[What Happened?]

What happened to the site?

weres the chat room? and why is everything so diffrent?

????????/

im already having a bad day and it's getting worse.

im so upset i could .... *sigh*

don't cry sweet baby kalie, the site will be back soons, have faith and a better day tomorrow ok. Quabbaby big huggles

[Gathering In Vegas]

Vegas is fun, here is a sneak peak at some of the good times we are having. The parade went off without a hitch and now we are about to head out and terrorize the town. The soggy bottom boys are at it again.

Hiii BriGuy, I really enjoyed seeing your pics and knowing you guys had such a wonderful time Wish I could have been there to enjoy it with you, oh well, maybe someday

[Gathering In Vegas]

Hi Q,

Thanks for the note, sorry you cant make it.I know its hard, especially these days. Its even hard being as close as I am, I kow it will cost me a few hundred bucks and time off from work, which is a gamble....but cest la vie I guess.....Hope to maybe catch ya next time around then.

qwack

Thanks square_duck it would really be nice to meet you all out there. Hey don't gamble with your job these days The econ is going ta hell in a hand basket i think. Oh well good luck and take care, catch ya around Quabbaby

[Gathering In Vegas]

Duck, Tami and I all have each others cell phone so its just a matter of calling to meet up. We haven't decided where to stay yet. That is in discussion, was hoping to have lunch with Tami today to see where she's staying.

~Brian

Hiiiya Bri, Duck, and Tami, really wish that I could join up with you people in Vegas for a WONDERFUL time but unfortunately can't make the trip. I'm way back here in Boston Ma. and working all crazy hours. Maybe someday Quabbaby

[I Have Become Inco....]

punk180, your comments proves you are fabricating this.

DIRECT COPY FROM http://www.medterms.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=8786

Definition of Sacral vertebrae

Sacral vertebrae: There are 5 sacral vertebral bones. They are represented by the symbols S1 through S5 and are situated between the lumbar vertebrae and the coccyx (the lowest segment of the vertebral column). The sacral vertebrae are normally fused to form the sacrum.

Any other medical dictionary will tell you the same.

I deliberately lied to prove your inconsistency. Incontinence can not be caused by one of your sacral vertebrae damaging your spinal cord cause by average age of 4/5 years old, the five bones fuse together as ONE. The two reasons that they are separate is so you can fit and twist between your mothers hips. Otherwise, the physics would crush and tear your spine apart. The reason they fuse is protect the primary function of the sacral spinal cord - controlling reproduction. You are at least 10 years of age, so these bones are as one. If you had fractured the bones, in all cases, a splinter or two would rupture and pin the spinal cord. That strain would stop ALL impulses from traveling down the spinal cord. YOU WOULD BE DEAD

That SCARES THE HELL OUT OF ME babykeiff, I hope and pray dat never ever happens to me You sound like your very very knowlegable in the medical field for sure

[What Happens At Night?]

Bowel incontinence daytime does continue overnight. It however, can be controlled to a certain extent by diet and timing, or decent diapers. Those of whom are bowel incontinent should be able to calculate within 1-2 hours, when they will mess - this is all dependent on their diet, and its water content. As a result, the average time from eating and soiling runs about 5.5 hours, so if you wish to avoid messing overnight, don't eat a large/substantial meal within that time frame.

However, if you do due to your schedule, then wear cloth overnight. They are much better at containing mess than disposables, and due to the associated wetting, and the wet cloth, the 'hard stools' that others have mentioned that tend to be difficult to clean up shouldn't be a problem, and even if they are, a warm shower in the morning eliminates that.

On a personal nature, since I am totally incontinent, I wear cloth overnight and 6/7 mornings wake up with wet and messy diapers - have done for the past 30+ years, and never found a problem or discomfort. The only leakage that I suffer is a little wetness if I fail to correctly check the elastic on the plastic pants - but I always wear a plastic pants that is 2-3 sizes larger. This allows the pants to create a proper seal on cloth.

