[Diapers for haunted houses...]

55 minutes ago, Dubious said:

Well, we often see in "Hollywood" where woman has lines as "ops i wet a little", so maybe its just in the movies..

Yep, Hollywood loves to infantalize women. As a note, remember the vast majority of movies and TV scripts are written by men... 

[Diapers for haunted houses...]

6 hours ago, Dubious said:

I'm sure someone might wet them self if scared enough

Women wet for the smallest things

Wow, that is really really wrong, and kind of sexist.... Women do have a higher tendency towards incontinence, and God did us no favors with out plumbing... gravity is not our friends, but the vast majority of women will go all of their adult lives, excepting old age, with out having an accident. It was a common thing to think women pissed themselves easily in the late 40s and 50s, because it was part of a trend of trying to treat women like children (As a counter movement to the growing women independence movements spurred on by the factories during the war.)

In recent months, I have seen some of the infantilisization of women returning to mainstream thoughts and processes, with some US politicians even starting to suggest women are too "dependent" on others to be voting, etc... so if it seems harsh that I am jumping out at you, I am sorry, I am just pointing out that comments like this are fueling a new wave of misogyny that is trying to put women "in their place."

[Feeling Alone]

On 9/13/2018 at 7:57 PM, GirlyGirl said:

So I was dating this guy for about a year. After a couple months he told me about him being a DL. I found this site and it really helped me understand everything and I was able to feel comfortable about what he was into.

I told him I would give it a try just to see how he felt using it. The first time I ever wore it took me hours to use it, but he wouldn't let me out of it until I did... Which kinda excited me to be honest.

Flash forward a couple months and I've worn a couple times and we even bought me some pink ones that I loved!

I was starting to feel really open with him about all of this and opened up to him saying how I enjoyed wearing.

Flash forward some more and we broke up. We broke up because I couldn't give him what he wanted even though I was giving him everything I had, but it wasn't enough.

All in all he wanted someone he never had to talk to unless he wanted to hook up and I couldn't do that. not to myself. I deserve better.

I didn't realize that once I lost him though I would lose this too... I know technically I can do this stuff on my own. But I haven't accepted that part of me yet.

I was helping him open up about it and he was helping me realize that liking something different is okay.

I can't even think about doing that stuff again without breaking down while thinking of him. So how can I do something I want to do but hurts me at the same time?

I just miss him, and I hate it. 

I want to feel the comfort of wearing again but it just hurts at the same time.

You aint lost nothing. You didn't lose him. You removed a toxic element from your life. This was not a win lose situation for you, but a healthy not healthy situation. Congratulations, you made the healthy choice.

As to the diaper stuff, I think you have accepted it, you just are unsure how to feel about it or want someone else to tell you it is ok. Otherwise you would not of sought out this site. You are at the very least questioning, and are maybe avoiding it because you are conflicted over your ex. What I tell people in regards to Exs... "Feck em!" you broke up, why should they have any control over your life now, or influence, etc... Us girls like to do this to ourselves. We create these stupid rules in our head on how a breakup should go, and yadda yadda. Do you think men torture themselves this way? Sure, they might grieve and be sad over the end of a relationship, but none of them look at things they enjoyed and go, "Whelp, I broke up, I guess I can't do X anymore because she liked it and got me into it." 

My first boyfriend got me into Star Wars... I don't sit there when watching a Star Wars film thinking about him, I just enjoy Star Wars. 

Wear, and when you think about him, just remember, he was terrible for you at the time. He wanted something different from the relationship and that difference had become toxic enough that you wanted out. You took care of yourself, and you should be proud of the fact that you made a hard choice to improve yourself, a choice that many women actively get criticized for. So when you wear a diaper, instead of thinking of him, let them remind you of the strength you have that allowed you to leave toxic situation, let them remind you that you are an independent women who is more than a boyfriend and more than a booty call. 

Strap on that diaper because you want to, not because he wants you too, and enjoy it for you, not for anyone else.
 

[Should I be worried about my friend?]

28 minutes ago, drynot said:

Somebody accusing someone else of something is FAR from PROOF.  You need evidence that the act has taken place.  While this is indeed a horrifically despicable act you have to have factual evidence that it took place before making an accusation.

