shaunk1991

Thank you. I would also rather deal with being diapered all of the time instead of dealing with something being attached to me and basically having no control over it.

I've finally got my appointment to see the surgeon to discuss the operation and to try and fully understand what is going to happen and what it will be like after it has been done.

The surgery is a Colectomy. They are planning to remove the colon and reattach the small intestine to the rectum. The only reason they are doing that is because the bowels are having very little to no movement at all.

Sorry it's took me so long to reply, just had to get my head around a few things.

I have recently been offered this surgery and I'm trying to find out as much as I can before accepting. If you don't mind (and if you've had it done) would you let me know how it went and what life has been like afterwards.

This is one of those things that I have started talking about and then changed subject half way through because I feel stupid.

I've had really bad bowel problems for years and lately it's going back to how it used to be E.G. Stomach pains, Overflow, loss of appetite ect. And since Overflow is becoming regular again I have thought about using 24/7.

I was having a conversation with my mum earlier about my problems and ways to help. I was talking about last night and how I had a very close call with the toilet. I then started going on about wearing a diaper all of the time just to try and save myself any embarrassment in case I don't make it on time. When I was talking about it I was kind of saying it with a bit of a jokey tone to my voice so she just passed it as a joke.

Thank you for your advice. I think that's the reason I've been told to wait as long as I can so I can try find a better solution. Thanks again Shaun

Forgot to mention that my appointments are with a surgeon. my bad :/ I was sent to see him after discussions with my consultant about the problems starting again and he said instead of being passed from doctor to doctor again he would hand me straight over to the surgeon.

It's really hard to do things when you have Short Term Memory Loss :/ otherwise I would be taking care of this myself.

Well that went better than expected. I walked in to the sitting room and my mum just said to me "did you leave an incontinence pad in the washing basket?" which I obviously replied yes and she said to my sister that she knew she wasn't going crazy and then said that I shouldn't feel stupid about getting them and that I should have just told her about it.

I am going to explain that I am using them in case I can't make it to the toilet and that it makes me feel safe knowing that they're there. Like I say I'm just waiting until no one else is around so I don't feel embarrassed telling everyone.

Thank you everyone for your advice

Thank you for your advice. I'm planning to speak to her when she comes home and when it's just us two so nobody else hears what is being said.

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I also know for a fact that that she won't mention it unless I say something first

I share a room with my younger brother so after everyone has went to bed I have to wait for my brother to fall asleep before I can get a diaper.