Help, My Mom Found My Diapers

[Pampersboy13]

The other night I came home from work. My mom had been home and left. She was nice enough to change my bed. She got as far as taking the old sheets off and washing them. She always opens my curtins when she does this. I was thinking wow this is nice of her. Well since she was going to be gone all night I figured it would be a good idea to pull out a diaper and relax. So I did my thing then went back to my room and changed. I had left a dirty diaper behind a bookcase in my room all wrapped up in plastic really good so it wouldnt smell. (What can I say Im lazy) So I tossed the other dirty one all wrapped up behind the bookcase and didnt think much of it. Yesterday morning I didnt have school so I figure what the heck diaper time. So I go to grab an attends and I had my diapers stacked in a box the attends on top a goodnight on the bottem. The goodnight was now on top of the pile. I didnt think much of it bc I could have pushed around the pile. So a little while pass's I go to jump in the shower and get dressed. I then go to grab my dirty diapers that I had stashed in my room. There all gone. Im like holy shit. So I go outside and just open the the garbage cans and there was a big black bag that had a hole in it so I look inside and there is aother clear bag with my diapers all un rolled inside with the bag I put them in ripped open. She was the only other person in my room and that I live with. My mom has found my underwear with kid prints on them before and said something to my within like a day or 2. She did not take any of the clean diapers. When she found my underwear she threw it all out. So what does this mean? She accepts it? I am waiting for the ackward talk but am still walking around in a diaper when shes home.

[guitar_a_goo_goo_ga]

damn dude. sounds like you need to get your own place.

[Whitehorse]

You're 21 years old. What's she going to do?

My guess is that she already knew. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if she cleaned your room just to have an excuse to check up on you. Mother's aren't as stupid as we would like to think.

You might make it easier for her starting off by thanking her for cleaning up your room. If she starts to say anything, don't interupt her and give her a full chance to say what she has to say, and make it look like you are interested in her views. Whatever you do, don't put up a wall between the two of you.

Also, don't lose sight of the fact that she has a sex life, too. After all, you are her son. Don't think for one minute that she has never done something she would be ashamed to tell you about. You are on equal footing. If she starts giving you a guilt trip or sounding angry, ask politely what her sex life is like. Find out how she deals with her sex drive when there are no men around or she just doesn't feel like getting involved. Try to even the playing field.

Be honest all the way. Don't lie about anything. Try to build up trust around the facts of the situation. This could turn out to be one of those golden moments in life where your mother ceases to be your boss and becomes a friend. If it turns out that way, it will be just as meaningful for her as it will be for you.

[Nangza]

Were I you, I would let it ride. If she knows, whatever. This subject is never an easy one to broach and she may not even want to. But if anything, let her be the one to approach it. If she is upset by this, or if it is making her uncomfortable, she will let you know. Until then, let sleeping dogs lie. If she doesnt say anything about it, it means she's cool with it to a point.

Good luck, and keep wearing,

Collin

[lucy_22]

I have had a very similar situation. I was like 16 when it happened. I had my own car and was able to drive, so I would drive anywhere poeple didnt know me to buy diapers. I would then leave the diapers in the trunk of my car until my parents were gone and then bring them into my room. Well one day my parents "Cleaned" my room, out of concern for me. They were trying to find anything that might help them understand me (I was a wild child, deeply depressed, on drugs (been clean for six years though now), anti-social, etc). My parents didnt really know about my fetish, once in a while they would find a picture or something on our computer, but never really said anything becuase at that time, I was looking at tons of different porn sites, from straight all the way to extreme S+M and everything in between including AB/Dl sites. So yeah they never really said anything until they started finding more and more AB/Dl pictures on the computer. Then all they did was scream at me and ground me. Then one day as they were "cleaning" my room, they found an actual diaper and to go along with that they had found a notebook full of stories that I had written, and alot of those stories included diapers in some way or another. They didn't say anything at first. I knew that they had found it becuase when I went to wear the last one it was gone. A couple of days later though they did try to say something, well my dad did anyways. I was helping him in the garage and out of the blue he said something along the lines of, "Me and your mom found some stuff in your room." Me being the cocky ignorant kid that I was at the time said something to the effect of, "Yeah so, you guys have found lots of shit in my room." My dad was silent for aminute and then he mentioned the diaper, and I immidiatley closed up. He asked me why I had it, I didn't answer. He asked me if it was a sexuall thing. Thats when I walked away closing all line of communication.

