I am sure the laundry would be a problem, but if there were 2 bed wetters sharing it, that would make it easier for clean up and then to be able to have playtime in the soaked bed with a partner would be nice even if its a sleep over to join in the smelly soaked bed...
When I buy jeans I can get the same size in really dark blue, medium (or what I consider normal) blue, and even light blue, like very washed out. Sometimes I will get the dark blue, but usually get the normal medium blue. Same brand as it fits me the best.
Your situation was similar to mine. I had multiple wetting incidents at school. My mother was called and I had to go home to change. In 5th grade they tried to deal with it by having me wear training pants under rubber pants but that didnt help much either. Eventually I was just sent to school with a change of pants and underwear. Because of embarassment I think my school accidents decreased over time. I still wet my pants when not at school though getting into trouble for it a few times when my dad became frustrated. My bedwetting continued through and beyond puberty. In high school I was diagnosed and began treatment for a "primary psychosis" and the meds affected my bladder control. I am still treated for the condition today. The meds now are easier to take for sure.
Your comment about pee shyness also strikes a cord with me because I had this too when I was younger. I think part of it was because of being humiliated about my lack of bladder control and the shaming I experienced. I thought I was inadequate "down there" and didnt get over the feeling until I was in high school and had to take group showers after gym class. I realized then that my equipment was at least average and probably better than average.