The only time I wear disposables is when I do not have a choice - ie in work or while not at home. Adult disposable diapers were designed for the immobile adult that is under constant nurse care, and to be changed within a short time after being wet/soiled. As a result and opposite to baby diapers, they can not contain wet/mess over a large time frame on a mobile/semi-mobile adult.

Mathematically, a baby pampers size 4/5 is actually more absorbant than most if not all adult medium/large diapers. If you don't believe me, mix up a salt/warm water solution, pour equal amounts on until saturation and measure the absorbancy of your adult diaper compared to a pampers. I only wish that adult diaper manufactures would even make a diaper with either the same or a pro-rata capacity.

WOW babykeiff, never knew that about the absorbancy ratio between pampers and adult dispos. Yeah really !!!! wish they did make em dat absorbant for adults Thanks for the info

[Bambinodiapers Official Response To Canada Issue]

I wish Wal-Mart would consider carrying them, that way I would have a better choice of diaper to wear, instead of those cheaply made Depends and generics that they carry now.

Yeah I M Soaked, could'nt agree with you more there. Been wearing depends maximums or the generic brands at Wal-Mart or CVS pharmacys cause their less expensive than abenas, etc. I'm really considering getting a bag or case of the bambinos classics soon. I hear their really good.

[Wife Is Having A Hard Time With This...]

Nrrrg...

This one paragraph confuses me. You claim to empathize with homosexuals. And if that's merely on the basis that you are an AB/DL, then I think you've made a mistake in the comparison. You go onto say that Christians should judge based on scripture, and what I know about Western Christian scripture is that it views homosexuality as "sinful" i.e. "wrong." So how can you claim to empathize with homosexuals when you follow scripture that declares it's wrong?

Just wondering if you could clear that up for me..

Mean Mommy, he was just charactorizing the non-acceptance issue between the AB/DL community and the gay community in the eyes of the general public sort-a-speak. Not the religious or moral implications of the two lifestyles. I hope I've been somewhat helpful. Quabbaby

[Remembering Heidi Lynn]

Ever since I read the article about Heidilynn in the Phoenix several years ago I had wanted to contact her. Reading her posts I could tell she was very intelligent and well-spoken. I had so many questions for her about how to come to terms with being a diaper lover. I fantasized about meeting up with her and having a great discussion and coming away with not only a great deal of answers but with a friend as well. She seemed like she would be that type of person.

Though I never did get to meet her she has taught me at least one very important thing with her passing - don't put off 'til tomorrow what can be done today. It suppose that that is how she lived her life after she 'came out'.

I hope she knew of all the lives she touched of people whom she had never met. And finally, that she did make a difference.

I've chatted with her here in the past and really felt for her. She was truely an angle. This news has broughten tears to my eyes and will mourn her passing for a long time to come. It would have been a great honor to have been able to meet her. Its true that she was a great cornerstone for our community. She will be truely missed God rest your soul Heidilynn bye Quabbaby

[83 Million!]

Thanks DailyDi for the info. The stats are INCREDIBLE WOW!!!! I had a feeling that there were alot of AB/DLs out there but that many !!! AWESOME Too bad there could'nt be that many mummys too heehee

[Halloween Costumes!]

LOL Heeheehee, mee wiked dat one DiaperBoyKR Heehee

Meant to say, Glad you all came out of it ok though, better to hit da squirrle than da deer

[Halloween Costumes!]

Nah, it wasnt anything that interesting. We were driving on a US highway (non-interstate) in the backwoods area of Pennsylvania after dropping off a friend of ours at his house about 30 miles from the school. The deer jumped out in front of our car and we had like 10 seconds to avoid it. If we knew what we knew now, it would have been better just to hit the darn deer, but meh. We almost ended up smashing into a tree on the opposite side of the highway. Its like that GEICO commercial where the squirrel makes the guy run off the road, then goes and fist pounds with another squirrel. Hehe.