When I closed the lines of communication down it brought two things, one being that later on in life I would look back at that and think to myself that I was a jerk cuase he was just trying to understand. Two the diaper thing never came up again, which I thought was a good thing, cuase I didnt want to talk to my parents about my sex life.

My point being is that if it doesnt come I would definitley let sleeping dogs lie. But on the other hand if it does come dont close the lines of communication. Your mom might be more understanding than you think. Let her ask questions and just answer them honestly. Keep an open mind and listen to what she has to say, see her side of things. Hopefully she'll see your side with an open mind as well.

Good luck to ya.

[Pampersboy13]

I figure that I should just let it be, I have been waiting for her to say something but she hasnt. I just went to do my was and found more of my underwear with prints on it missing. WTF its like i dont go through your shit and what I dont like I throw out. It really pissed me off. I am looking for a house as we speak, just cant find one I like enough to buy. I dont know if she wont say anything bc she knows I want to buy a house and move and doesnt want to be alone, but I am really pissed my shit keeps getting tossed. I wonder now if she found the clean diapers to?

[guitar_a_goo_goo_ga]

i plan to move out this srping, only because moveing shit sucks this time of year. maybe if you were looking for a place in st louis we could split a place.

[SoCalAB]

You are 21 and acting like you are 5. Relax! If you want to tell your mom about your diapered desires be open and honest about it. She's still your mom and I really doubt she is going to freak and kick you out for wearing diapers. It's not like you are doing drugs, right?

[guitar_a_goo_goo_ga]

You are 21 and acting like you are 5.

[Morv]

Lesson: put garbage where garbage belongs. Not behind your shelves.

I have a friend, who many, many years ago, back when we were in grade school decided to do a little experiment. The school we went to had decided to try an experiment by converting from the little half pint cartons of milk to these little plastic baggies you have to stab with a straw.

Well, their experiment, which was designed to reduce waste and cut costs, was a failure. People did all sorts of stupid things. They would regularily punch the straw in one side and out the other, making it impossible to drink the milk, 'cause once they pulled the straw half way back, milk would leak out the other side. Some people wouldn't put their thumb over the end of the straw when they stabbed it in, or they would squeeze the bag rather hard while they stabbed their straw in, and milk would go rainbowing across the lunch room. Hell, if you just got the straw in right then set the baggie down, it would fall over and start draining. They changed back quickly.

Anyway, to get to the point of the story, my friend decided that he would take one of these baggies of chocolate milk and let it sit and see if it became chocolate cheese. Now, he was off base to begin with, because if you let milk sit in the right environment you get something more similar to yogurt than cheese, but beside this point, he forgot his mother. He put the baggie behind their freezer in the basement. His mother was livid when she found it -- they always had a relationship like that, getting mad over little things. Anyway, it was a plastic baggie, easy enough to throw away, and it was garbage. The only reason he got in any trouble was because it was garbage in the wrong place.

Why did I tell this story? I don't know. It was someone else hiding something somewhere that somebody else determined it shouldn't be.

Throw your dirty diapers away. If you're so nervous about putting them in your own trash, take those plastic bags, throw 'em in a brown paper bag, put it in a backpack, and take a walk or a drive past a store that has a dumpster sitting out, and dispose of them there. If you don't have paper bags, buy something from a grocery store that has that option, and walla -- and ask for it to be double bagged... you get the idea.

Best of luck. And, as far as your mother, maybe wait to let her bring it up unless it is really bugging you. Patience is a great virtue.

Oh, and there are good drugs out there that help people calm down. Never underestimate the power of substance abuse.

[Floaty_Boy]

i dont know, i know some crazy parents that have kicked people out of the house for a lot less. no saying that she is going to but i think you are wrong to assume. IMO

My father threw me out of the house at 17 for the most heinous of crimes: going to talk to my mother after he told me not to.