Make DAMN sure this guy is what you say he is before you move forward.

Ok, if you say so... I mean the OP's sentence is phrased as a 1st hand witness account, so... 

But I get it, we can't risk ruining the life of a guy who likes to jack off to babies.

[Should I be worried about my friend?]

6 minutes ago, drynot said:

I think some folks need to take a step back from this.  Before you go off and ruin this guy's life you need to have some sort of definitive PROOF that he is indeed a pedophile.  Don't just make the accusation willy nilly and destroy the guy.

We do have due process in our respective countries.  Innocent until PROVEN guilty is the foundation of our laws and punishments.

MAKE sure before you go off half cocked....

The OP claims he masturbates to babies having their diaper changed... if we are going to take the OP at his word, we have proof. He has made the choice to not only involve a minor in a sex act, but has made it the focus.

It is pretty cut and dry. He needs to be reported to the police, and the OP needs to distance himself. 

Like I said before, I do not give a shit about his life being ruined. He has had the chance to make choices. When he eventually escalates to actual real life kids, those kids wont have a choice.

[DL's Who Later Became Incontinent By Accident]

8 minutes ago, DiaperboyEddie12 said:

I am sorry they did that to you though one thing I would ask is how are they to know what the difference is between a depend or a tena  It is not like you can see the diaper through your clothing.  And none AB/DL and none Incon do not know the different brands.

 

That bit was more of meant as a joke :-p

[Can you pee your diaper and walk as the same time?]

Yes, although I do wish I couldn't.

[DL's Who Later Became Incontinent By Accident]

5 hours ago, ppdude said:

Incontinence "just happened" to me. One day dry, the next soaking the underwear. Very self-conscious at first, but dulled with time. Now, I thing to myself, "Wow, you're wearing a diaper and it's wet!" Then I say to myself, "Cool." There is not a time, place, or event in which I'm not diapered. Most people, I've found, are too tuned into themselves and don't notice the tell tale signs of diaper use. You get to a point where you lose all your "shame" and don't care anymore.

I get that, but I think that advice is not the greatest. There is a man in my support group who intellectually knows that most people do not give a damn, but for the last 40 years, he has felt shame every time he wet himself. Some people don't lost that shame.

The worse part is you never know until you have been at something long enough to feel it one way or the other. That is the hard part about this. I think an ABDL might more easily be able to manage some of those feelings due to the nature of ABDL culture... but it is dangerous to tell people that feeling of shame will go away over time, because if it doesn't for them, it just compounds their "wrongness" if you get what I am saying.

Also, I don't understand why so many people say no one ever notices. I just the first month of school for me, two people have commented. Now they have been supportive more or less, the first one being "I hope you don't mind me saying this, but your protection is leaking..." and the second time was "Are you wearing depends because the baby?" (They were freaking tenas, learn your diaper brands people!! :-p) 

People notice, especially on girls who have their physical bodies scrutinized more. It may be an age thing to. I am younger, and so maybe people are more apt to notice it on me because it is less expected, where as you get older, or if you appear older, it may be more "normal." Who knows. The best advice I have received (I don't think I have had this problem long enough to give advice outside of products that work for me) is to just take it one day at a time, and deal with the struggles and stress of that day, not the ones of yesterday, or the ones you invent for tomorrow.

[DL's Who Later Became Incontinent By Accident]

6 hours ago, PullUpDiaperLover said:

I have thought about this myself, what if I became incontinent? No way I would want to despite being a DL. There are times where no diapers are preferred or I want to be able to have control. That being said, I cannot imagine that being a DL would not help ease the pain of losing bladder control??? I know some of you said you did not like losing control, but did being and DL help ease the transition?

It made part of it harder, because I was resistant to switch over to more "normal" use adult diapers, which added some stretch in the first couple of weeks as I kept trying to stick to the ABDL styles.

I eventually did switch to the normal stuff for everyday use, which was more comfortable and let me keep most of my "style" in tact, which helped me deal with my self image in public, etc...

 

[Should I be worried about my friend?]

