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I guess I could be surprised but I’d be VERY surprised if an ABDL gene was discovered.  If it WAS, I’d be immediately looking for linkages between this, neurodiversity and transgenderism: those two latter cohorts I consider to be found with unusual commonality in the ABDL world. My money however remains on “nurture” although it seems likely that the formative time for such nurture (in my case at least) may have been before my developing brain was reliably painting recoverable memories.  I’d postulate that this would make is seem like I’d always had such predilections. In my case I consider two possible vectors as candidates: The appearance of the first of a long series of siblings occurred before I was 2 years old sparking my mother to force my toilet training quite early to avoid the inconvenience of having multiple infants in nappies simultaneously.  At the same time I lost my nappies and exclusive parental attention. In hindsight, it’s almost certain that my mother had psychological illnesses that rendered her affections capricious and conditional whilst my father was remote and occasionally brutal.  There is ample evidence that we were all scared of our parents and did not fully trust them.  There were clearly attachment disorders.

I don't know for sure if this would help, @oznl, but I did once buy a bottle of this, when I was contending with some irritating nappy rash issues, and I'd noted its presence in the hospital where my parents were macerating their days away. 3M Cavilon Skin Cleanser. It's a spray-on, wipe-off alternative to a shower, basically. I know you are able to shower yourself, but this could essentially let you bathe the boys between showers.  You might also look at Lotrimin or other antifungal sprays, more typically employed on the feet, but also effective on the beasties who inhabit damp folds, elsewhere. The sprays are easier, generally, to apply to such a lunar surface, than a cream would be, and it takes way less time. 

Yeah.... cloth back should be scary! It's a "hospital grade" diaper .... so I wouldn't really consider that a waste. 

Based on what I’ve learned from other posters’ experiences (on this and other forums), catheter use affects continence in two ways. One is loss of capacity/ bladder elasticity and the other is stretching the sphincters to the point they no longer close tightly enough to hold back urine. You may be experiencing the first (loss of capacity/ elasticity) with regular catheter use, even with the modest size of 18 ch (french). Especially If you are constantly draining (preferably into a bag— but that’s a different topic!) Depending on how frequently and how long you are off the catheter your bladder gets a chance to stretch and be “exercised” back in to shape. The other effect— due to stretching— will happen only with constant and gradually increasing sizes of catheters. Posters in other forums (FL) generally say this takes about a year and begins to occur around sizes 26 and larger. It is important not to size up too quickly or use force, as tearing the sphincters will lead to scar tissue and result in the opposite problem— difficulty passing urine instead of holding it.  And it is also very important to understand that this second effect is more permanent. From my own experiences of using caths on and off for periods of about a week at a time, I remember having occasional nighttime accidents. The size was only 20 or 22 and not long-term (weeks or months). It’s not uncommon for patients to experience temporary problems after being cath’ed so that seems to be what was happening in my case.