I left and never looked back.

Floaty_Boy

[Pampersboy13]

I'm not worrieed about getting kicked out. My parents are divorced and I know my mom would hate being by her self in our house. (5 bedrooms). I just dont want to have the diaper talk with her ever. There are something you dont want to know about your parents and things you dont want them to know about you. This is one of them. As for moving in with anyone i'm in ny and dont think I would want to live with another AB or DL. I know diapers would be used more often then I curently want to use them. I know I should have tossed them right in the bottem of the can out side but I didnt so I know this is 100% my fault. I have to go back to the way I was when I was 12 with diapers hide them really well and then toss them even better.

[guitar_a_goo_goo_ga]

My father threw me out of the house at 17 for the most heinous of crimes: going to talk to my mother after he told me not to.

I left and never looked back.

Floaty_Boy

my point exactly. sorry to here that. maybe its just a midwest thing wehre people and parents are nuts. most serial killers are from the midwest. but then again the midwest is a large area so take that fact anyway you want.

NE of STL huh. so do you live in Alton then? im south of STL fast eddys is like an hour drive. nifty place it is.

[Floaty_Boy]

my point exactly. sorry to here that. maybe its just a midwest thing wehre people and parents are nuts. most serial killers are from the midwest. but then again the midwest is a large area so take that fact anyway you want.

NE of STL huh. so do you live in Alton then? im south of STL fast eddys is like an hour drive. nifty place it is.

I think people (and parents) are just nuts in the midwest. I use the term "willfully ignorant" to describe most of them. As in "I don't know, and I don't WANT to know" kind of thinking.

And I'm in Godfrey and I've never been to Fast Eddy's. Just not much into the bar/club scene (too much of a geek, I guess).

Floaty_Boy

[diaprbayb]

I think that people that people who make up names usinging an old number of voules even number of constanants, type using more than 2 fingers, reading this post....wet their pants.

ps: pampersboy, wouldn't the next step be to check your computer usage?

[Pampersboy13]

Im not worried about her checking out the computer since its my computer and is locked down VERY well with passwords.

[Morv]

I'm pretty certain it isnt just people in the midwest. I'm putting my money on the average person anywhere, regardless of race, creed, nationality, sex, sexuality, and amazingly, even IQ being pretty stupid. Ignorance and general lack of common sense transcends all boundaries as it plagues human kind.

[diapered1964]

My father threw me out of the house at 17 for the most heinous of crimes: going to talk to my mother after he told me not to.

I left and never looked back.

Floaty_Boy

I was asked to leave the my parents house on my 18th birthday, as my dad politely said " don't let the door hit you in the ass on your way out" , I knew it was time to find a new roof to sleep under.

[Whitehorse]

I was asked to leave the my parents house on my 18th birthday, as my dad politely said " don't let the door hit you in the ass on your way out" , I knew it was time to find a new roof to sleep under.

My son is a particularly well-behaved and hard working individual. Two years before he finished high school (I home schooled him) I told him he will have to leave the house for at least one year. If he wanted to return after that and live at my house for the rest of his life, that would be fine with me. I wanted him to be sure that that was what he wanted and not get trapped. Turns out he went to the same monastery that I did for a year and now spends his summer's riding his bike across the United States. My guess is that parents who ask their kids to leave have their best interests in mind.

[guitar_a_goo_goo_ga]

My son is a particularly well-behaved and hard working individual.

[RMS401]

sounds like you raised your kid correctly by home schooling him. public school is a joke and if i have some lil buggers they are not going to public school. anyway, i only will agree with the bold if you are refering "their" as the parents best interests. i believe that a lot of people suck at rasing kids. thats one reason why i dont want them. oh i here you now "oh you will want them later" if i do then please kill me. there are already 6.4 BILLION people. aint that enough?

Yeah, what is it that makes people with kids feel like they know better than you that you'll want kids? What is that about? Not everyone wants kids, not everyone should have kids, and there is certainly no shortage of them and there never will be.

I like kids just fine, but I have never had that paternal drive that makes people want children so badly. I too love people who say that I should go ahead and have kids because I'll be so glad later. I'm supposed to have kids on your word that I'll want them later? Are they kidding?