LOL Heeheehee, mee wiked dat one DiaperBoyKR Heehee

[Hi From Minnesota]

just saying hi. I need to get a big thank you to all on this site. I have been a ab for many years now and i finally found the woman for me. she not not know anything about this ab's. she was very open minded on the matter. she found this site she had many questions and you answered them and now I think she has more fun then me. so THANK YOU ALL

Welcome to DD Fozzie bear. I'm also very happy that you found a dear lady that not only understands, but also ENJOYS as well I wish you both the vey best

[Wearing Diapers In School]

More than a few times before this I have admitted at age 12 I reverted to bedwetting. That was 1976, 20 years before GoodNites. Yes, Pampers were on the market, but no way were large enough for me. Lucky that my family was diaper friendly, meaning pinned gauze with separate vinyl panties.

Would anyone want to wear that kind of diaper to middle and high school? Of course I considered myself fortunate I did not start day wetting until my senior year of under-grad. As others here have said, by college and grad school your fellow students are focused on their own grades, not your diapers.

The daughter of a good friend did lose all her bladder control before age 13. It turned out Alexis' flow rate was enough for school GoodNites were not effective. Instead she needed to use the school nurse's office to change her Attends during the lunch period. When I was in law school I had also worn Attends to class.

Another woman I know has a daughter (Ginnifer) who never gained any bladder control. They live in a state which did not allow disposables until 1992, so for many years Ginny needed to change her own cloth diapers with Velcro tabs. By middle school she started wearing Attends during the day.

My youngest sister Missy lost all her control at 15. Lucky for her by then Attends were available. Missy always carried a large purse, but since her middle and high school did not have a nurse's office, Missy had to change in the girl's restroom.

You can be comforted that Missy, Ginny and Alexis all found ways to head off teasing. None made a huge secret of their diapers. All were ready to tell the first didee joke. It must have frustrated bullies since how can you tease a person who wets who is not ashamed? Alexis was one of the first to see Spy Kids back in 2001. Assuming some of her classmates also saw it, and would remember the big reveal toward the end, painted "Diaper Lady" on a pink back-pack. Alexis says people laughed with her and did not tease.

Maybe our experience is not the same as yours. All of us have profound incontinence. While we were teens none of us were into ABDL. Perhaps there are other teens who decided to wear diapers in high school because of an attraction, but none have ever discussed doing so with me. Bummer your parents are not supportive of your infantilism. Often parents do not understand when people want to wear diapers. That is sad.

Thank you very much Angela B. A very supportive post. Even though I'm an AB/DL and my need for diapers is more of an enjoyable emotional need, I do have accidents that are uncontrollable at times so diapers are also a practical need. Even my own mom and my wife cannot bring themselves to accept or understand my need for diapers, and "YES" I do find that VERY SAD INDEED.

[What Am I?]

a nice fetish!

I agree too 4TPullups, its a WONDERFUL FETISH

[White House Change]

Between McCain, her baby son, and grandchild on the way she'll be changing quite a bit!!

Here's another good one:

Reporter (to McCain): What kind of change do you favor?

McCain: Depends...

With a grandchild on da way it should then be a BAMBINO's change heehee

[White House Change]

*giggles*

Very funny.

Giggles from mee too, heeheehee very funny indeed

[Anyone Up For Las Vegas!]

mostlikely you are going to have to do some travel in some way or another if you want to have an ab get together, but driving up to nashua is a lot cheaper then flying out to las vegas....

Ya sarah, I agree with you there but I do like going on long rides anyway, just got to save up a few more pennys for da gas heehee Thank you, hugs, Quabbaby

[Anyone Up For Las Vegas!]

I know there are a lot of new england ab/dls and others in this community out there, and p-town in hte off season might be a perfect place,as they are a SUPER accepting town, and its cheaper in the offseason.. but not TOOO off, like early may or mid september, while the restaurants are still open.. but theres lots to do there... take the ferry to boston for a day trip, whale watching tour, just playing on hte beach etc...etc... put the word out there and see if any of the other new england/east coasters are up for a get together.

Thank you so much Sarah, I'll definately check it out. I remember seeing a section here on the DD thats for new englanders get to gethers but they were from up in the northern part of the state and new hampshire. P-Town sounds like fun. Catch ya later Sarah, take care. Quabbaby

[Your Thoughts.]

i dunno... i just wear when i want to wear and dont wear when i dont want to.

