Sissy Tami

I have severa thoughts about what may have happend to cause her early departure. I have not wanted to specutlate on it though because I thought it would be inapropreate and the evidence is shakey and inconclusive in any direction you look. I am certain that the head injury from her acident had an impact on what ever happened in the end but other than that I am at a loss for the actual cause. As for the two weeks that passed there is more evidince for that. The first thing we have to look at are the facts though and they are vague at best. To my knowledge there has been not acutal time off death relased to the public. I know that it was not more than two weeks only because I had a conversation with her on the afternoon of the 12th. And I found out about her passing two weeks later. So we dont actually know how long it was from death to discovery. We can guess from the un-welcomed descriptions given to us by the neighbors thru the media that is was more than a few days. The next fact that we have to exsamine is that Heidi was a bit of a recluse. She rarely had contact with the nieghbors other than to wave when she was comming or going. In my visits to her I never had any contact with the neighbors at all. She was feeble after her acident and would not get the mail every day. Some times it was three or for days at a time before she would even step out of the house. Keep in mind she had been in the hospital for almost two month from the end of July and into September. Anyone who saw her since that time would not be surprised that she had gone back to the hospital for tests or therapy. For these reasons I do not think poorly of the neigbors, the post man or anyone else who only occasionaly saw her. Her trips outside were sparse enough that not seeing her would be the norm. Frankly we are lucky it was not longer. It was not uncomon for Heidi and I to go without contact for a month at a time. Other times we would chat several times a week or a day. I was out of town with work when we chated on the 12th and did not even try to contact her until I had returned to town a week later. I got voice mail when I called which was not unusuall because she liked her "Nappy Time" during the day. I did not hear back from her right away which again was not unusual. Some times she did not wake until late and would wait to call me until the next day. When I had not heard from her for a couple of days I called agian and got voice mail. I also sent an email incase she was having trouble with her phone. When I did not hear from her in the next day and a half I started to get worried and called a couple of times to try and reach her. I was preparing for a driving across town to check on Heidi when I made one last call and got the detective from the Phoenix Police Department. My fears were confirmed. I have wanted to discuss this for some time but have not been able to find the words. This post gave me the oppertunity to do so. The comments are not directed at you "Northern" just useing your points to discuss what I am sure has been on a lot of minds. But these are natural questions to ask and be curious about. None of this really helps with emotions and traggidy of the loss that is Heidi's passing. For help with that we must remeber the things about her that we admire and were fond of. And set asside our diffrences and predudices. I don't know if this helps or not but here it is. Thanks Tami

Thank you from all of us for your kindness, civillity, and generosity 1 Tami

Heidi and I had talked about a trip to NO for Mardi Gra, I wish we had the chance to go but it was not ment to be. I might take you up on it though if you are intrested in company for the event(s). Tami

Look on the birght side winter offers us AB/DL the opertunity to wear diapers under warm bulky clothing without detection. Summer is grand but the clothes that are worn are less forgiving for wearing diapers. Trust me I live in Arizona and I see plenty of hot summer wear the thought of wearing something extra out in public is not desireable at all. I have a solution for you milk problem in the future. Keep some formula around. Or some powdered milk. I know that Powdered milk is not as tasty as regular milk but you can add some chocolate milk to it to mask the taste and have a treat at the same time. Do you have some Hot chocolate around that sounds yummy in the middle of a snow storm! Stay warm and dry, well ok warm but not nessisarily dry! Tami

This is a great idea. I will look and see if there is an e-mail address and or snail mail address where these can be sent. I found out earlier today that the next of kin has not yet been notified. I shutter to think that this artical which was not all bad but cetainly had parts of it that were in poor taste would be how her family found out about his/her demise! there is no integrity left in the media. Thanks, Tami

I had feared that this was the case but I though it in appropreate and less than dignified! I hope the next of Kin never sees this! I was sorry to see this artical. Tami

