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Not that I'm aware of, but there is a lot of abdl content on youtube if you're patient enough to sift through the crap that is also on there!

Trying to get her to wet herself sounds like a good interim step towards telling her about diapers, especially if she's already shown an interest in 'discussing' this aspect with her. I think she 'pretending to hold the door' idea would be a good way towards this. Hold on to it, and basically tell her 'nope, not coming past - you're just going to have to pee yourself or something' - and just see how far you can push her without letting her through. If she starts demanding it - then just let her through. good luck!

Good article. When I first joined / found the online abdl scene, I was almost taken back by the amount of online content. In my haste / youth, I signed up for one of the major sites you mentioned. I kept many of the pictures, along with others I'd come across along the way. I don't look through them very often, but when I did recently, I was gob smacked at how fake they all were - like you say, you can tell they are not enjoying it, which is kind of the whole point for many of us! I've deleted most of them now, but kept hold of the amateur ones - they're much better.

I find the vast majority of family changing units etc, and disabled toilets, are unlocked for anyone to use. A few I've come across are locked, but not very often. As for people just waltzing in... I don't think that's the case at all - just because it's unlocked to go in, doesn't stop you locking it when you enter - I don't really see how keeping them locked has any benefit - other than to stop people mis-using them.

heidilynn, just out of my own curiosity - and also tell me if it's none of my business.. Was it your reason for being in hospital that required you to be in nappies during your stay, or did you 'manage it' another way? Or are you incontinent (it doesn't say on your profile) Just curious to know what different circumstances would lead a person to be in nappies 24/7 during a hospital visit (or if indeed you can merely request it). thanks

Anyone know why dldirect.eu stopped selling them? (And when? - sure they were there a few weeks ago!) I guess it must be the cost of them that put people off or something. Shame - loved bambinos!

I would hasten to say that NO major studio etc (ie Dreamworks / Disney / Pixar (Pixar is owned by Disney, incidentally)) would want to go near a license agreement for adult nappy products, as they wouldn't want children's characters / icons appearing on what is essentially, in their eyes, a sex related / fetish object - it would cause an public outcry & unnecessary negative attention towards the AB community. As much as I would like it - something like Disney Princess (wow!), I don't want to see it happen.

Thanks J, your comments & thoughts are valued. I feel quite privileged in that I feel I'm able to put my AB/DL feelings to one side if I need to. Not always easy at times, but I can do it, and for long periods of time. For me, it's important that if I confide something to someone, it's to the right person, which is why I've waited to bring it up (we have been together just over a year). If she says she doesn't want to know, then year, I'll be pretty gutted but I'll live. If she wants to know more, that's great. If she freaks, well I would hope our relationship is strong enough to work around it. At least it won't be a complete bombshell to her, as I have mentioned it before, so if she was going to freak, I think she would have done so my now. I'll keep everyone posted of course

Yes, very true - which is why I worded my 'letter' quite carefully - absolutely no reference to anything that could link me with anything AB, so should it have ever got into the wrong hands, it doesn't really prove anything. I think I'll talk to her. That said, I certainly think it's been beneficial to me to write the letter, it's helped me to get into my head just what it is I want to say to her - it's just getting those messages across that will be difficult - especially has she has recently started a new job & we wont get a huge amount of alone time together any more

Face to face is indeed the better option, and having thought it through, is probably going to be the best cause of action. One of the key reasons 'for' the letter / email was that it wouldn't 'force' her into commenting / deciding etc, but would give her her own time & space to think about it all, and as we already live together, it's not an easy thing to come by!

The first times I bought nappies from a store, it was when I was around 16, buying dry nites from the supermarket. Never felt so scared in my life, and had to enter & leave the store several times before doing it. What I did find helped, as is often mentioned, is having a 'pretend' shopping list. Of course, no one is actually paying attention to what you are doing / looking at / buying - but it just gives you that little confidence boost to pick up the package and walk to the till. Since those days, I've only twice bought from a store. I live over seas, and can only get adult products from a specialist disability store. i don't speak a lot of the local language, which actually helps, as it avoids all the small talk, and the store assistant is more concerned with helping you select a product that 'sussing out' why you are buying them. Good luck everyone - it does get easier (I hope!)