11 hours ago, Warmwetandcozy said:

You might want to try talking to him before going off and telling the entire planet because that could litteraly ruin said persons life everything from dating to getting a job to normal every day tasks its better to risk letting guilty person go than an innocent person hang I would strongly suggest finding out the full reasons and trying every possible solution before contacting police or psychiatry services because both are extremely likely to immediately jump to conclusions that he is a pedophile without conducting any real serious unbiased investigation in which case you may ruin the life of someone who isn't a threat and are you sure it was real toddlers and not adults dressed as baby's and he just forgot to mention the adult part if he is watching actual children I would observe his actions and routine covertly i.e. stalk w/o him knowing and see if spends a notice able amount of time around kids or pays significantly more attention to kids and minors than average adults or if he makes it a habit of being around schools day cares or toy shops or kids sections of department stores without reason dropping his kids off at school should not be taken as unusual behavior how ever if goes pulls into school parking lots and doesn't have a legit reason for being there than that would be cause for concern or gos out of his way to be around minors its one thing to give kid a piece of candy when he's talking to the parents or something and just happens to have it in his pocket its another thing to carry a bag of candy around for the specific purpose of giving it out to every kid he meets or go to the car to get piece and bring it back if you do still believe he's a pedophile after conducting your own investigation then definitely go to the police but if not then don't overreact and ruin someone's life because you were suspicious suspicion is cause for an investigation not a punishment if after investigation suspicion is confirmed then that is cause for a punishment but get the facts before you act because once you act you can't go back even if he's proven innocent in a court of law it could financially ruin him with attorney cost and destroy his reputation I am in no way trying to justify what happened all I'm saying is be sure you know he did the crime before ya make em do the time also I would advise talking to a lawyer and documenting everything 

This is terrible advice. Stalking is against the law.... and this behavior IS a warning sign. As was pointed out, it is just as easy, and in many ways actually easier, to get videos of adults being changed while dressed, acting, and in the settings of a baby.... This is completely inappropriate behavior, and is pedophilia, even if the child and its parents are not being directly harmed in the encounter. He is using children for sexual gratification, and is in fact choosing them over an equally accessible non-child option.

Don't shift the guilt of "ruining" someones life when this guy obviously needs help and it is better he gets it now before he runs the life of a child.

[DL's Who Later Became Incontinent By Accident]

14 hours ago, Mr. Sea Otter said:

That is seriously absurd.

I'm assuming this is due to incontinence and not the pregnancy. Cause my wife was swimming in a public pool until just a few weeks before the due date. And even if it is due to incontinence, that is not a valid reason to keep anyone out of a pool. If you have fecal issues, just wear a swim diaper. If its just minor urinary issues like you describe, it us a total non issue.  I say that as a decades long aquatics athlete, life guard and pool manager.  What I can't say is if it makes sense to try and fight it... the juice might not be worth the squeeze. 

It is a gym... which is women only, and the only one like it with the equipment I use. (The two other women only gyms in walking distance from me weights max out at 10, have bikes only, and focus mostly on Pilates and yoga classes.) So yeah, it is not really worth making a fuss about. The limitations on my workout will pass in a few months, so it is just annoying as feck right now.

[Does it drive anyone crazy that people go by waist size instead of hips?]

1 hour ago, Bettypooh said:

Lol GhostGirl, you are so incredibly right. But try it from a TG perspective and you'll see some of that even more deeply ? Especially clothing fit. I know a woman who wears mens pants because they fit her shape better. I wore womens pants for years with nobody the wiser. Sizing is a huge problem, but to deal with it well you'd need hip size, waist size, waist height, leg diameter, and leg length just to start. And that's just from the waist down; above there has many variations too so buying a dress would have a dozen measurements involved. They could at least standardize the sizes now used but they won't. That's what you get when most fashion designers are men, and the women keep buying those fashions. Styles keep changing because it gets pushed onto women, and instead of rebelling like Poly Styrene did they just go with it. Unless one side or the other changes their approach the problem will continue ? 

A purse is actually kind of handy in a different way since it does better with odd-shaped objects and you're not going to poke yourself banging into something with what is in your pocket. It does take extra effort to keep up with it and to keep it secure. If you're out alone, what are you going to do with it if you want to go do some dancing? And if you have well-rounded shoulders, it never wants to stay put. Hand-held purses take one of your hands out of the picture, so you're always switching it back and forth to use the other hand ?