There is an investigation ongoing but there is not a criminal investigation. Again I have very few details about what happened or even when it happened. I am sorry that I have been so vague on these posts to the community. But as much as we would all like jsut a few answers I would hate to give false information. If there was a criminal investigation I would know about it becasue I am almost certain that I was the last person to see Heidi and I am reasonable certain that I was the last person to talk to her. That conversation happened on the 12th of Jan. I was back east at the time and did not get back in town until the following week. If there was susspicion of wrong doing I would certainly be being asked more questions. I have only had the one conversation with the officer in charge. But I have left messages hoping to get more information. I had tried to make contact repeatedly on Heidi's cell phone and thru e-mail but got no response. I called the hospital to see if she was there but she was not. I tried again a couple of days latter on Heidi'd cell phone and a detective answerd the phone. He asked me a couple of questions about how well I knew Heidi and when the last time I saw or spoke to Her and if I knew any of her family. He did indicate to me that I was the first person that he had talked to who knew Heidi very well. I am certain that he had talked to some of the neighbors but Heidi did not have a lot of association with her heighbors so I doubt if he was able to get much infomation there. I have not shared much because I did not have much to share and I did not want to speculate about what had happened. I have the detectives name and the case # and I am working to find out as much as I can. I susspect that I will not find out much until the next of kin is notified and gives consent for information to be released. It has caused me a great burden as I have wrestled with how to tell community about her death. I knew the community would be as sarrowed and upset about her passing as I was. But with little information to go on there is a great deal of speculation that could take place about what happend. The best that we can do right now is hope that she did not suffer and try to remember her for the outstanding individual she was and for the great things that she did for each of us individualy and for the community. Thanks again for your thoughts and concerns for Heidi Lynn, Tami

We have not details as of yet as far as her passing. I will let you know more if it is appropretate or if I am even able to find out more. You might want to try her web site for links to the various articals and news spots that have been done on her.. I have seen most of them, some of them I saw or read in their original airing or print. I know that she has not only links on her site to these articals but she has made posts about her experiances while doing the interviews. I would not waste time looking them up as we do not know how long the web site will be up and running. I am finding it hard to find the energy and motivation to get all of the things I would like to get done accomplished. Thanks, Tami

If you are looking for a profesional type photo I can not help you there. You might look at her web site to see if there are any photos there. Bri Guy and I have posted several while reporting on events we have attended. I have probably 3 dozen photographs of Heidi from out little adventures. Most of them have others (non AB/DL) in them. If you look at Bri's post we "survived Long Beach" and "we survived San Deigo" you will find several photos of Heidi there. Bri Guy had a better camera than I and might have some better photographs. Thanks Tami

Yes it dose take a bit of patience to make something like the dress in the picture. I made it out of Broad cloth that had a pacifer pattern on it. The pacifers are multi colored in pastels while the back ground is light baby pink. When I saw the fabric I was hooked. The lavender accent color is a symphony cotton poly blend fabric, as well as all of the liner fabrics. The light green bias tape that accents all of the ruffles is Kona cotton which is a little heavier but all cotton. This means that the dress is completly machine washable which is important for messy babies clothing. I completely lined the dress and then sew the lining to the main body of the dress. This way there is almost on exsposed seam allowances. (nothing itchy) I also serged all of the edges of all of the pieces so it will last forever as long as I am carful with its washing a storage. I used 20 yards of fabric in the dress with very little waste. That includes the bloomer and bonnet ofcourse. To give you an Idea I bought 4 yards of the light green ruffel accent fabric and cut it into 85 yards of bias tape. Sewed it into one long piece, ironed it in half and serged the edges together. I used all but about three yard by the time I finished the bibs. That means that there is 82 yards of ruffle not including the petticoat. The petticaot has over 160 yards of ruffle in it inculding 130 in the bottom ruffle or hem. It took me over 200 hours and many months of sewing to complete. But it is worth it and I will get a lot of good use out of it. If you ever do decide to make clothing don't start with a project this big! Thanks for the complment! That is after all why I put all the effort into it for all of the laughs and complments that will follow. Tami

