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I agree! Kids are too young and inexperienced to know what is in their better interest, therefore parents and teachers have to educate them in the ways of life until they get to the age where they can make their own decisions on how to best live the rest of their lives. As parents, if we don't teach our kids how to live, earn a living and have an education, where will they be when they get older and out on their own? Parents need to think about a few things themselves such as, "How did I afford the house that I live in? How did I get my job?" By letting your kids decide for themselves if they want to drop out of school or do counter productive things, then parents are not living up to their responsabilities. You may feel that as the parents you can do what you please, but that is not the case. That's why there are child protective services and child welfare orginizations. Think about this: If you let your child drop out of school and get started on drugs and stuff, what will happen to him? You may say that he will live with you and you will take care of him, but what happens when you die? Maybe he will inherit your home, but if he has no job or job skills, how will he be able to pay the taxes and utilities? On the other hand, if he's into drugs he'll probably overdose long before you die. DO you really love your child if you allow him to do as he pleases? Now, as far as not toilet training your kid, some people may feel it's the child's choice, but I say no. Again, they are not mature enough to make those decisions for themselves. When they grow up they may decide if they want to wear diapers and not use the toilet, but at age 3 parents need to toilet train their kids and be proper parents with proper diciplin.

If I had been allowed to do whatever I pleased without repercussion I don't think I would be alive at this moment. Or if I was I'm pretty sure I would be drug addicted and living on the streets. Some people are fine when left to their own devices, others need structure and guidance. What if your teenage child decides unprotected sex is a great idea? Or perhaps alcohol and drug abuse is fun and harmless? what if school is a waste of time? Why would the child ever want to grow up and be an adult who has to get an income and live on their own? Just because your lifestyle is what makes you and yours comfortable, doesnt mean that your lifestyle and choices are whats right for every family. Frankly I hope your deciding not to toilet train your children at the age of 9 is a joke, because that is severe neglect of a parent. If your children go to school now diapering is an added complication to the child's social life and added complications to school authority (who changes and wipes your child? Do my tax dollars pay for someone to do this because you don't want to?).Raising children does not mean you raise people to be your new best friend. You raise your children to function and succeed as the adults they will become in the culture and society that you are in. Being an "individual" is obviously important to you, but you still must live your life and play by the rules set out by the society you live in. How is a child supposed to stay out of trouble if they have no respect for authority or law? No matter what you say you must still interact with people who do not share your beliefs on a day to day basis. By not learning some basic boundaries and social etiquette your setting your children up for a difficult adjustment to "real life". If I let my children do as they pleased they would eat nothing but popsicles and ice cream, neglect personal hygiene, destroy my property and my neighbors and do all the things kids will do without some basic ground rules.

First of all I personally know Davey, it not that he doesn't care about his site he does a lot. He has had some rather trying personal problem in the last couple of year that I won't go into, so that why he was an absentee land lord. The most recently failure has more to do with the server getting too much activity adn then being hacked and dammaged beyond repair. He and serveral other are working on a new site the will hopefully be up by next year. So please keep checking back.

I think parents should aim to keep their ABDL business a complete secret from their kids. Nothing good can come of children knowing about the unusual things their parents do in the bedroom. Can you imagine an ordinary kid learning that his dad likes to suck on pacifiers, and that he REALLY likes it when Mommy diapers him, dresses him in baby clothes and bottle-feeds him? Just the mental image could scar a kid of any age for life. It's one thing if the kids coincidentally become ABDLs themselves, but parents should never, ever, ever impose this part of their lifestyle on their children in any way. It goes the other way around, too: your parents don't need to know this little fact about you.

