In But Not One

Actually I have asked if she wants to wear them outside of the bedroom. I told her it was no problem for me at all. Shes always been afraid of someone finding out, so she doesn't. But, her fear even goes so far as those times we DO have the house to ourselves (rarely) she still will only wear them in our bedroom behind a locked door. Urine doesn't bother me a bit, as she does that now. To be totally honest I don't know how I'd react to a bm diaper. I'd be willing to give it a try for her, but i'm just not sure to be honest. I am one of those people who was brought up that bm was basically the epitome of all nastiness. I do know without a doubt that view is formed in early childhood as I see it in my kids. When they were younger they had no issues with it, but social conditioning soon took over. I'd never say someone was sick or messed up if bm doesn't bother them, as I do understand where both views are formed. It's just personally not my cup of tea. :-)

I've posted on a couple of threads but I thought I'd at least introduce myself in the proper place. :-) Im a happily married male (33) with kiddos. I work in a technical field and I also teach Karate. I am not a DL, but my wife is , see here for further Info. I am a very curious and talkative person by nature I ended up finding this site after doing some research and decided it would be a nice place to share/talk to other people. I've told my wife about this site, but she tends to be a super shy person so I'm not sure if she will end up posting or if she will stay just lurking. For me please feel free to ask me any questions as I will give you my honest though on anything. I will never always be right, but you can at least know I'm being 100% truthful. My main focus on joining is of course meeting/talking with new people but also seeing what and how others live so I/we can get tips for our own life. Thanks for reading!!

It took my wife about 3 total years (2 dating and 1 into marriage) but she didn't tell me on purpose, I found out by accident. As someone who is not a DL personally, I'd say do it early on into your relationship. You don't want to keep things hidden from your SO as at some point they will generally find out.

I am not a Diaper wearer (my wife is) but the most embarrassing moment we had I ended up taking the "fall" for it. :-) My brother-in-law and sister-in-law were in the process of closing on their house but had to stay with us for 3 weeks till everything got settled. At the time our 6 year old ended up somehow in our bedroom closet and started rummaging. He found my wife's stash and brought it out to the living room. My BIL and SIL were there watching tv and were quite taken back by the pack of diapers. I could see my wife turning red and I didn't want her to have to tell anyone. A few months ago I had broke my foot and twisted my back and so I told them I had used them during that time because it took me too long to get out of bed and I had a few accidents. The relief on my wife's face was priceless. Still to this day I get ribbed about it, but that's fine with me. Her stash is now well hidden away from small fingers!!!

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Thanks for the compliments, and I'm sorry you have had the problems you have had just because you were truthful. My wife was scared, really scared when I found out and talked to her about it. She told me later she was scared that I would leave her, think bad of her, etc. I am honestly about as Vanilla as you can get about my desires so it really worried her. It did cause some issues right at first because it always made her feel bad that I had to live with someone who had a fetish and I had no "strange" fetishes of my own. It's taken her a long time to get over the total embarrassment about it and about 2 years ago she finally got to a point where she can joke about it with me. I know it still bothers her sometimes, but I just do my best to reassure her. As someone who does not have a fetish of any kind really, it is a bit different living with someone who does have one. I'd be lying if I said it was always easy, but it hasn't been a burden or anything. I do feel sorry for you folks who cannot share your fetish with your SO, that has got to be hard!

Thanks for the compliments! My wife and I have talked about it, but I don't want to push her too much on it. I feel she's still a little embarrassed about it and I don't want her to think I'm trying to psychoanalyze her or anything. I just do my best to make sure she knows I love her, support her and for her to know I don't think there is anything wrong with her. She did have a very rough older childhood. Her mother is bi-polar/schizophrenic/alcoholic and was very, very hard to live with. I can see that since her late childhood memories are bad, the younger years would be comforting to her. Wow, that makes a LOT of sense!! She doesn't have to be wearing one either at the time, but she does need to have been wearing one before, I should have been a bit more clear about that, sorry! I've never though it diminishes her love for me, but I'd be lying if I said at times it doesn't bother me. I know she loves me and I know it's not me, but there is still part of me at times that wishes I could satisfy her with just me. Don't get me wrong, it's not like it's a major problem with me or anything. But, I've always been one where if I talk, I'll be totally honest. Yeah, mainstream I've figured out what she likes. I guess my question was geared more towards things to do to involve the diapers for her. She's the kind of person where if I ask "What do you like" her response is "I don't know". So I've always been trying different things and different ways to make things even better for her. I will browse this website and look at the posts, thanks! Oh I know how lucky I am, believe me!!! Thanks for your tips! Possibly, I don't know honestly if it was her or not. I know with this she deals enough with being embarrassed, I'm not going to press her for anything. If she wants to tell me she's been posting, she can. If she'd rather keep that to herself (if she has) I'm okay with that too, I trust her implicitly. I know I myself haven't told her I'm on a site posting anything about us. I'm not sure on how she would react (anger, embarrassment or maybe even happiness).

Thanks! This is something I've never talked to anyone about other then my wife. As y'all probably know, if I was to even mention it to even a good friend, I doubt they'd understand! It's kind of good to be able to actually talk about it without having that stigma attached.

Hello everyone! I'm new here and honestly I don't know fully the forum rules, do's and dont's. Please let me know if I am writing anything that is against the rules and I will immediately take it down... I'm a married man (10+ years) to my beautiful wife and we have some awesome kids. About 9 years ago or so while looking on my wife's computer I noticed some odd websites in the history. After looking at them I noticed they were all about adults wearing diapers. I've always been open minded about things so I spoke to my wife about it. She was hesitant and scared at first to tell me, but after talking for a while she told me she had a diaper fetish. To be totally honest I thought it was strange, but honestly fairly harmless. I told her lets try it out and see where it goes from there. My wife has no want to wear diapers daily, nor wear them any other time unless we are going to be intimate. For her, she likes me to act dominant and (this may sound strange) like a Dad (tell her not ask, etc). She is picky about the diaper (i'm not sure why) and she only wants tab diapers, not the pull up diaper. She usually wants me to "make" her urinate in the diapers and she always wants me to use a basal thermometer on her. I hope this isn't too detailed but most times she wants me to "take" her anally. What's weird to me is she actually orgasms this way. We can be intimate without her wearing the diapers, but generally I've found she's never all that "into it" unless she wears them. She also has never orgasmed if she's not wearing a diaper. To be honest I could live without her wearing them, but I know for her it's important. Her wearing diapers doesn't bother me as I know we are all different and like different things. Overall I can't complain about our sex life, even after 10+ years of marriage and kids we are still intimate pretty much every other day or so. My questions for everyone out there are- Does anyone know where a fetish like this starts? I'm totally new to any of this "scene" in that I've never done any internet searches and this is my first ever message board post. I'm curious if anyone has ever done research or has personal stories of where it starts? How many people share a diaper type fetish where they only want to wear diapers during intimacy but not any other time? Any ideas as to why she is unable to orgasm without having a diaper? Am I doing something wrong here? Any tips from you folks on additional things I can do that my wife may enjoy?