I guess you all know by now that I have been out in public on numerous acassions. But mostly what you have seen and heard of me being out is when I am wearing by baby doll clothes. This makes it easy because the skirts flare out over any size diaper that I wish to wear. Belive me I have worn some pretty big ones. I even have one that I call my theatrical diaper becuse it is a cloth diaper that I made with quilt batting inside it to give it bulk without weight. It is no good for practical use but it does make it obvious to everyone I meet that I am wearing a diaper. But that is not the only time that I wear out in public. I fly pretty often and I like to sit in a window seat as there is more leg room and a direction to lean if you don't like the person sitting next to you. This makes going to the restroom difficult and so I just wear a diaper. I can get thru a 4 hour flight no problem. I know that several airline employees have noticed, after all they are trained to notice things out of the ordinary. But none have ever mentioned it to me or even made comment. I did fly twice on or near Halloween and I wore one of my big baby doll dresses they commented a lot on those occasions. The flight attendance even wanted to take a picture with me and they gave me crayons and a coloring book and some plastic flight wings to pin on my dress. If I am on the road out of town I wear most of the time. I longer trips I take a bonnet and pacifer with me. I get a lot of laughs when I drive down the road like that. It is so much fun and there is no way I am going to run into anyone I know because I am in a city clear accross the country. I like to leave my diapers, bonnet and pacifer out in my hotel rooms where the maids can see them. They always give me a knowing smerk or chuckle when they see me in the hall. I say have a little fun with it. If you are nervous pick a time when you know you are not going to run into people you know. Have fun, Be safe and live a little. Tami

Here are the other bibs we made

Hello, I made a new baby doll dress for last years parade season but did not finish it in time. I did get it done for Halloween and I made a few extra bibs while I was at it. My wife took them to the local fabric store and asked the ladies in the sewing machine section to embroider some embarassing phrases on them. They laughed but the did it anyway. I also did not get the new petticoat done until jsut recently but it does look better with the new lavender and pink one than it did with the white and pink. Heidi Lynn and I used to make an annual outing to Hooters so we had the "Got Milk" bib made for one of those outtings. Sadly we did not get the chance. IMG]http://i521.photobucket Tell me what you think of my new statements and where you think I sould be caught wearing them.

Dead lines for putting in applications for the pride parades are approaching. The first one is for the Phoenix parade in April. The deadline for entry is March 15th and the cost is only $25.00. After March 15th there is a $200.00 late entry fee. I need to know how much intrest or participation there will be at an event so I know wether or not to put in an entry.. Last year Heidi strode along with our friends from the local productios of The Rocky Horror Picture Show. We had a good time and I could do that again if it were jsut going to be me. In Vegas it was just Heidi and myself which was ok with me. I am not sure about just doing an entry all by myself? Thanks, Sissy Tami IMG]

[ I wanted to share this last photo of Heidi Lynn and I from our outting to "Hair". There was a local Magazine who was doing a promotion the night we were there and they were very curious about Heidi and I. The asked a lot of questions and we had a great oppertunity to share a little bit about our community. The magazine is called Phoenix Women and they hold an event each month called Girls Night Out. The even published this photo on their web site! I think that you can see how happy Heidi is to be there!

Sorry for the duplicate post Bri? I guess I was envovled in writting one of my own when you posted this one. It took me a while to get my thoughts out. Thanks for your support and friendship. Tami

Hello, With great sorrow I bring sad news. I found out earlier today that Heidi Lynn had passed away. I have known her for a number of years and had the opportunity to spend a bit of time with her over last couple of years. I know that there are many in our community who have known her for longer than I have. But Location provided me with opportunities that many of you did not have. I will always be grateful for fun times we had and the support that Heidi lended me through some difficult times. Mostly Heidi and I got together to have fun and be ourselves. We traveled quite a bit last year and went to several pride parades around the South West. Here in Phoenix, then in Las Vegas, Long Beach and San Diego. These trips allowed us to spend quite a bit of time together in the car on ling drives to and from the events. Not to mention the time spent planning and looking forward to them. Heidi and I were very concerned that people in our community feel welcome to join us and were always trying to find the best way to envolve others. We met some resistance and had some successes along the way, both were educational and helpful. Heidi Lynn, Tommy, Angela and others have really done us a great service in forging the way so that we did not have to feel alone in our thoughts feelings and desires. Heidi and I both felt that someone needs to carry the mantle forward and were working to find the best way to do it. Heidi and I understood that there were a great majority of you who wish to remain in the closet and anonymous, even though Heidi was out for the last several years of her life I am not totally out even know. Heidi spent most of her life in the closet so to speak. Even after her appearance on Jerry Springer she was not 24/7. We were planning on continuing with our efforts at the Pride Parades this year. I want to carry on where we left off but it will not be easy. Last summer on the way home from San Diego Heidi requested that we stop at a rest stop to stretch her legs. Upon arrival at the rest stop I set out to use the restroom (my diapers were full). I only got several paces from the car when other people in the lot we calling me back. Heidi had fallen and hit her head on the curb near the car. She was bleeding badly and needed some medical attention. It was blistering hot as you would expect in July just outside of Yuma, AZ. I did my best to care for her until the EMT’s arrived. She was unconscious and I needed to get her off of the hot asphalt. To make a long story short she was life-flighted to a hospital in Phoenix. It took some time but she did eventually recover enough to return home. Her mobility was limited and she was not very strong but was able to look after herself. We corresponded fairly regularly and she was looking forward to new adventures in 2009. The first opportunity came on the 9th when I accompanied Heidi to see a performance of “Hair

