[California Lifts Gay Marriage Ban....for Now]

despite the apparent religious connection, marriage exists for reasons around having a child, and in the past various bonuses existed for being married, whether it's tax breaks, health coverage benefits or in the past being able to have sex were all to promote the production of children, historically to continue a growing society the population must continue to expand, sorry but no 2 lesbians or gays will ever create a kid naturally, yes they can adopt and go to other measures but it's not the typical man+woman=baby

yes gays should be allowed to love who they choose, but there is no economic reason to give the benefits of marriage to them.

it's like going into a store and asking for a military discount, but you were never in the military.

marriage is an economic tool not a right.

I don't have anything against gay people, but I think marriage should mean something

marriage stopped meaning something when it became, oh how did you put it..."an economic tool ", thats right. You just said "marriage should mean something" after saying it was an economic tool, an no longer a religious/traditional practice. Wouldn't marriage being considered an economical tool destroy what little meaning it has left in our society? I mean when you get married its pretty much 50/50 you'll get divorced and the 50% that doesn't get divorced counts all the murders accidents and deaths. Marriage means nothing in this day an age. As for "reasons of having a child" a) our population is growing at an exponential rate, to the degree at which the economy is coming under immense strain, as well as our infrastructure. The would could do without marriage being centered around breeding. Sorry, but your argument has no validity in reality and is obviously based on a bias that was most likely taught to you at a very young age. Shame people never allow their children to grow up with their own opinions.

[...scared....but Soon To Be :'(]

Calm down.

First - You have a choice here. If it's scaring you, maybe you need to reconsider, really find out what works for you. 24/7 isn't the only option out there.

Second - You are not required by law to inform your parents. You pay for it, it's legal, it hurts nobody and if you're really, really worried about that aspect - move out. A roommate is far less likely to care than your parents.

I know it's a "debt of on" as the japanese call it - they gave you life and you owe them, however, you have a life too and the choices are yours to make. It's okay to feel the way you feel, you are not insane because of it, there is nothing wrong with you. You are a person. To quote the Desiderata

"Beyond a wholesome discipline,

be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe

no less than the trees and the stars;

you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you,

no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should."

As long as diapers feel right to you, you should reach for your goal.

Very wise words. I must admit I amired you

[Very New To The Whole Scene]

grats on having an open mind, i only hope in the future i will meet people as open minded and willing to explore their sexuality as you are.

[Not So New Here... But Great News....]

When my parent found out they thought i was a pedophile, and all they found was a bag of Abena X-Plus. Many arguments ensued, and they still even now suspect me of being a pedophile even though i have explained to them countless times me wearing diapers has nothing to do with children in anyway. But that aside, im glad all went well for you.

[Will Modern Life Create More Abdls?]

Well, as I see it, the world is full of infantilists. They may not wear a diaper, they may not bounce about in a onesie, they may not prefer their drink from a baby bottle or suck on a paci, but infantilistic in nature they surely are most of them. Some cling to their almighty father God for comfort and protection, some need their social group for recognition, for the building of identity etc. And who said that the world had a serious lack of infantilists? They are all around you, the dependent, needy, comfort-seeking people. The infantilists entertaining their illusions, the infantilists in adult clothing.

I agree with what Necare said, but differ in the fact that i think it is part of human nature to want, at least to some degree, that security and safety we felt when we were a child. The only difference is how we obtain it, some strive for excellence in all they do so that they can drown their insecurities in a sea of accomplishments, others strive for money so as to provide for themselves a sense of security they lost from childhood, while others develop anything from destructive habits such as biting nails and fidgeting in order to deal with their unfulfilled need for comfort and security. Infantalism is the utter incarnation of this basic human desire, satisfied in the most literal sense possible. If you think about it, if you can remember being coddled in your mothers arms, that sense of complete contentment, and security it gave you, you would have to be insane to not want at least some semblance of that in your everyday life, nay, every moment of your life. But, alas, our society tend to deny those primal, basic feelings, which later manifest themselves in strange ways later on in life.

Back on topic now, I believe that as the internet continues to penetrate the everyday life of the average citizen, more and more poeple will begin to "stumble" across hidden desires such as wearing diapers, and as such that increased exposure will lead to more people becoming aware of their preferences. You cannot "make" an AB or a DL, they exist with that seed planted deep within themselves, it is just if, by chance that seed is stirred and begins to grow.

[Do You Enjoy Being Incontinent?]

Okay, I may not be incontinent, and this IS my first post. But I wanna know from the people that are ACTUALLY incontinent, not so bs story of "i always liked diapers and one day i magically got into an accident, and oh look, how conveniently, im incontinent now!" honestly I've heard that too many times for me to believe it anymore. Short story is, I want to know, do you enjoy being incontinent? I dont mean wearing diapers, i mean not being able to go without them. Is being incontinent ever had any detrimental effect to your social/school/work life, like you didnt get a job because you messed yourself during the interview or soemthing like that (also can be a situation where you being nervous because of your diapers affected you negatively). The reason I want to know these things is, for years i have been juggling with the idea of wearing 24/7 which i know would result in me becomming incontinent, but sometimes i love the idea, or become obsessed with diapers, and other times i find diapers completely disgusting and want nothing to do with them. Im not expecting your answers to allow me to make up my mind once and for all what i want, but i want some opinions on what its like so that i have a more realistic picture in my mind before i make a choice that could possibly be the wrong one, chances are i will never make the choice...but bouncing back and forth in my love-hate relationship with diapers is exasperating. anyway, to clarify after all my ranting, the question is:

Do you enjoy being incontinent?

Is being incontinent ever had any detrimental effect to your social/school/work life?