Tips For Being A Daddy

[curiositykilledthecat]

Well I have entered a relationship with a fellow abdl and she is a little more dependent than I am so I have become the daddy in the relationship and am just wondering from other 'daddies' what exactly do you do for/with your lil? I can do the basics, changing, bottles and such, however I'm not very authoritative so discipline is lacking and given her past, I don' want to cause any triggers. I can also throw this out for any littles, what exactly do you like daddy or mommy to do?

Again I'm more of a switch so I don't really fit into either role entirely, I mean I do for her on the emotional scale what I'd expect from a paternal figure if I had one, however, the rest of it has been just playing by ear. Any tips, advice or experience would be awesome.

P.S. Baby girl if you're snooping in on daddy's work, you're going to be in trouble.

[Potluck]

Awwwww. The topic of daddies make my heart melt.

Im sure it wouldnt be much more different than being a boyfriend. But youre going to have a big image to uphold considering youre not her "equal" anymore, youre her caregiver, pretty much. You dont want her to lose that father figure image of you. Try to come off as strong and stoic, and always be the one to open the door for her, escort her across the room, etc. Dont be too oversensitive. Dont touch her too much in public, and dont show too much emotion. The less emotion you show, the more she'll appreciate it when you finally do start to show it. Give her a code word to use if she feels unsafe or unhappy with what youre doing, to only use under exreme circumstances (Ie shes sick and doesnt want to play, or youre too harsh with her) but other than that, let her know she has to do what daddy says at all times. Im not sure if youre into public play, but if shes like me, and want to be just another "adult" couple outside of the bedroom, feel free to give her a tug on the waistband and check her, or spank her bottom to remind her that shes your little girl, no matter what.

Most importantly, if she wants to feel like your woman instead of your baby, be sure to keep it in mind. Dont try to force her into baby play. Also, try to differentiate when shes a baby, or not. If she lost her job and shes upset, for example, dont baby talk her and treat her problem like its petty, it will anger her. However, if she loses a toy while regressed, its a much different concept. Respect her womanly achievements on an adult scale, like taking her out to dinner as a reward, etc, then ease her into baby play. Just know when to tell the difference when she wants to be treated like shes little, or when she doesnt. Im sure youll have no trouble. Women arent hard to read

Other than that, its no different than taking care of a real baby. Enjoy

[naughty girl21]

Well from a little's perspective the most important thing is gaining trust in the relationship. The little is naturally more clingy and looks for some guidance but also gives cues on what they want. For example if I am becoming more argumentative typically means I want the big to be more stern. It is like any relationship take cues from each other and talk about it don't try to read her mind because often us littles don't even know exactly what we want. Communication is the key .

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!

[toon]

study her.

know what she wants

when she wants it

how she wants it

be there for her

play with her

nurture

love

understand.

can you tell within a glance what she's thinking?

you have to have that connection.

I foresee your problem to be resentment later on. You've struggled with it even before your decision.

you have a little inside you that wants attention too ya know....and you cant just shut that up because

it will cause more problems.

thats also something you really need to get out of the way.

[Mischa]

Hmm.

I'd say do what you've been doing so far, you're better at this than you think. Be calm, kind, and gentle--don't be too forceful. Remember--toddlers want some independence--the adult ones even moreso.

Basically us toddlers see you bigs as just our diaper changers and cooks.

[Mary-Ann]

don't try to have sex wwith the little .........t

[curiositykilledthecat]

I find myself in a perplexing predicament. I'm enjoying the relationship thus far as so is she and we both connect well, however, I do have contend with my own issues down the road. The good news is she's open to a mommy figure entering in the relationship, albeit I'm monogamous so a sexual relationship between a multitude is not happening on my end, at least not intentionally. I do pretty good with my little. Aside from calling me daddy in public I don't really do the age play out in public however checking the diaper in random places might be kinda fun and I'm sure she'll enjoy it.

[curiositykilledthecat]

don't try to have sex wwith the little .........t

I tread very lightly in this regard as she has her own little saide as well as an actual seperate little personality. My baby girl has DID and I love the child alter as a father would his daughter and am very protective of her. I am pretty good at checking who's up front and what's going on before doing anything intimate.

[OneSickPuppy]

Just like with a sub or slave, require your little one to keep a journal or to write no less than 2 times a week. Quite often little ones have a hard time opening up, and being in charge its hard to always know what they need without knowing whats really going on in that head. Keeping those logs forever on your computer gives you a chance to catch patterns and change things that your little doesnt even know are going on inside them. I have a sub/wife that no longer writes as theres simply no need. We have great open communication most nights laying in bed. We have a babygirl moving in in less than a month who luckily already has been keeping a daily journal long before us. Im very tempted to start the mate on a journal so I can see where she is without having to rely on her telling me.her percieved feelings. Things are a bit more complicated in a poly family.

[curiositykilledthecat]

I'm not into the poly arrangement, however my lil is open to a mommy figure being introduced, as am I, since it would kind of keep us all happy.

[Daddydavid24]

My little girl is open to anything. I'm a sucker for her b-utiful lil eyes. Diaper changes are fun for her cuz I tickle her and play wit her. To all daddys, b gentle wiff ur baby girls

[Guest waslost1234abc]

i have both a mommy and a daddy and a poly is possible in the future....in your case you say u have a little side too that you are repressing out of difference to your gf/little...as others have stated in previous posts, this will not work long term and one of two things needs to happen. one you both switch every once in awhile or you both need to be alright with you looking to another person to provide you with what you are providing your little/gf....or maybe look at a flexible poly arrangement....what ever u decide you can repress your desires....in my case i found both a mommy and a daddy that didnt expect the same in return....we all get what we want out it and because of it it works and we are all happy....u both need to be happy here for this to work longterm....and that means you need to have a talk with your little....as far as other advice be responsive to her needs and i like the advice given to have her keep a journal so that way you can see what is working for her and what isnt....sure you two can talk about it too but there is something about writing down your feelings vs talking about them that allows u to open up more....

[curiositykilledthecat]

Hmm.

I'd say do what you've been doing so far, you're better at this than you think. Be calm, kind, and gentle--don't be too forceful. Remember--toddlers want some independence--the adult ones even moreso.

Basically us toddlers see you bigs as just our diaper changers and cooks.

Don't forget maid and Chauffer too!

Our relationship is rocky, however I have been trying to find a mommy to enter the mix so I can let my little side out. I've given up trying to get my little on to be a switch, her adult side is even less responsible than her little side. I've been talking to someone online and of course I get half a dozen requests a month from guys on fetlife. I'm not gay but not against a daddy, just as long as we're all on the same page.

[curiositykilledthecat]

My little girl is open to anything. I'm a sucker for her b-utiful lil eyes. Diaper changes are fun for her cuz I tickle her and play wit her. To all daddys, b gentle wiff ur baby girls

Changing her is one of the funnest moments I have with her. I enjoy making her jump with an ice cold wipe. Plus it's one of the few times where I can get her to be trly babyish. Her little side is more or less ordering me around and then when I act like an authority figure she pulls "I'm an ADULT baby"

[TheMagicDragon]

Thats kinda cute. I can totally see that.

Keep on truckin' with the AB/DL meetups and come on down here whenever you like. Sooner or later you'll come across a mommy figure that makes you all happy. Life is what we make it!

[curiositykilledthecat]

I met up with Foose at a Starbucks yesterday and we had a good three and half hour long conversation. I do enjoy meeting up with other abdls.