willow

You can stop drinking but you'll always be an alcoholic. You can not diaper, but you'll always be AB/DL. Not the same anyhow, diapers are sexually wired in infancy (for most), alcohol isn't (I hope to God).

Now who's being harsh... She's just panicking, perfectly understandable after you catch your significant other half in Pampers sucking his thumb and sitting in his own mess. But seriously, if this relationship gets turned around I'll be extremely surprised, I'd put money on it. You could at least have told her after a few months that you were a bit kinky/deviant and that one day you're going to have to sit down and have a chat, but just hiding stuff for ages is akin to lying your ass off. You're done. You can't quit diapers, ask anyone here who's tried that. Anyone make 6 months?, pft.... I suggest you calmly sit down, explain the situation to her, and she takes you as you are or you walk out the door. Don't let it hit you on the way out.....

That sucks, but you brought it upon yourself. I'm guessing next time you'll be up-front about it, and not have to come out the hard way. Do yourself a favor and just move out. You don't deserve to be treated like a baby, even if you want to be. Both of you are going to need some space.

Point of the matter is this, in most western countries possessing photos or images of anyone under 18 in anything even resembling a sexual situation, or which could be construed as able to sexually excite will get the holder locked up for a long time. I have a big problem with the Diaper Art in the photo gallery here for this reason. Get your laptop seized at an airport and try explaining that to a judge. All it takes is one expert to state that the image probably depicts someone under 18, and it's off to hard time you go. I don't collect photos unless I know the source and they state they have 2257 information. I don't collect stories unless they're clear on ages. I leave any chat room where a minor reveals themselves. Inside this site we understand each other. In the real world we don't stand a chance.

You have some great advice above. The long and short of it comes down to trust. If you are honestly asking yourself if she'll go and tell your deepest secrets and betray that trust, then you should be very wary. I told my GF around the time I told her I loved her, but I wouldn't love or trust her if I thought she'd pick up the phone and tell me friends, even after we might break up. Doesn't even enter my head. If it's entering yours, give it some more time.

They'll do this for you at any Nevada house of ill repute. Just ask ahead of time and be discrete.

http://www.truecrypt.org/ Use it. The last thing you need is someone thinking they've seen something they haven't and making your life more complicated. If you need help, post here and I'll guide you through it.

Thanks to all who took the time to read and reply. The post I originally made was actually pretty reflective, if I have a choice I've made it and I'm comfortable with it, but I was really curious how others see things. A little background on me if you care. I'm 34, divorced with a young daughter who I care for 50% of the time. Diapers were not a secret in the first marriage, on my birthday I'd even get a change. For the most part they were tolerated and the 'balance' was generally maintained. Of course when the divorce came up she threw the issue at me in court which was very painful, but it didn't get her anywhere and I moved on. A while later I meet a nice girl and after a few months we realize we're in love and that means it's only fair to let her know early what she's getting herself into. Her jaw pretty much hit the floor, but as long as she can stick her head in the sand she pretty much ignores it. I have no real wishes to dangle diapers in front of her, to me it's a fairly solitary pursuit, I insist on being discrete and not letting the 'balance' get off kilter. At the same time I'm not going to live a lie and I'm not going to deny what I am. This means that I generally politely excuse myself and go home if I feel the need to, and if she asks me why and I ask her back if she really wants to know, then I respond that she really doesn't. She gets upset because I ask her to call before she comes over for her own good. She gets upset because she thinks diapers are more important than she is. She gets upset because she thinks it's strange and can't understand why I won't go and get 'help'. At the same time she's a smart cookie and can rationalize things, but I guess from the outside looking in it's got to be confusing. I'd love to communicate about it, but she really doesn't like talking about it much. She's getting more verbose, but her head is still in the sand. I'm going to go to the shrink anyhow. I'll spend an hour sitting there telling her that I'm perfectly happy, I'm attending because someone else isn't and get my expensive advise and go home and relay the message. Some things just have to be gone through. All in all, I'm a pretty happy DL kind of guy, who doesn't really need or want a DL partner, just someone I can be honest with, and I've got it. It's just every now and then a curve ball comes around and that's why I asked my question. Thanks again.

So, The girlfriend is having a fairly hard time understanding my DL side. I daren't even go near the AB stuff which thankfully isn't all that prevalent. She gets so very upset when I decide to go home to 'do my thing' as she believes that I'm making a conscious choice picking diapers over her. She'd like me to get some help to quit, kind of like her quitting smoking. I've tried to point out that this is wired in harder than cigarettes and it's twisted into my sexual psyche also. I've pointed out that unless I can forget how good it feels and how freeing it makes me feel, I'd never even want to quit. She seems to think that sounds like an addict. I said it sounds like every gay person in history who's been asked to play straight. She doesn't see the connection... So the question, finally, is this. Is this a part of who we are, to not do so to suffer in eternal denial just to please those around us or, is this an addiction which floods us with reassuring dopamine like all the others and, with lots of hard work and dedication can be beaten? Should I even want to beat this, because honestly I'm happy the way I am...?

One thing you can be sure of, if it is true then he's a visitor to this site. Hi Brad!

It's not spelt wrong, it's a variation used in British English. So is spelt before you pick that up.

Calling something the way you see it may cause offense, but isn't an insult. Hence my disclaimer. Love the blog btw.

