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once again thank you to everyone for the continued support in this...... there seems to be an overall stand of letting him buy his own diapers... which ok yeah i feel if hes going to do it is the way that it needs to be done.... honestly right now i am just way to uncomfortable buying them for him and his father has said in no uncertain terms that he refuses to..... he does earn his monthly allowance as well as extra money from time to time..... however i would have to take him to the store due to the fact that he is not driving yet... ( yeah go figure a 16 year old not driving and it aint by our choice!!! lol) i have told him i have no problem taking him to the store but that he will buy them on his own with his own money! so as far as letting him get his own hey i agree with yall 100 % there i wont buy them for him.... square_duck as far as us going out shopping for clothes together well idk that maybe a while in the making as i said our son knows nothing of this and maybe never will.... although that is a "fetish" if u will that he and his father share he does not as far as i am concerned need to know that his father or i am bi or that his father cross dresses.... lol so if he does ever find out that is a worry that is still a world away for us......

thank you for the suggestions and any others that anyone may have are much appreciated as well.... i would like if this is something that he chooses to make a part of his life for him to be bale to have people he is comfortable with that share some of the same desires that he does.... just as i would like to learn more about it and understand it to be more supportive to him....... i dont think i will ever moving to trying them myself just to be able to understand the experience but as i have been able to talk to you guys and gals throughout the day i have had my eyes opened to a few things and i think being able to talk to ppl that do it will in time help me to be fully open minded to what he is choosing to do.... so for that alone i thank you guys and gals..... not only for the support yall are offering to him and the sites yall are giving me that i can get him involved in but for your support to me as a parent who has no experience with it...... THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART !!!!!!!!!!

well that sucks anyone who has any ideas or suggestions of communities that i can check out and hopefully give him other people to talk to that are clean and not looking to talk shit or be disgusting but that will assist him in truly learning more about it and helping to choose his path and understand his feelings.... all help would be great.... i will continue to use this one mostly but i would like to give him a site to be able to express his feelings to others that may understand more than me and maybe able to help him cope with feelings and fears a little better than i can right now..... so all suggestions would definately be appreciated.....

i have thought a few times throughout today about bringing him on to the site.... i want to talk to his father before i fully open that can of worms but once i had a chance to talk to some of the people on here i have thought quite a few times about it.....

i agree with you there because from the stand point of someone who has experienced with fetishes and just being a teenager in general i know the more you are told you cannot do something the more you are going to want to do it and if it truly is a part of who he is is he is told he cannot do it or that it is not welcome in our house that he is going to feel like we dont accept him and that is going to lead to feelings that we dont love him... NEITHER of those are the case..... so yeah this is about the only other thing i knew to do..... so im hoping it works and im hoping that by me doing this and being able to talk to others that do it i can maybe help his father deal a little better with it as well as my self where my son doesnt have to feel like we dont accept him.... and that he will truly understand that he can talk to us about anything and no matter what we will never judge him but always stand beside him on what he chooses to do or be!!!!!!

id like to say i can willingly leave him alone however... he never knew that we knew any of it he came to us willingly and told us.... and as far as leaving him alone and letting him steal them or use "used" diapers sorry not happening..... im glad he told us...... it makes it easier to make sure he is safe as he is experimenting..... just because we dont agree with it or understand it doesnt mean we wont be supportive.... which as i have told ppl a few times throughout today... is why i am on here talking to those who do it so i can learn about it and it will make it easier for me to be open minded and accomodate him as much as possible with it as he is experimenting... this includes ensuring he does not STEAL and doesnt allow someone elses "messes" onto his body exposing him to god knows what!!!!!!!! so no he came to us and i will continue to be supportive of it no matter what my feelings are if for no other reason than to ensure his safety as he explores!!!!!!!!!!!!!

im not freaking out about it i am just trying to understand it... to where everyone in my home is comfortable with it and the fact that my son is doing it........ yeah it kinda weirds me out and the simple fact of the matter is it weirds me out simply because it is not a fettish or a kink or however it is seen that i get into..... im not saying there is anything wrong with it if someone chooses to do it which is why i am trying to learn about it and the thoughts and fears that go along with it so that i can help my son cope with anythoughts that he may have on it and help my husband cope with the fact that it is something my son enjoys and in turn help myself cope with it and help myself to be a little more openminded to it if it is something that my son chooses to do !!!!!!!!!! im not freaking out or down playing it or talking bad about it...... i am simply asking for the views of those who do enjoy it to help me understand it better so that i can be more suppotive of my son!!!!!!!!!! i dont see where there is anything wrong with that or why there is or was any reason for u to freak on me or get nasty with me when i am trying to see it with an open mind and be supportive of it!!!!!!!

hmmmm idk i guess maybe kinda both... i havent really stopped to try and figure out what acutally "weirds" me out about it..... both of those have crossed my mind since he has told me but im not totally sure... i guess if i had to pinpoint it right now id say both reasonings kinda rub me the wrong way.... i dont know if that makes any sense ??????

