Dlbychoice Posted February 3 Posted February 3 I had posted on this forum the other day of my titled frustrations. I'm not going to go into it now. But as the posts of support came through, one poster asked me if I have ever thanked my Wife. That got me thinking for as far back as I could to try and remember if I had in fact ever thanked my wife. I came up blank. So I sat for a bit and thought of how to word it. Because this subject can be a bit of a problem to talk about. Put it this way. I would say 70% of the time we talk it gets heated. So I decided to message her. This has worked better in the past. The message went something like this and the message from my wife followed. ME "Love. It occurred to me the other day and I have not found the right time or place to say this to you. I'd rather tell you this in this format rather than face to face because I'll probably screw it up.😜 I want to thank you and tell you how much I appreciate you for tolerating me in nappies. It means the world to me. Thank you my Love." WIFE I love you too. And I know it is part of who you are. I am trying to work on my part of it but not there yet... One day.. ME Thank you for working on your part. I look forward to it one day. Just know that they make me content and comfort. That's where it ended. I wasn't going to say anything more. For a change it was nice and simple. There was no need to complicate it. This morning I was changing out of my night time nappy and into a fresh nappy. My wife calls out from the bathroom and says. Please be careful with the heat of today. It can cause you to have a nappy rash. She has never said anything of the sort. Things are changing. Slow that it may be. But they are changing. 8
SpiderBaby Posted February 3 Posted February 3 1 hour ago, Dlbychoice said: I had posted on this forum the other day of my titled frustrations. I'm not going to go into it now. But as the posts of support came through, one poster asked me if I have ever thanked my Wife. That got me thinking for as far back as I could to try and remember if I had in fact ever thanked my wife. I came up blank. So I sat for a bit and thought of how to word it. Because this subject can be a bit of a problem to talk about. Put it this way. I would say 70% of the time we talk it gets heated. So I decided to message her. This has worked better in the past. The message went something like this and the message from my wife followed. ME "Love. It occurred to me the other day and I have not found the right time or place to say this to you. I'd rather tell you this in this format rather than face to face because I'll probably screw it up.😜 I want to thank you and tell you how much I appreciate you for tolerating me in nappies. It means the world to me. Thank you my Love." WIFE I love you too. And I know it is part of who you are. I am trying to work on my part of it but not there yet... One day.. ME Thank you for working on your part. I look forward to it one day. Just know that they make me content and comfort. That's where it ended. I wasn't going to say anything more. For a change it was nice and simple. There was no need to complicate it. This morning I was changing out of my night time nappy and into a fresh nappy. My wife calls out from the bathroom and says. Please be careful with the heat of today. It can cause you to have a nappy rash. She has never said anything of the sort. Things are changing. Slow that it may be. But they are changing. Does she change your diapers? because if not, she totally should.😜😏 1
Dlbychoice Posted February 3 Author Posted February 3 It is something I have spoken to her about for a very long time and in several. So she knows it's something I want one day. If I remember correctly I told my wife about me wearing nappies about 10 years ago. It's been a long very bumpy and rough road. But the one thing that has never wavered is our love for each other. I have posted about it on here and people have scolded me about it. But i think a majority of us who have SO's have wanted them to change our nappies and be very involved. But we cannot force them to do it. As much as we want them to. So it's come from absolutely not wanting anything to do with it and at some points despising me over it. To allowing me wear around the house completely covered of course. To e wearing and letting her know I'm wearing and her being happy I told her. To openly wearing in front of her in the bedroom. To her saying it's fine for me to put on or change my nappy in front of her. To what's happened now. In one of our last conversations we had she said she is trying. She has done her own research etc. Sadly the research she came across majority was negative stuff as it would be if you didn't k ow exactly what to look for. The point is that she has been actively trying to understand the situation. At.least one positive thing that has come out of her research is that she understands that wearing is part of what makes me. That was in no way influenced by me. And one doesn't just come to that conclusion without researching and reading up about it. My wife putting me in and or changing my nappies will come. But it will come in time. I do suspect sooner rather than later as her comments and tolerance has sped up a bit. 5
Thetlus Posted February 4 Posted February 4 It's good to see you're making positive progress on this. If I were to add a recommendation, if your wife does/takes part in something you don't or have been hesitant to do(and would appreciate your involvement), try it out (balance things out). If there's nothing like that then don't worry about it. Just a cautionary reminder: even though things are going well, don't outright expect her direct/extensive involvement even if you intend to be patient for it. 1
Dlbychoice Posted February 5 Author Posted February 5 8 hours ago, Thetlus said: It's good to see you're making positive progress on this. If I were to add a recommendation, if your wife does/takes part in something you don't or have been hesitant to do(and would appreciate your involvement), try it out (balance things out). If there's nothing like that then don't worry about it. Just a cautionary reminder: even though things are going well, don't outright expect her direct/extensive involvement even if you intend to be patient for it. No my wife doesn't have a kink part of her. However I do support her in many other ways. As far as I know, she doesn't realize that it's due to me wearing nappies. If that makes sense. But, outside of my nappies, I'll do pretty much anything for her out of how much I love her. We have been married nearly 25 years now. 1
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