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I wonder if he is a member of this site?

Do you mean pickles?

At Kendra Wilkinson's recent baby shower there are many pictures online of Holly Madison trying to carry a guy that is dressed up as a baby with diapers and everything. There are a lot of pictures of her with just him!

Most people would not be open at all to being ABDL. Thats probably why you haven't met any. I know this because I didn't accept that I was an ABDL. I knew that I liked diapers my whole life but I never told anyone since it was so taboo. When I FIRST discovered other ABDLs, I was shocked and scared and felt even more disgusted that I would like diapers. I became even MORE hidden about it actually. But after a while I did more research on it and a couple of years later, the shock of diapers went away because I knew that their was nothing wrong with it anymore. My point is that even if other ABDLs discover other ABDLs, they still might shy away and keep hiddem. In fact, two men that i dated showed signs of being ABDL.

Many claim that having a diaper fetish or being ABDL is rare or unusual... but how do we know that? I actually think that there are many people that have this fetish yet are too embarressed about it to do research on it or even acknowledge that they have one. For all we know, this fetish could be a lot more common than we think. I just think most people that don't know about the communities out there or are in denial about it. Unlike other fetishes and lifestyles, most people wouldn't talk about this openly since most unknown ABDLs are shocked themselves about this and are in denial. Thats why there are probably MANY ABDLs out there that just keep this a huge secret. I don't think many of us are as "alone in this" as we think we are.

Why do people get married to someone if they are still hiding this fetish? Why would someone do that and expect to tell their spouse later on about it only when it risks serious consequences such as divorce...? It does not make any sense to me at all; it makes no sense.. If people are going to get married without letting their spouse know about it then they need to accept that they have to give it up.

He has a lot to lose. He could easily lose his wife, child, friends, etc if she found out and were to have a divorce. The bottom line is that people should not marry others while hiding this fetish. They either need to be on the same page before marriage, or be ready to give it up completely for their spouse if they aren't into it.

I'm religious and I'm not like that at all. I don't think its necessarily religion that makes people that way, I think it's more of their culture or how they were raised that would make them think that way. Do you live in a really small rural town? The environment in a smaller, rural town is going to have more people clinging on to strict culture.

I think this thread needs to be moved to the Story Forum

This whole thing was a huge FAKE.

If I were you, I would get in a conversation and mention a totally different time about you & the diapers. Don't explain the pictures to him but explain the fetish, however you wish to explain it.

Oh please, do you really think after his girlfriend just found out about diapers that he is going to betray her by putting her picture on here just for some horny men in diapers?

I never said diapers was a bad thing because they're not, they're a wonderful thing! Being obsessed with something such as diapers is NEVER a good thing. It is only healthy when people are able to enjoy and indulge in something that they have control over otherwise it crosses the line. People should be able to put on a diaper and enjoy it but not let it ruin their life, relationships, and marriages.

Have you not heard of the statement, "I WAS an alcoholic"?? Not everyone will always be an alcoholic similar with ABDL.

I think you should talk about fetishes or something like that with her and then bring it up. But definitely bring it up.

It doesn't matter--point is that once it becomes an obsession it crosses the line. Diaper fetishes are unhealthy when they control people's lives.

Do not do it, it's not worth it. Watch the episode of Trisha that they have on here when an ABDL came on. We need to get ABDL out in a positive light, not by people that think this is a funny scenario for ratings.

Diaper Dancing

Throughout some of the topics on here I've seen many people claim that no one can ever give up diapers but that is not true. That is like saying that a drug addict could never quit their drugs or a smoker could never stop. It is all about how much control a person has, if one cannot quit something that they truly desire then it is that they do not possess enough strength to do so. An Alcholic could say the EXACT same thing yet there are people that learn how to control it. For example, Alcohol isn't a bad thing but it is something that needs to be controlled. Just like a fetish, a diaper fetish is not a bad thing but it NEEDS to be controlled otherwise it becomes a BAD THING. A diaper fetish is no different than someone having a foot fetish but if a diaper fetish becomes an obsession and takes over a person's life, that is when they need to seek psychological help for it. It is INDEED POSSIBLE to quit anything in life, most members on here would be amazed at how much a person can do and control & limit. I have enough control to the point where love comes first before diapers in a relationship. If I can have that and live without diapers if I'm in love, then others can too. When diaper fetishes control people's relationships and lives it becomes an obsession; that is where it crosses the line. I love LOVE diapers but diapers for me is fun and a kink that makes things so much more fun; but diapers do not run my life or my relationships.

Why should he leave her to find some other girl that will most likely have the SAME REACTION about diapers as this one? Exactly, he shouldn't. No one should let their fetishes get to the point where they control their relationships and lifestyle. That is unhealthy and that is where fetishes cross the line.

I think the reason that this fetish seems to be "abnormal" in society is because not a lot of people know about it. Almost everyone knows about BDSM and all the kinky stuff that goes along with it and thats why most people don't really see that stuff as strange. Most people that have this fetish don't even realize that it is a fetish and think that they're the only one! If there were more ABDL references in society or advertisements of some sort (in a positive way of course) then people would start to see it so much that they wouldn't be so weirded out by it anymore or they would realize it that they have it and would like to try it; it would become known.

I think that if you are in LOVE with her, (it seems like it since you guys are best friends too) then maybe you should choose her over the diapers. I don't think that you should lose out on love due to a fetish... in the end, love is what will stay, a fetish does not. When people get older throughout love, they become each others companion and friend instead of having sex all the time like they used too. It sounds like you are truly in love with her and you WILL feel more lonely without her in your life. You have to decide what is more important to you: Friendship & Love(with her)? Or Diapers & Fetishes?.... She is just shocked right now. When I first realized that I had a diaper fetish, I was shocked also. I didn't want to accept it for YEARS. It took me a long time to realize that diapers were nothing but a fun fetish for me. She probably has never even heard of a diaper fetish ever! That is why she is in a complete shock because she really does LOVE you. Seeing you in diapers to her was a COMPLETE shock from the regular you that she sees every day! You have to understand that. DO NOT let this fetish control how you live your life and your love & friendship with her. A lot of people would disagree and say find someone who accepts you for the diapers but it is NOT worth it compared to what you are losing (friendship, love, a companion). TRUST me, you will regret it. Diapers CANNOT give you love and keep you from being lonely, but SHE can. Only you know the answer, good luck. Everyone needs to keep in mind that his girlfriend has NEVER heard of a diaper fetish or honestly knows much about it or she would realize that it is not so bad. Of course it is going to seem TERRIBLE, ODD, and EXTREME to people that aren't used to seeing their partners or themselves in diapers! She did not act immature, she acted out of shockk and it was reasonable because she isn't used to seeing someone in diapers like that. You guys have to understand that.

I am so sorry that, that happened to you. She is probably in shock right now and is reacting to that. I suggest that you guys live separately for a couple weeks or months so that she can get over being in the shock stage. I think that you should write her a letter explaining everything you feel and everything you want to also let her know (its easier to write it in a letter than say it in person and a letter is more intimate than a mere email). You can explain what DL is and that there are many other fetishes out there that are harmful unlike being a DL. If she is still weirded out by it and angry then I guess you should have to leave it at that. YOU need to make the first move about moving out before she kicks you out to save yourself some pride. Don't make a big deal about what happened because it will only seem more embarressing to her. Act like it was not a big deal and make sure that you're not begging to stay with her or else she will only be more turned off; she needs to make that decision. If she really LOVES you, she will come around again after she gets over being shocked by what happened.

GOOD LUCK!

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