Hello Now Dry. Well they are right its best just to tell her the truth. My husband on the third day of knowing me said i have something I really need to tell you and I said what. So he pulled out this diaper, well at first it was a little shocking but he explain his past and he explain that it helps him relax after very stressful days. The way I saw it then and now hes not hurting himself or me and it helps him feel better has well makes me feel even more needed when he wants me to dress him. Give her a chance to say what she will say and also get use to the idea. Give her time to work it out in her head, explain why it makes you feel better and how it helps with stress. Tell her you love her and didn't want this to be the thing that break your relationship. Just take it one step at a time. If she is met to be with you she will accept it, don't shy away from who you are. Just be yourself.