We would love to have you around just for support. Come out and see how well we are recived. You will be suprized and encouraged regardless of wether or not you ever decided to join us in a more active way. Another way to consider joining us without disclosing your identity to everyone around is to wear a disguise. By wearing clothing, a mask, wig or hat you can join us without anyone even knowing that you are there. Or you can opt to just wear under regular street clothes and fust follow along or join us for the pre parade gathering. Square Duck used this approach in San Deigo last year and had fun. What ever you want is good with us. Thanks Tami P.S. Has anyone heard from Heidi Lynn in the last couple of weeks. I have not been able to make contact and I am worried?

Hello, I did a quick search for the dates on the 2009 pride parades. Phoenix is on April 18th and is a day time parade Las Vegas in May 1st and is a night time parade (the only one) and is a friday night! Long Beach is on Sunday May 17th and is a day time parade San Diego is on Sunday July 18th and is a day time parade These are the events that we attended last year. That does not mean that we could not attend others at a city closer to you. I am making this post to see how much intrest there is in joining us for these or other events. Please respond if you are intrested in joining us for any of these parades or post the time and dates of the events near you that you would like us to join you at. We had a great time last year and are working our best to put a Face on our community in the best light possible. I know many of you are not intrested in public apperances but we would love you feed back as well. Thanks, Sissy Tami

Thanks Bri & Square I worked really hard for several months to get that dress, bonnet, bloomers and bibs made. I love the chance to get out and show them off and see people react. If I did like it so much I would never spend the money or take the time and effort to make a dress like that. I sure had a great time and can't wait for the next oppertunity to diaper up and slip into my dress. Heidi Lynn is working on a few events that may intrest some of you. Pride in San Fran in June, Pride in Phoenix in March, of course we can do Pride in Vegas in April and Long Beach in May. If anyone else knows of an event that would work in their area just let us know. We don't have to keep this all on the west coast there are a lot of events in the middle of the country and on the east coast. All over the world really but that could be a strech for me. Thanks, Tami

More photos

Some of my photos from Vegas Enjoy I know I did!

Great artical Heidi Lynn. I knew it was only a matter of time before word started to get out about our little outtings. I'm just glad that it was fair and not a hit piece. I hope we will have the oppertunity to have more exposure like this. Your willingness to do interviews like this means a lot to us who are not as out there or full time. I hope some AB who has struggled with their fellings and identies will read this and be more comfortable with themselves. Thanks, Tami

Time is getting on to my leaving for vegas. I am very busy with work and getting things ready to go if you are thinking of joining us please do so. If you would like a way to contact me send me a PM and I will give you a contact number for me. I hope you will have the chance to join in our fun activities. These things don't come along every day you know! Thanks Tami

My Tickets are at will call too Square! So we will have to make a trip down to event place earlier that day to scope out parking and pick up our tickets. Leilin, If are not going to make it to the ball you should join us on Friday night or for lunch on Saturday! We would love to meet you and get aquantied. We are going to have lots of fun even before we go to the ball. I like "To Sexy for my Diaper" that is a good one Duckie! I still have a millon things to do before we go Vegas. The problem I am having is the airline lost my luggage with alot of my stuff in it.