Dear heart, at the age you have listed here you've got a lot more to see ahead of you that you only have glimpses of right now. You will be deciding whether to fall in line with the rest of the women around you or whether to rebel and deal with those social consequences from now on. You will learn that the world of more mature women doesn't have much space for rebellion, so if you are inclined to change the world, then get going with it now while you can still find other like-minded women to gather your power with. If enough women will reject the problems that get forced onto them they can create the changes they want to see, and those who do that will always have an advocate and supporter in me ?

Bettypooh

 

 

 

I like most women's fashion, and when it comes to the top, I have not normally found to many issues. There is a lot more attention paid to that area with stretch materials, adjustable sizing, etc...

Something they don't bother with with pants. (I think part of it is trying to keep women in skirts/dresses where a lot of these problems don't exist.) But anyways, my rebellion is focused on LGBTQ+ rights in Texas... can't afford a rebellion against women's fashion in Texas too..

[How do you put a diaper on?]

I get the best fit lying down, but I do a healthy mix of both. That being said, I mostly wear pull on styles, and really only worry about tape ons for overnight, and for fun, and my girlfriend normally helps me with both of those.

[Playing Video Games in diapers]

1 hour ago, rusty pins said:

Not on line, but many years ago friends and I used to play cards and old board games in the evening, and later on we would sit at the computer and play a few trivia games, again, not on line.  This thread got me to thinking about that.  It is probably fun to sit at your computer and play on-line games with others across the country while diapered, but wouldn't it be fun if 3 or 4 DL's got together at someone's home to sit and play old fashioned board games or cards?  Au Natural except for your diapers?  I would suggest maybe strip poker not be the best card game,  but maybe a wrinkle would be the loser has to change everyone else's diapers!

I would hate that. My test for doing something in diapers: Would I do it just wearing panties? When the answer is no, it is a no for diapers too...

[Playing Video Games in diapers]

17 minutes ago, baby_jyrbl said:

Oh now it's on!...Just kidding, i hear warthunder is a wonderful game.  I had just started to get through some of the heavy grinding in WoT when I learned about it so it just didn't stand a chance.

Also, no one can claim Blizz games are bad.  Played WoW for years and have spent more than my fair share on Hearthstone

Oh, Blizz games all bad. The thing is, they are enjoyable. Much like movies, you can have a terrible move, but it is still enjoyable to watch. Blizzard does nothing new or innovative, almost always building on what someone else does, and often times not as well as the other guys who did it first. Where they shine is in the polish, and the marketing. I love Overwatch, not because it is a good game, but because I connect with each of the characters I play because they have tons of life, then they play with your head with the Play of the Game stuff, etc... 

There is nothing wrong with the game play... it is just not original. It is TF2 meets Smite/LoL. But the presentation makes it a really fun to play game.

Blizzard makes terrible games that just happen to be a lot of fun.

[Playing Video Games in diapers]

It is all about Warthunder bieotches! :-p

[Does it drive anyone crazy that people go by waist size instead of hips?]

52 minutes ago, Comfortably diapered said:

I have other thing in life that drive me crazy this is not one of them not even close..

This is something in my top ten personally, but it is grouped in with normal clothes issues....

My top ten drive me crazy things that seem relatively inoffensive (So not cat calls, or having to hide sexuality from an HOA etc...)

1.) Paying a bloody extra tax on feminine hygiene products. It is quite literally a tax for having a vagina.
2.) Responses to waxing/shaving. You don't do it, people ask you why not? You do do it, people tell you that you shouldn't do that to please people.
3.) Why. The. Feck. Do. No. Womans. Clothing. Have. Functional. Pockets.
4.) Why do I have to carry a purse everywhere... oh yeah number 3!!!!
5.) Why is it that no two brand use the same women's size chart... furthermore, why the feck do they need women's size charts. Why can't they just freaking use inches like with men!!!!!
6.) If you are not going to make clothing options that do not include adjustable waists, or similar things, them make em freaking elastic or stretchy, because not all woman have the same hip to waist ratio and if you dare fall outside of the three selected "acceptable" ratios, just go feck yourself.
7.) When men, who enjoy pockets, complain about you being angry about no pockets, and they say how much more convenient a purse would be. Go get one, Seriously. Use it for a month. I'll wait.
8.) When people complain about me wearing leggings as outerwear. See 6. If you don't understand why I said see 6, then there is no helping you.
9.) Why are all women's shorts either panty length, or knee length... can there not be freaking middle ground?
10.) No, no a mans T is not the same as a women's T only larger. Go Feck yourself.