Seriously, there is so much emphasis put on "oh my gosh why dont i want to wear a diaper? but i like diapers so why dont i want to wear one???" because you just aren't in the mood.

Like sex, or masturbation, for the most part, people have times when they want to get off, and other times when they dont.

Or maybe like craving your favourite food, sometimes you just really want chinese, and then other times you just can't even stand the thought of it.

Or like a certain pair of shoes, sometimes you want to wear them all the time, and then there are days when you just want to try something else.

Seriously, start paying attention to all the other things in life you engage in in cycles, and you are going to realize diapers are just one more thing sometimes you are in hte mood for and sometimes you are.

I love movies, but that doesn't mean i want to watch a movie every single night for ever and ever.

I love family guy, but there are some nights when i just dont want to watch it.

I used to watch spongebob every day before we went to work, now not so much. Do i freak out and thing "Oh my god but i love spongebob whats wrong with me that i dont want to watch it?" course not.. i just find something else to do instead.

You like wearing diapers. It doesn't mean you have to want to wear them all the time, and it doesn't mean you haven't accepted yourself.

Instead of spending all your time wondering why am i not wanting to wear diapers, just do something else that you DO want to do.

Just myinsight.. and when i say you, i'm not talking about any particular person, i mean you in the third person plural type sense.. you as in anyone....

AWESOME SARAH, you explained it WONDERFULLY "cheers"

[Your Thoughts.]

There are those of us who are content with wearing all of the time, they can't get enough or don't have a choice. For those of us who aren't that way we seem to fall a binge and purge cycle. Where we can't get enough, then can't get far enough away. So, for those of you who don't wear all of the time, or loose interest; what do you feel when you don't want to wear. Is it a self loathing, hatred, self embarrassment, or just a loss of interest?

I seem to be torn right now, less interested in these things. Not that I am purging everything away from me right now. I just don't want to wear. I know it will come back and I will have these feelings of can't getting enough. I swear its hell on my psyche. I have come to accept this part of who I am, I don't throw things away, I don't hate myself. I just can't seem to get rid of the cycle. Ducky's post made me think of this. Anyway, a penny for your thoughts; anyone?

~Brian

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Hello Briguy, I can surely identify 100% with you on the binge and puge cycle. Before I found the AB/DL communities out here I did'nt understand myself or why I had the OVERWHELMING NEED AND LOVE to wear diapers. So when my needy desire arose, I would satisfy that needy desire at that moment or cylce, for whatever time it was for, and then purge for that time until it hit me again. Having terrible feelings of inadaquacy, weirdness, and the TERRIBLE feelings of aloneness and shame with this (God forbid anyone finding out !!!!) I would purge it as much as possible and keep it a grave secret. NOW, knowing that I'm apart of a very very large and ever growing community, I've been able to become at peace with my discovered " inner child ". Just knowing that we're in noway differant or alone with our great love and desire to wear diapers allows me to be comfortable to wear whenever I want, and where ever I want and feel no shame, guilt, or embarrasment to ever feel the need to purge anymore which in a way is like trying to deny or run away from who and what you are, a human being thats in touch with his inner child. Someone told me once a long time ago, REMEMBER !!! GOD DOES'NT MAKE JUNK !!!!! We're all differant in our own ways yet we're the same in a big respect. I've really tried to express myself here in the best way that I can. Self expression is something that I'm still working on Hope I was of some help, God bless Quabbaby

[Anyone Up For Las Vegas!]

Quabbaby, did you go to ptown for the babydoll weekend?

I hear there are quite a few ab's who go to that, gay, straight, whatever.. you should check it out for next year and maybe try to organize those east coast ab's to do a get together there.

i'm originally from new england myself.. and my friend spent all summer living in provincetown its definitely a great place to organize an ab get together.