This is a topic we discuss on DD fairly often. That is a good thing because so many new members join. Of course this also means when I answer I will be repeating myself. Both my younger sister Missy and myself are happily married successful mature women. Like my Granny, Mom and Aunt Betsy, we are profoundly urinary incontinent. During her pregnancy Missy discovered how well AB play works as a coping strategy. When my constant diapers depressed me she told me about AB. Shortly after that we discussed AB with our Mom, who said until then she had never known about AB. Today Missy's daughter is 19 and in her second year of pre-med. She reverted to bedwetting at puberty but still has reasonable day control. Once you become parents many theories you had up to then will be disproved. Your own kids will be very curious and very good at guessing secrets. If you are successful at hiding your own ABDL from your kids, you will set a record. Had you made a big deal about a secret, once it leaks there are consequences. It is the same about incontinence. Sure, strangers probably will not discover you wear diapers and if they do, so what? People living with you will discover your diapers sooner or later. Missy and I were taught to be discreet about diapers, so as to avoid upsetting others, but to also not make diapers a top secret. By the time Missy's daughter was 13 months Missy decided to not keep her own adult diaper supply hidden at home. If her daughter saw Missy with a pacifier, it was not a major deal. By the time the girl reached puberty she would often say she thought adults playing baby were "Silly" but the important thing was she would honestly communicate with her mother. This sort of approach is hardly the same as bringing the girl into Missy's bedroom nor a way of turning her into an AB. Missy herself was almost 21 when she discovered the benefits of AB without the help of our Mom or Granny. I was 26 when Missy told me about AB. We have a younger male first cousin who was still needing night diapers at age 9. He was 20 when he sent me a snail letter saying he had read my "Baby Angel" column in DPF Newsletter in 1993. We had never discussed ABDL with him, but obviously since he had joined DPF he was dedicated to ABDL. He is one of those DD members who rarely posts. His wife knows about his bladder problems and his use of ABDL to cope. They do not have any children so that is not an issue.

i feel that it would be really hypocritical to admonish my children from doing this if I do it myself. I raise my children under the consensual living concept, meaning that children and adults all have the same rights. There are no rules, no rewards, and no punishments, as those are tools of manipulation, and not to mention, society has enough laws to follow. Why make it tougher on the children by giving them additional rules on top of the laws already imposed upon us? In our house, there is only compromise and cooperation as a whole. I have two criteria that would determine what my children would be and would not be allowed to do, and it is the same criteria that judges all adults in society. Is it legal? Is it hurting anyone else? If no, then it is a go.

Really? Emotional scars? Well, i'm please to say that is not the case with my children, and we are a very open household, not keeping things from one another. Children are only scarred if they are taught that something is bad or if they are burdened down and forced to conform. When children can be themselves, and they know they have a good support system, then no scarring could occur. My older twins are not potty trained, and they are nine. They did not want to do it when they were tots, so I did not make them. i do not like to make my children do things they are uncomfortable with, even if it is to force them to conform. i always tell my children to be leaders and not followers, and if i'm pressuring them to conform to social norms, then I'm a hypocrite, and that message has no weight. The one twin is showing an interest, and she is starting to train because she no longer wants to wear, but my son? I don't think he ever will. I raise my children on the Consensual Living concept, and I'm pleased to say that I've never had one power struggle in all my time as a parent. Why? The secret is that I let my children be themselves, and I do not waste a lot of time telling them what to do and what not to do. They do not feel they have to talk back or do drastic things for my husband and I to allow them to be themselves. While the rest of society will have to deal with teens acting out because they are tired of fitting the molds in which their parents have set for them and are tired of dictorial control, we will enjoy peace.

Okay, that man is sick and stupid. He is depriving these children of their childhood. Gosh! Yeah, my family likes being nude, all generations to be exact. But, we can alter ourselves for company. Geez. It is called respecting others! If someone was uncomfortable with me walking around exposed, I'd wear clothes out of decency because I respect that person. I'd also not FORCE my children to be a certain way, and they can have as many friends over as they want. We just keep our clothes on. It's not that hard to do. Compromise is so important for all parties. Things go so much better that way.

Exactly my point.