I have a story that I've started the shell on that will follow that plot.  I'm not stealing your story, because it's been in my head for a long time.  In my story, the parent assumes the teenager is doing it on purpose. Maddy's parents seem like ideal parents.  They are supportive, and not overly emotional.   It appears they have high expectations for their children, but not through fear.  As somebody who deals with a lot of parents, I would say Maddy's are very good. My only criticism is that they are a little over-protective of Maddy.   They are so afraid to let Maddy screw up that they are keeping her from growing up.  She hasn't earned that based on her maturity, but trust me- some kids need to pushed out of the nest to grow up. Case and point, the sleepover.  It might make sense to forbid her from going on a sleepover if she was too young to understand the consequences of an accident at her friends house (or the consequences of staying up all night).   IMO, unless a parent is uncomfortable with the arrangement (IE- other parents, history of sneaking out), they should let Maddy assume the risk of potential embarrassment.  As long as she understands the risks, let Maddy go to sleepover.   IMO- a 12-year-old is old enough to assume those risks.

Citadel 

"I wanna see!" He says, eagerly wanting to see what they have outside, but also wanting to see the big boys

I already have a number of serious mental disabilities and live in a group home for people with mental disabilities. It would be easy for me to live as a double/bowel incontinent person with regards to my peers and support staff. A number of people who go to my day centre I attend are incontinent so I already use their clinical waste bin for my IC pads. The staff here and at the day centre staff know I already wear nappies but I've not started messing in front of any of my peers or staff yet. I want to mess straight away when the urge hits so this can be anywhere and I want to do it without clenching. I will remain discreet and not flaunt it. I will change straight away. On a disability related footing if a person is seen to have bowel IC and wears IC nappies that would make the person seem to be quite disabled, right? If they are already in that kind of setting?  I think I do have BIID for wanting this. I just want to be seen as a disabled person, which I already am but bowel IC would really define it for me.

I posted this in the wrong category, so reposted it here. Every time I have a poo I uncontrollable pee on the bathroom floor. Also even though I have been very thorough with wiping with wet wipes, 10 minutes later I'm staining my underpants with skid marks which is unnoticed, the worst part was I was with one of my support workers on holiday and I sat on her white clean bedsheets I marked the sheets. That was embarrassing.  With my urine difficulties I'm needing to use the toilet very often, my bladder feels uncomfortable until I pee, then I have it a small gush in the toilet when not wearing a nappy. I have to use the toilet every opportunity I get which has been noticed by my support workers in the group home. I made my bladder super sensitive from long binges wearing 24/7. Because I'm wetting in little gushes and dribbles when wearing nappies I don't really pay much attention and can wet in all positions, with sleeping I always wear a nappy because without a nappy on and up and down using the toilet all night. I just wake up and straight away first thing I do is pee and go back to sleep, its not disturbing my sleep like it used to do with having the strong urge to pee. I'm going to chuck in the towel and just go 24/7 again but differently full time this time which isn't a problem for me. I'm going to for for both wetting and messing my nappies. I'm very good at wetting straight when I feel the urge and leaving my anal sphincter unclenched when having a poo, I don't even push and and not automatically reflex clenching. I always have have a BM in the early morning so that I'm not messing in front of anybody which I'm still embarrassed about. Will this happen if I continue to abuse my body like this? And I don't want to start clenching and exercise my anal sphincter. I'm pretty good at cleaning up after a BM with dry wipes and Emollient cleaning foam, I always use disposable gloves and put my nappy in a sealable nappy bad and toss in the outside bin. I love the smell of clinical smelling IC wipes. I feel shame wearing nappies and doing this to my body sometimes and I know I would hate incontinence but I can't stop from doing this? I have binge and purge cycles.  Does this sound like I'm becoming IC?