I just let ppl know from the jump that I specialize in encouragement/permissiveness but also offer more "strict" punitive relationships if they prefer. Since I'm 100% virtual it's probably easier to switch between the two, but I definitely prefer the kinder gentler approach personally. (Permission to wet, Unpotty Training guides, hydration checks, etc). I often wet while chatting and swap (faceless) pics/vids if they're into that. But my real mom was mean/strict about wetting so it's not that hard to go into that "mode" if it's what they prefer.
That said, you should never feel obligated to do anything you feel repulsed, traumatized or made uncomfortable by. This should be fun for everybody involved. 🖤