Dailydi, yeah to a degree i agree with you... some of this we have seen coming for a while now and none of it honestly surprises us.... just kinda overwhelms us because as he has come to me and talked to me.... hes wanting me to take him to buy the diapers and such and was very upfront yesterday when he asked me to take him and as ive said honestly to each theie own i dont particularly like the idea of it but that is just me... doesnt mean i wont accept him doing it or be supportive of him if its what he chooses to do.... but his father is having a little more of a hard time with it.... so i guess to make it easier on me all the way around im just trying to figure out.... my step son is turning to me to be in his corner about it to his dad and dad is turning to me to try and figure out how to deal with it and i myself have never actually dealt with anyone i knew wanting to do with it so im at a total loss as to be able to help them both with their own respevive issues and not end up the bad guy in all of this...... lol i dont know if that actually makes sense but anywhos...... i guess i just figured talking to ppl who actually do it and kinda gathering their thoughts on it may help me in being there for both my husband and my son in this whole thing......

ok so first of i never said i didnt accept it i simply said i was having trouble adjusting to it.... im not discriminating the fetish or the desire to wear diapers or anything else about it.... if i was i wouldnt be online trying to get more information on it to talk to ppl who do it... to try and find a way to understand it better and hopefully help his father to understand it better........ so back off and dont get nasty with me without a good reason to!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sheesh

ok so heres the deal.... i have a 16 year old son.... (ok well hes my step son by marriage) he came to us the other day and told us that he has been experimenting with a guy... which ok his dad and i are totally cool with no issues there then he came to ME day before yesterday and told me two more things... he has been wearing female clothes and experimenting with cross dressing which once again his father and i are totally ok with but then he told us that he is enjoys wearing diapers..... ok we have hit a snag in the understanding parent dept..... neither one of us have ever experimented with it and both in our own way kind of find it revolting.... no offense to anyone who does its just the way we feel.... im looking for advice on how to handle this end of the situation with him... if he wants to experiment with it (both his father and i understand he has to experiment to find his sexual identity and figure out what he enjoys....) but neither of us wish to be a part of this.... i talked to him some and he doesnt seem to be interested in reverting back to being a baby or being treated like one he says he just enjoys the feel of diapers..... his biological mother is still a part of his life and her and her husband know nothing about ANY of this as of yet he is afraid to tell them.... he actually came to me with all of this info and i helped guide him to talking to his father about it all.... but he doesnt want to go to his mother or step father about it because he knows they will freak!!!!!!!!!! and as i said his father and i are totally ok with the bi experimentation and the cross dressing but any ideas on how to handle the whole diaper thing and or how do his father and i adjust to it mentally???? how do we even dicuss this with him without making him feel like we are turning away from him because he enjoys it???? he is afterall a 16 year old with serious hormones raging???? i dont want him to feel like he cant talk to us.... and neither does his dad but right now we are both soooo completely overwhelmed by ALL of this new information he is sharing that we just dont know how to process the information..... ANY ADVICE???????????????? confused

Vic, Thank you for ur advice... and i agree with u as far as loving him and being supportive no matter what... and i really am trying... i guess that is why i have started looking info up on it.... and in doing so came across this site and figured maybe talking to ppl who actually do it them selves may help me understand a little better what he is going thru and may in some way help me to help his father with it..... i want to understand it... i want to be able to help him cope with any feelings he maybe having ( from talking to many ppl today thru this site i have heard there is a wide range of feelings and concerns that can run thru a persons head when they enjoy doing this kind of thing) but at the same time i want to be able to help his father cope with it as he is having a very difficult time.... the way i have always looked at things is to each their own.... but with my step son im just worried that if i blow it off for him to deal with on his own there will be serious negative effects..... so im just trying to figure out how to process it all and help him and his father cope!!!!!!!!

thank you for the websites!

well thank you for the compliment and i do too... and i have never thought of it from the bondage aspect of things.. that is definately a way of looking at it....

well as far as wearing them for sexual purposes..... he has made it clear he wants to wear them because it turns him on... as far as telling his mother... if he is not comfortable with it then no i think that is a decision he should make on his own which in answering this will answer your third question.... his father and i are both bi and his father enjoys dressing as a fem from time to time which i am totally ok with...... it has never been done in front of my step son he has never been exposed to it from us.... he does not know either of us are bi!!!!! i have a few friends who know that i am bi but that is about it..... my best friend is also bi and she knows about my huband being bi and dressing fem.... so because we have been there done that on that end of it we are totally ok with it if he chooses to live that lifestyle as well.... we have just never done the diaper thing or known anyone who did so it just makes it a weird and i guess in some ways disturbing concept for us to swallow right now.... i mean if he chooses to do it then we are going to accept it.... we just dont know how to be ok with it right now... if that makes any sense...