[DL's Who Later Became Incontinent By Accident]

1 hour ago, nappylover78 said:

...you're going to be in diapers until then?

I'd try and make the best of it, remember the fact that you enjoyed diapers before. Maternity clothes will make it less obvious and allow you to wear thicker nappies, so less worries about leaks and changes.

The hope is to actually minimize diaper use by then. The plan is that by then, I will hopefully only need a pad or similar as a just case during the day. Hence the exercises, and retaining efforts. The problem for me is I enjoyed them when I knew I could just go back to normal, allowing me to go to the gym, do my daily runs, etc... with the baby, a lot of that stuff has been reduced anyways, like I am not even allowed in the batting cages anymore :-(, but I still try and stay active, and my doctor has only told me to reduce the distance of my daily runs from 4 miles to no more than 2. 

About the only thing that the diapers don't get in the way of is shoulders, chest and arm weight training, and I have been instructed to greatly reduce my weights to a normal person light work out.

To be fair, the baby has harmed my workout routine more than the diapers, but a lot of the stuff left to me after baby considerations is hampered by the diapers. For example, low impact water aerobics and such would be an option, but my gym wont allow me in the pool right now, citing a health risk.

[DL's Who Later Became Incontinent By Accident]

I had just moved into my condo, and had the chance to really play with diapers, but I had snuck them in a lot over the last few years before. Then one day, I was at work. I was feeling feint all day, but I just assumed it was the heat and I needed more water... then about an hour into work, I passed out, and woke up 9 hours after in the ICU already post op. I had a cancerous tumor on my bladder, it was benign... at least we hope it was. It was a type that could be malignant, but there is no sign of spreading, so we may of caught ti before it became dangerous.

Anyways, the tumor had ripped my bladder and was causing me to bleed internally. That morning, I had felt a sharp pain during my work out, and thought I had just tweaked something. What had happened is the small tear became a not so large tear.

They ended up removing a large portion of my bladder, and while it did not make me incontinent technically, I was left running to the bathroom every 5-20 minutes, and I became functionally incontinent. I was willing to just give up and not even try, but then my doctor talked to me about an implant that can help me.

I have since been doing pelvic floor exercises, and focusing on trying to use the toilet during the day in such a normal way as possible. I still wear, as even though I am improving, I can not sit through an hour and a half lecture without going to the bathroom at least twice, but I wear as thin of stuff as possible without risking leaks, and night time I always wake up wet.

How I feel about it? I hate it. It was fun when it was a choice, but when there is nothing I can do about it. There are times where I am sitting in class, especially in one of my big lectures that by the time I make it to the door, and out, and down the hall, around the corner, to the nearest bathroom, I will have already wet, so... I just sit there in the class, wetting myself, and I hate it so much.

My surgery is scheduled for next March because they don't want to do it while I am pregnant, so...

[Does it drive anyone crazy that people go by waist size instead of hips?]

12 hours ago, Spokane Girl said:

I always get waist gaps as well. While jeans may fit me perfect around my buttocks, they are loose around my waist. Or when jeans do fit me well around my waist and buttocks, the pants are real loose. That is just the way my body is. Luckily lot of bottoms have elastic in the waist and ties. 

My hips are 35 and a half inches at 5 7 and 120 lbs. I weighed 118 today when I weighed myself. My hips were 38 inches at 140 lbs and 37 inches around 130 lbs. My hip size is based on how small my butt will get. But my waist size is 27 inches. 

Hips are 26 inches, and Waist is 19 inches... at least before a baby got put in ma belly... now my waist and hips are elastic only as I refused to measure them now.  My ratio has evened out a bit during the pregnancy so it has actually been easier to find close that fit, but that will go away after the birth, and I am told that my hip to waist ratio is probably going to change...

[Does it drive anyone crazy that people go by waist size instead of hips?]

6 hours ago, Spokane Girl said:

Whenever people are talking about diapers, especially toddler pull ups or Goodnites or baby diapers,, they will mention waist size instead. 