The only diapers I ever plan to change are mine.

-RMS

[Whitehorse]

sounds like you raised your kid correctly by home schooling him. public school is a joke and if i have some lil buggers they are not going to public school. anyway, i only will agree with the bold if you are refering "their" as the parents best interests. i believe that a lot of people suck at rasing kids. thats one reason why i dont want them. oh i here you now "oh you will want them later" if i do then please kill me. there are already 6.4 BILLION people. aint that enough?

There are just too many angles to the issue of raising kids. You want the kids to be happy, but happiness is defined by the individual; not parents, teachers, or laws. That means you want to give your kids many opportunities, but if kids don't learn a value system of their own early in life, they will abuse the opportunites and take them for granted. Then, as you say, there are parents who abuse the opportunity of raising kids and try to turn them into slaves. Then there is the case where the chemistry of the kids and the parents just isn't there, even from birth. If the chemistry isn't there, there will never be good communication. And even when the communication is there, the kids want the opportunity to make mistakes of their own and experience life.

A truly wise person will understand these things and approach the situation with compassion.

[diapergirl80]

Yeah, what is it that makes people with kids feel like they know better than you that you'll want kids? What is that about? Not everyone wants kids, not everyone should have kids, and there is certainly no shortage of them and there never will be.

I like kids just fine, but I have never had that paternal drive that makes people want children so badly. I too love people who say that I should go ahead and have kids because I'll be so glad later. I'm supposed to have kids on your word that I'll want them later? Are they kidding?

The only diapers I ever plan to change are mine.

[Morv]

sounds like you raised your kid correctly by home schooling him. public school is a joke [...]

I think this depends greatly on where you are when you got the public schooling. I've talked with a man who was offered a teaching job in Florida -- for something like $27,000 a year, and oh, yes, would he please take a drug test and pay for it himself, and no, they wouldn't compensate him for the price of the drug test. Wouldn't expect to get good schooling in that district.

Now, if you happen to be in an area with better public schools, you might see a different story. For example, the high school I went to was slightly better. There were 14 AP classes offered (for those of you out of country or not familiar with the term, AP is Advanced Placement, which have a nationwide standardized test at the end of each year and grant college credits, the amount depending on your score on the test and the school you go to. Most of my teachers in high school had more than just a Bachelor's and a teaching certificate -- most of them had their Masters degrees. Several of them had multiple masters degrees. (For example, the head of our science department had her masters in math and in physics.) Teachers from my high school have been invited to be on national education advisory boards and economic advisory committees.

I went into my first semester of college three quarters of the way finished with my freshman year, by credits. My younger brother had an entire years' worth of credits at the start of his freshman college year. I was in class with a student who went to the University of Wisconsin -- after his first semester he had senior standing there.

"Public schools" aren't the problem. The communities they are in are the problem. If a community is strong, and it has the financial resources, there can be some very good public schools.

I've met a lot of private school kids -- and most of them were stuck up individuals, who thought they were better than everyone. Oh, most had decent educations, but they had this concept that the gap was much greater than it really was. There are exceptions, I'll admit. (Oddly the coolest output from a private school was an individual who also served time in a military school/detention center.) I know a fair number of home schooled individuals too... and not one of them lacks an odd quality that signals they never fully figured out how to interact with other people... normally. Every situation is different, but interaction, especially at younger ages, with individuals their own age is so important.

Ok, that's my rant on that.

[guitar_a_goo_goo_ga]

"especially at younger ages, with individuals their own age is so important." morv

true, and i agree with all your post. but there are other places a kid can be social. their parents can take them to the park, set up play dates, play grounds, ect. school isn't the only place to be social.

the problem i have with public school, i went to one for all my schooling, is that there are too many kids, not enough funding, teachers dont have the time/resources/will to teach a child the curriculum in the way the child learns best. and sense public school is funded by the government and might as well be a government program the religion issue comes up and now what even to teach students (talkin divine intervention,evelotioun here). also the staff can't lay a hand on a student that gets out of control and i think that shouldnt be. not saying the teacher/staff are obligated to contain the kid but if they wanted to...