hi toddmdl, hope i got that right.
someone said about fetish clubs yes to this but you may have to traval. For example, I have seen one on the innternet in London,I live in Manchester some 200miles away. them the feeling of not kwoning what to expect. and sould i go alone? though you have the old saying go and be damed Its only one night and all that. the other way is to use webs like this and hope you are saying the right thing. no thats not right just be herself and don't try to be someone are not.