Waist size does not determine what diapers will fit. If I always went by waist size, I would always be getting clothes that don't fit me. But a dress based on waist, oh no, it is too tight around my buttocks and hips and thighs but but but it had my waist size listed in this size, what the heck? I buy pants based on my waist size, oh no can't get them on passed my thighs. Or I see youth diapers listed in my waist size, I buy those but then I find I can't get them on around my butt and hips and below my navel because the sides are not stretchy. And baby diapers don't go up to our waist because the diapers are not long enough. Our waist is where our belly button is, not below it. Another reason why this waist size stuff drives me crazy. 

On average medium diapers say they fit waist 32-44 waist size but those diapers still fit me because of my hip size so it makes the tapes lopsided and crooked. The top two are close together while the bottoms ones are further apart on the diaper.  Now packs say waist/hips because you go by whatever is bigger to determine what size will fit. 

So this is why I always go by hip size than waist. Does this drive anyone else crazy when other ABDLs go by waist size instead of hips?

 

This is a pretty common issue for women that I have talked about a lot. I have a trim and skiny torso, but no amount of diet and exercise will make my hips, the product of my sex and bone structure, get any smaller. This is why I tend to wear skirts and dresses, or when I do wear jeans, shorts, etc... I wear them on my hips as it is easier to find a pair that fit me that way, instead of trying on thousands of pairs of jeans to find ones where the designer thought about making it stretchy enough to get over ma lady hips.

Now, target has a great line of stretch women's Levi's which are affordable, and do a good job, but their waists are weird, and I just don't like em.

[What Else Do You Wear To Bed With Your Diapers?]

I just wear pjs, which are sometimes just a long shirt/actual night gown (This is pretty rare because I hate getting twisted up in them.) More normal are pj shorts, and a tank, or flannel pants and a tank.

I used to go to bed with nothing but panties during the summer, but when I moved deeper into the city, and was no longer living with my father, I didn't feel safe being nearly nude anymore, and wanted to have something on in case I needed to run away like a fire or something. (Which was a good idea because we had to evacuate the other day because someone set their kitchen on fire while drunk.)

[Incontinence and Sex]

We're figuring it out still, but she doesn't go down on me... there is just to high of a chance that I will leak on her face. I have been trying to hold it.... but it takes all of my attention, which makes you know what not fun. So place towel, and as often as not, she gets me there while I am still in my protection.

[Do you REALLY Want to become Diaper dependent?]

So... for you frequent flyers... why not just get TSA pre-screened instead of risking embarrassment? Yeah, people who flying once in a blue moon might have trouble getting pre-screened, but MarkSmith, if you fly as much as you say you do, and same to do based on the content of posts, why not just get Pre-screened?

I have flown four times in the last two months, 6 times if you go back 6 months, and the six month timeline includes international. Pre-screened for it all. The international flight, I was wear briefs, but I was still continent then, I was just travelling alone, and lets just say I have some issues with airport bathrooms. I was wearing the briefs until I could get on the plane and use its lavatory. 

The more recent flights, I couldn't stay dry by my choice... but in all the above cases, I was pre-screened so none of it mattered.

[Public Bathrooms]

3 hours ago, Diaperedrider said:

Ghost girl I am curious if you don’t mind me asking...you mentioned a support group. Is it an incontinence support group? If so is it an online one or offline like at a hospital or something? 

The reason I am asking is I have always wondered if such groups have existed before the internet because years ago back in the late 80’s  I was outside at the exit of a hospital when my good friend had his first baby and while we were talking, 2 girls around our age at the time (mid 20’s) came out talking and as they past, one of them had a wet pattern coming down from her waist in the back like you do when you are wearing plastic pants and your diaper is soaked and leaked past the waistband when you were seated. She did not seem at all concerned either so I wondered if they just finished up with some type of support group.

I was referred to it by my DO to help ease into it and deal with the problems that come up. There is a lot of good advice on sites like this, but the problem is if you are not a rah rah rah diaper time person, this page has far more bad advice than good (Simply because asking for advice on how to minimize diaper use and need on this site is kind of anathema to why most people are here.) and online incontinence groups get trolled hard... so in person is the way to go.