i like the feel too but i want to impove my pelvic floor muscle i think having frequncy and urgency abit is making me have anxiety and maybe some angry issues
i am in same boat as u guys but yeah one night i was doubt i needed to go number 2 and i hested and i went to restroom to take care of it and did not make it so i end up 2 hours in mess and lucky it was late i stay away from people mainly the sinky so that was embassing but never happern again
After rehearsal the guys in the band would go out for a beer or two at the local microbrewery in town. I got spoiled there & learned what really good beer tasted like. And it ain't Budweiser!
In my 20s & 30s I used to keep on hand a few select bottles of wine. But mostly nowadays I'd use it in spaghetti sauce. Cooking wine does the job adequately instead.
I drink far less than I did thirty years ago. And I wasn't a big tippler then, either.
For extra 'insurance' try a terry nappy or pullup over a disposable - then plastic, any leaks stay inside, particularly useful at night. No washing needed unless the disposable leaks.