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drynot, What did you guys do about the powder in the diapers? Were you wearing cloth ones?

CDLover thank you, I appreciate your understanding. Darkravendl, after your post this is the first time I've ever thought about it like that, as acceptance adding to the enjoyment. It really is very nice to think that I'm adding to his pleasure in some way atleast. Thank you for that. Also, I didn't mean to imply that diapers are for babies just that I FEEL like a child when wearing them. I just have memories wearing them late into childhood and being very imbarassed by them. I'm sorry if i offended you, I really didn't mean it the way you interpreted. Newmommy2, I do have some questions and would like to talk about the "mommy" thing, I'm just not sure about how to go from changing him and going from mom mode to lover. If you have any advice I would love to hear it. Im not sure how to PM, but if i figure it out I'll shoot you a message.

In response to CDLover, sex is a very important sacred thing for me. My boyfriend was my first and I feel like I'm also sharing the most vulnerable part of myself. Just because what is important to him is taboo, shouldn't make it anymore valuable in my mind. I come from a very religious background and when my friends and family heard I wasn't "pure" anymore, I was rejected for being sinful and loose. I understand that this is a big thing for him to share but I am a big thing to share as well. It seems like you are saying that his fetish for an object is worth more than my pure love for his heart. Like your saying he told me something so I should just be grateful, but he only has the option to share his fetish because I chose to share myself. Both were big deals for each of us and I feel as though you are forgetting that just because you have strong feelings doesnt mean someone else's dont compare.

"For the latter, the solution is usually in granting your partner adequate freedom to take care of these needs away from you so that you don;t have to deal with it. Yes, you will know what is happening but you can't change that. " To clarify, I don't have a problem with his diaper enjoyment, just his diaper love and the feeling that its greater than his love for me. The actual him wearing diapers is absolutly ok. He looks very adorable trying to hide them under his sweatpants and he is noticable more carefree and some times down right giddy in them. I love seeing that side of him. And watching him try to suprise me with new diapers, its like hes at Christmas evertime he gets a package in the mail. Its the idea that he wants me, but wants me more, modified in diapers. I accept him 100% no matter what kind of underwear he wants to wear, I just feel hurt and frankly unappreciated that he wants me to do something he knows I am uncomfortable with, even if he doesn't know why. We have discussed this many times but its the first time for both of us to be in a relationship where this is a workable factor and neither of us have very creative ideas for a compromise. I think the problem is that I'm the kind of person who likes to know what part we each should play, and when I have on a diaper, I feel like a child, and sex when I'm in that mindset is repulsive to me due to some childhood tramas. I suppose I could explain why I think the diapers are upseting me but then we would be discussing some very scary events from years ago that I would rather not mix with my current bedroom relationship. It seems its mixed up in me now since the apperence of the diapers but I do not want him to worry about it. Do you think it is fair to ask him to support me in becoming more comfortable with wearing and using the diapers since I support him wearing them? How can I think about them as a sexy item instead of something for small children? That's just my natural association unfortunatly. Thank you again so much for your replies. I can't tell you how nice it is to finally have someone to talk to about this. Just being open about it somewhere has really helped me think it through more clearly and understand my own feelings better so we can have a more productive conversation about this later. Really, Thank you.

Hi there, I've never posted on a forum before but I'm just not sure who I could talk to about this. My signifiant other is a DL and I am not. He told me after weeks of trying to tell me and not being able to get it out. I am really touched that he felt comfortable enough to share with me and I have no problem with his fetish, I'm just sad that I do not, in any way, share it with him. Diapers do not turn me on. I feel awkward wearing them and feel out played and out done by a diaper since he gets so much more aroused when we bring them into the picture. I know that he loves me and wouldn't wear them around me if I asked him, he also never pushes me into it, but I really want to be part of what he finds sexually arousing. He has bought some for me and they are not horrible all the time, but some days I get upset when he asks me to wear them. I wish that I were enough for him and they make me jealous of the connection he feels towards them. Does anyone have any advice on how to get over myself and enjoy sex with a diaper flair? Also how does one have sex in a diaper? I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around it. Thank you so much for any help you can offer!