Perleeze. He's complaining he can't stink up his parents house after he moves back in at 27. I begrudge the attitude. No it's, "Hey! I'll go move in with my folks and mooch off of them, but I can still afford diapers and time to come on here and bitch about how they don't like them even though it's a smelly fetish!" All due respect, I've been so dirt poor at times Raman noodles were a luxury. I've been forced to take charity from both friends and family. Understanding that there are times and places and periods in my life where diapers weren't gonna cut it was just a fact of life. Slamming? Hardly. You think I'm being mean because it's fun? I hope he takes it as stinging encouragement to go get a (better) job and get on with his life. I wish him all the best and if he's ever in Florida I've got a nice pad on the beach he can drink my beer and sun himself in just a diaper all he likes, no hard feelings.

Look, seriously, it's getting old when you come on here and whine that your mommy doesn't like you being in diapers anymore (you being 27 and all). Life is all about choices and position. If you're living at home and it won't be tolerated then you can't do it, move out or do it when you go to the library/starbucks whatever. Don't blame your parents. My post was more about how you should go about dealing with people/parents. If you come across as adult/mature/responsible..... What am I saying, look where I am....., I give up.

Eh? You're kidding? Grow a set of nuts (no offence, cruel to be kind) You're 27 and moving back in at home. You need to have an adult discussion about boundaries and ground rules. Your room is your private space, if you don't have a private room move the hell back out and get a job and an efficiency. Explain politely that it might not be a lot of space, but you need it and you'd appreciate being left alone and doing your own cleaning/laundry. In return you need to keep it impeccably clean and not leave stinky things under the bed. Did I remind you that you're 27. Let me tell you what'd happen if my mom came poking around my room after I politely asked for space. Absolutely nothing. She'd pretend she hadn't seen anything, and if she didn't there would be no conversation, period. It would be 'mind your own business'; you don't owe anyone an explanation. Are you one of those people who has to explain to the checkout girl that they're for your grandma? Just keep the space and yourself clean, act like an adult and see what happens. Good luck

Here's why it's a problem. Someone you know is going to go home and type 'DL*B t-shirt' into Google, and yer flat busted, as your blog comes up. It needs to have no lettering in it and plausible deny-ability. Followers of Christ used to use the crucifix until they started getting nailed to their own. Then they adopted a fish symbol, because it was plausible they were part of a fisherman's guild. It needs to be simpler and you need to be able to say you bought it at Target and don't know what it means. Also, do the community a favor and put it in the public domain. You can keep copyright on it, and even sell 'official' stuff, but if you really want it to become 'the' standard you need to also make it available under an open license.

You're not in love, and neither is she. You can't be in love with someone from some text messages and a few phone calls. What you are is horny and infatuated. You may even think you're 'falling' in love, but you don't know too much about her or you wouldn't be in here asking this kind of stuff. Do yourself a favor, drop the diaper talk until you've been dating for at least three months. She knows it's there, but put a solid foundation down and try not to act too desperate and it'll pay off in the long run. Have some great sex, have some fun dates, get to know her and her friends, build something solid and the rest will come with it in time.

If I may, what's the DD Improvement fund to improve?

You didn't, fairfaxdl did. I have no issues with anything you've said.

I'm saying that if you think ABs are 'a bit pedo', and you visit an AB website, you're full of it.

Go tell your husband he's the luckiest man on the entire planet. sigh......

If he really thought that, then he'd really think he's visiting a pedo site, and that makes looking in the mirror a bit hard. I don't blame him, people just don't get fetishes they don't have.

You want to change? You can't change a man unless he's in diapers, so the saying goes. This isn't like an alcohol addiction, or biting your nails I'm afraid. This is a sexual anxiety addiction, and you're pretty much stuck with it. Let me tell you how it's going to go. You'll see a therapist and maybe a shrink, you'll explain how you can't stand it and wade through months of pain and withdrawal and it still won't go away. You'll sit in front of said therapist and they'll at one point say, if you really want to quit this, you just have to do xyz. You'll lean back and think about how good the diapers felt, and suddenly come to the stunning conclusion that you don't want to quit, that you like wearing a diaper, and fuck em' if they just don't get it. You'll go home, put one on, pee it and turn on the tv with all the cares in the world gone, and just maybe you'll learn to accept it that time. Sorry mate, but look on the bright side. You could have these feelings for kids, or for headless prostitutes. Ever heard of a reformed pedo or serial killer? It's tough down there, but you're nowhere near the worst of it.

I'll also just add, that for me, I need to wear the diapers or I go crazy. I can live without the pink footed sleeper, but it's sure snuggly.

The question is complicated than AB or DL, I mean where's the line? I'm a DL if I like wearing diapers right? How about if I like wearing them all the time and a onesie stops it showing in public? How about if I wet a lot at night and I have some nice terry lined plastic pants, just in case? How about if that onesie is a pretty color? How about if that soggy diaper and plastic pants does it's job much better if I sleep with a onesie over it? It's freezing here in winter, my normal pyjamas don't fit over that big diaper and pants, maybe I should get something fitted? Maybe it should be pink, I mean heck why not I'm already wearing a diaper for crissake, I'm already deviant? Lace trim anyone? I've said it many times before, diaper wearing is an anxiety disorder. Not having one at some point caused anxiety and that perpetuates through life. For many people things associated with that diaper, pins, bibs, (being changed is a big desire), etc. It's all lurking beneath the surface. The whole sissy pink lace thing is probably caused by some very strange childhood experiences, but it's no less strange than a grown man wearing a diaper while watching tv and peeing himself (although it does feel soooo good). I have to guess that pure diaper fetishism is a very small percentage of diaper wearers, how far each person needs to go to satisfy their anxiety is a per person thing.