THANK YOU SO MUCH SARAH P-Town is a whole lot closer than Las Vegas or the west coast although I really would love to meet all of you people that I chat wif here. Your really cool and supportive people. I'll try that out though Sarah and let you know how it goes. For many years I lived on Cape Cod and really loved it but had to move back closer to Boston since thats where I work. Long commutes these days are a killer on gas

[Anyone Up For Las Vegas!]

Maybe if we all had rooms at the same hotel, that might also make things work better in the get together area. what have you found so far??

One thing I would love to do is see the fountains at the Bellagio. I have seen them on youtube, and they look amazing....dancing to the 'Ecstasy of Gold" from 'The Good the Bad and the Ugly' (my fav all time 'sketti western) sent chills down my spine. GOTTA SEE THAT

I know there are a lot of other attractions to see also. Unfortunately , the one thing I REALLY REALLY R*E*A*L*L*Y wanted to see The "star trek adventure" closed last month No fair!

Anyways, I know there is a lot to see and do there....besides gamble,....UGH. I'll get a "things to do book" or surf around to see whats available. I don't gamble and most of the shows there are all tacky....maybe catch Jay Leno???? if hes doing something that weekend. Might be cool

Lets see what we can cook up for the hook up!!

qwack

Just wanted to say square_duck that me too am sorry dat they closed the star trek museum. Mee too am a treky

[Anyone Up For Las Vegas!]

Ok so this might take some organization, but bri and tami and heidi lynn seem to be good at get togethers,... what about planning one for say... 9-12 months from now? not like a convention where people send you money or anything, but what about saying.. ok second weekend in august (say for friday saturda and sunday) we are going to have a get together in san francisco, or las vegas of chicago or anywhere (sounds like making it for a pride event works out well because there are other festivities people can enjoy and its a more accepting environment to be out in your ab gear it sounds like).. anyway so make a date far enough way people can get time off work, can save up money, and are able to get in touch with others in their area who may want to carpool, or share a hotel room, or anything of the sort....

It doesn't have to be a lot of planning, just picking a date and a place/city, and maybe helping to put people in the same cities into contact with each other and see if carpool etc.. is a viable option...

just a thought, might not be feasable but i bet it could happen.. for you east coasters, there are great little vacation towns like P-town mass, which in the off season is not expensive and is used to seeing lots of diversity in people and clothing...

anyway, maybe i can help doing internet research or somethig for you.. finding out about pride events of fetish balls that might be a good place/time to meet around.. not that you HAVE to go to those events, but it seems like a good place to 'blend' in for those who have never worn around others, or what not.....

Briguy, Tami, Sarah_ab, this all to me sounds absolutely WONDERFUL. Really wish that I could have a get-to-gether with you all but I live just south of Boston, Mass.-on the south shore and its impossible for me at this time to make that long trip. Maybe some day I'll be able to. If you would ever like to chat my e-mail is dowpeg@yahoo.com Maybe something somewhere in-between that pops up, I could work out perhaps. But anyway, again, its a WONDERFUL IDEA guys. Quabbaby

['wearing Very Occasionally' Crew, Sign In!]

WEARING VERY OCCASIONALLY ...What's that ?

This past month I've gotten to wear maybe 10 days of each two weeks. Night and day. Before that my wife was not working and I got to wear my cloth diapers only 1 or 2 times a week. She does not know and I am not about to tell her. Just make sure that when she is home from work, that there are no signs of diapers around. Nothing. I slipped up and she noticed "dust" in our bedroom. Baby powder gets into the air so easily. So now I dust before she comes home, every other weekend. Someday I know I will have to "purge" for the last time. I would hate for her to find out over my dead body.

HEY ! You story tellers out there. Try that one on for size: The grieving widow who finds out her late husband was a diaper lover and had all this stuff stached secretly around the house and files on the computer. I sometimes try to put myself in her place. See things as she might if she found out. And YES !! I will purge before the end of my days. But wearing soft cloth diapers is so enjoyable!

HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

Hey babylin, I too think that I'm in the same boat as you. One day when shes home all the time I'll have to purge or go into hiding heehee Like i had mentioned before that its really tough being with someone that can't accept our diaper needs. Oh well, life goes on