about would fewer people do dumb stuff? I did some dumb stuff before I knew anything about the community. If I had not found DPF and the rest of the community and found some common intested people and come to terms with my feeling I may have done some more dumb or even stupid things. If we do want to educate the public what message do we give and how and what is the best way to present it? Do we have a responsiblilty to Tommy, Heidi, Angela, and the many who took a chance so we would know that we are not alone? Do we owe it to the poor folks out there who still think they are alone? What about those future generations of AB/DL? Do we pave a better path for them? Or do we just do what is easy and in our comfort zones and live with the results. I think something needs to be done. Do you relalize how few people even in Psych and counseling world really know anything about us. I guess I ranted a little but we need some quality discussion on this topic. You will not offend me if you tell me that you don't like my methods or message. My skin is much thicker than that or I could not do the things I have done. Thanks, Tami Tha Just food for thought.

Having just read this thread, i think rainbogyrl09 your shit out of luck here as there isnt anyone to meet what your looking for. as well lets face it, theres hardly a single female on the site anyway, and most of the ones that are, are female in their own mind only, and not being funny, the T-girls prove my point.

Are all the bABies on this site sadistic? The reason I ask that is that the reply 'keep him in' or the force punishment of another using diapers and baby treatment came so fast to make ones head spin. I would gamble that easily 100 plus people would state the same with similar time period.

The real problem with board I see, is the lack of discipline among its members. Note the numerous crotch shots and some creepy photos of middle-aged adults who know better. I am middle age, and I would NEVER display myself in a photo without full apparel. That is, a business suit that would allow me to look my age and be presentable in public. I have nothing against those who are AB/DL, but I will acknowledge that some may not engage in the most healthy practices; what they do in their privacy is their business as long as they don't force it on the public. I most certainly do have a problem when people exhibit such swanky behavior that it reflects badly on those who actually do depend on these products, either psychologically or by physical necessity. In most of my posts here, I have indeed been very mean spirited, and for what I felt was a good reason. I even sent a private message to abrera, just to see if it would get a response from an administrator. It unfortunately, did not. And I did all of this deliberately. It was to prove a point: The moderators here don't appear willing to come up with standards and protocols that could perhaps make this site more respectable. And when people realize that no matter how bad they act, they never face the possibility of losing their account, or don't even get so much as a warning letter from an administrator, they tend to do what they want. A membership no longer holds any value, because it's a given and is taken for granted. And that's when I start getting the idea that [That site] is made to feel very much at home on DailyDiapers. How many of you really want that? And so, here's the whole point: This site needs to be cleaned up. Anything that is unsuitable for minors should not be tolerated here, because children can indeed view the material. Other sites have taken the challenge of making the community more respectable to the lay person. This one gets the most exposure, so I feel that it is especially very critical for adjustments to be made. Right here, starting right now. Yes, this site I'm writing to this moment needs to be brought up to code! I am willing to voice an opinion, if anybody is willing to listen. Now, I don't care what anybody does to my account. Keep it, or delete it. But my hope is that I have stirred up some attention, enough to where someone will take notice and ACT before this whole place really does turn into a sewer. Honeywell6180