FADL

I depend (or should I say 'Depend'? ) on my body to tell me what will be a good day for messy play. If I've got a fairly strong urge at work, but not too strong to fight, I find that a few burgers from "a certain restaurant with goldish-arches" will help move things out a few hours later. If I feel the beginnings of an urge at about 11 am, and know I'll have time that evening, I'll wolf down two double cheeseburgers (the cheap ones) to "move things along", as well as two jr. chickens (again, the ones off the 'cheapie' menu) for added bulk at 2:30 pm or so. I'm usually 'good to go' by about 5:30 to 7 BM...er, I mean pm. This usually produces a fairly firm movement for me, which I prefer, as I like to see/feel it pushing the diaper out on its way. Definitely leave a little 'play' in your diaper. Another curious thing I've discovered is that if you only mess (as I used to do), it's harder to clean up than messing with wetting. (Could be the acidity from the wetting keeps it from sticking to the skin...I'm not sure.) The. Best. Feeling.

I used to think that, too. Between that and the diapers, I really felt like some kind of weirdo outsider. You might try checking out some of the BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) and BHM (Big Handsome Man) web forums. If you're a person of size, they can offer a lot of help in terms of self-acceptance, health and mobility issues, sexual advice, and social networking...or if, like me, you admire (worship, idolize, whatever) people of size, there's lots to see, and lots to learn. Granted, it seems most of the groups for large people and their admirers are in America, but there are a good many in the U.K. (and around the world) as well.

Until I found that there were others into it, that's what I thought it meant, too! Mum's da woid... Thanks for the kind words of welcome, everyone!

Hi, folks! First off: Not Single, Not Looking. Next, for those who clicked on the thread actually expecting an answer to the question posed in the title, I'm here as FADL because I'm an FA (Fat Admirer) as well as a DL. Yes, that's right: I dig big. I believe that sexiness can be found not only below 110 lbs, but also above 400. Well above. As for the DL business...well, I guess this is one of very few places where I don't have to explain the acronym at least. Never got much into the AB thing (although my word, they can be so adorable!), as my fantasies and preferences have a bit of an unusual bent. Why the two seemingly unrelated interests? Decadence. This is where the FA and the DL in me come together. I enjoy the mental image of a gluttonous, lazy, overindulgent woman who satisfies her every whim and accepts no responsibility. Drunkenness is also rather prevalent in these fantasies, as is smoking. Just is, don't know why. She's fat because she's lazy and eats too much. She's in diapers because she's too lazy, drunk, or self-absorbed to bother with the tedium of looking after her functions. That's just not her problem. She's not at anyone's mercy, but neither is she a dominatrix. She's spoiled, but benevolent; She may or may not be aware she's in a diaper, or that she's messed it (or her panties/clothing if she's not diapered); She may or may not be aware that she's fat; She KNOWS she's sexy. I also like to draw pictures of these women. Might like to try my hand at fiction in this vein, as well. For those who haven't tuned out yet, I should point out that the above illustrates only a fantasy scenario, as in real life I find mature, strong, intelligent women to be my ideal. As long as they've got some curves. Also, despite my having dwelled on it for so long, there's much more to me than my sexual interests. So, aside from the diaper-related bits (which need no explanation) and weird user name, maybe a bit about myself. Well...hmm...I started typing out stuff, but it all stared to look like a "personals" ad. I'm a 41-year-old guy who makes a lot of typos, but proofreads everything a bazillion times, so non of them evr showup. I like LOLcats and really sad songs. I'm indecisive. Maybe. I'll try again when I'm not so tired. It's nice to find a place where I can relax and speak freely about my diaper interests. I hope you'll take into account my over-exuberance as a newbie here when you look back on this rambling post. Nice to meet you all!