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Thanks for the clarification.  If mostly because you have bowel issues and not bladder incontinence, going to a thinner cloth backed diaper shouldn't cause you issues.

I understand, thank you!! I mostly wear cause of my bowl issues. But I am getting cloth backed diapers that are good to wear. 

Ya, though they seem to be pretty well monitored. I guess they could try at night but seems like they could have alarms that go off if a baby tries to exit a crib. 

Well, the point of your thread is having family, especially your mom know or notice every time you are wearing diapers on your family visits.  You say, "I want to prevent this, I don't want her to know for a month, even change the way I dress if I have to".  Therefore, if you are asking for help or advice, I think a lot of people have responded.  Some, including me, have suggested cloth backed diapers, thinner ones and in my case, snug briefs to help compress them and smooth out any bulges. Your response?  "I have plastic backed. Wearing a betterdry".  Ok, but obviously that's not working.  Maybe you were just informing us of what you usually wear for our own understanding.  When asked by a member how your mom knows, you said, "Always sees the bulge or hears it. One time I had a onesie on over it and she noticed it"  Thing is, if you really want some help like when you said, ""I want to prevent this, even change the way I dress if I have to", lose the plastic backed Betterdry diapers, get some thinner clothed back diapers to cut down the noise and try what people have suggested such as the snug cotton underpants to hide bulk and bulges, at least while visiting your mom and family.  Then when you leave you can go back to your plastic backed thicker Betterdry diapers.  You also have to filter through the advice. you are getting.  Some people who don't care who know or who wear all the time because they are incontinent and need to don't have the options you do.  They either don't care if people notice or can't go down to a different diaper without causing themselves problems.  You are 23 years old and list yourself as a "Diaper Lover", with age play as "2".  If you wear by choice and not due to incontinence and lack of bladder control, you have choices others may not.  You don't have to avoid seeing your family or suffer them noticing your diapers.  You asked for our help and we are saying you do have choices and things you can do.  Just because you are a DL and prefer a specific diaper doesn't mean in some situations you can't "modify" things for a few days in order to keep others from noticing your usual diapers.  You don't want your mom to know, so change the way you dress and that may mean quieter cloth backed diapers that are less bulky.  If you want this, the responsability falls on you, even though you may have to do things different for a few days. Old saying, "You can't have your cake and eat it too".  True, some people have said they wear very thick diapers around family.  Some have said family doesn't notice or they don't care if anyone notices.  Since your mom does notice and you don't want her to, you either have to do what you said, "change the way I dress if I have to" and make some changes in your current diaper routines, or keep having your mom notice you are wearing diapers and deal with it.  

You'd think there would be more suicides with how depressing their lives are.