Ok, quick background (not too much detail). Told my gf about liking nappies whilst walking home from a drunken night out. She took it ok, but it's not been mentioned by either of us since, and that was about 2 months ago. Keep trying to bring it up, but not the easiest conversation to start! So, as I'm away for a few days, I figured I would bring it up via email, which gives her a few days to chill / think about it etc, and means that when we chat on the phone, it needn't be a topic of conversation (sounds backwards, but it works!) But I wonder if you kind readers could vet what I'm saying? I've tried to keep it quite 'breezy' & 'no big deal' esque, which I hope will work. here is it.. ------------------------------------------------------ <few lines saying hello / how was work etc?> There is actually something I wanted to talk to you / ask you about, but I've struggled to bring it up. Before I go into it though, I just need to ask that you be 100% honest about it - there isn't a 'right' response that I'm looking for or anything - just your thoughts. I just wonder if you remember a couple of months ago, one evening on the way back from a night out, I told you something - something I asked you to keep to keep private. I know I was pretty drunk that night (ok, very!), but I do remember what I told you, and I doubt it's something you've forgotten about. It's not something I normally tell people - in fact you're the only person I have ever told, as you're someone who I love too much to have a secret from, and I trust you more than pretty much everyone else I know put together. I just wondered if you had had any thoughts on this (good / bad / anything in between). I know it's perhaps a little quirky, (or very, I guess), but then I've never pretended to be anything but a little quirky! It's not something I've ever allowed to, nor would ever allow to, take over my life, just something which adds a bit to it I guess - it wouldn't be right to call it a hobby / passtime, as that's not what it is, but that's kind of where it sits in 'life's priority's'. If it's something you want to discuss with me about, I can promise to be as open & honest about it, with no 'no go areas' to worry about. Equally, if it's something you want to know nothing more about / no part of / not interested etc - just say so, or ignore this email, and it all goes away never to be brought up again. ------------------------------------------------ Any suggestions / improvements?

I think, broadly speaking, yes, people lean towards the type of nappy they were brought up in, and therefore I think yes, future ab/dl generations will prefer cloth-backed nappies. Of course it's not always the case - I was brought up in cloth / plastic pants, but my preference is plastic backed disposable - I've never used a cloth nappy in the ab/dl scene, though I may give it a go in the future!

To be honest, (and I didn't state this, so my bad), but I'll probably just try & introduce her to the diaper side of things to begin with. Even of it ever went further than that, I'm not much of an AB, I'd go as far as onsies & footed sleepers (hence my other posts !!) and maybe a pacifier, but the key but for me is def the diapers. (Yet I wouldn't consider myself true DL either!)

Yeah, we're close and share a lot. We're off to the states soon, so I'm going to try & bring up 'that' subject with her before we go - I'd love to be able to have a look at the products available out there, and maybe even take a couple home to try (hey I can wish can't I?)

Yes, there is that aspect to it also to be honest, I don't think she'd have clicked the link - and even if she did, I don't think she'd have hung around for long - she easily grossed out at the best of times. Thankfully though, the topic I ended up sending wasn't anything too bad, something along the lines 'I have just realised I enjoy diapers - what do I do' sort of topic - there are many far worse I could have sent. ho hum

I was actually about to start a thread asking if anyone knew any good online resources regarding AB/DL - this is certainly a good find, and a good starting point for what I'm looking for. I'm after sites / resouces where I could point my (non AB/DL) gf to to find out a bit more about what AB is & what AB ISN'T. Just a good online article that splits the facts from the fiction in a frank, un-biased way. Does anyone know of anything like this?

Thanks nitrous. I do search eBay a lot - even if just to look & wish lol! There did used to be a good seller who sold a lot of adult onsies, including 'wear to work' ones, which looked like plain t-shirts or polo shirts. I have the seller saved, but they have not put anything up for sale for a while & can't find much similar stuff on there

Bugger. Although I've once told my gf about me liking diapers - she doesn't really know how much I'm into it & certainly not that I go on places like here - she thinks I'm on a football (soccer) forum! Well, I'm having an msn convo with her sister, and intended to send her a link for a site I was looking at for the weather for the holiday we are all going on next week (her family & me) - but sent her the link to a thread on here instead! Christ, you don't even need to click on the link to see what it's about! I promptly told her I sent the wrong link and to ignore it - which probably makes me seem even more 'guilty' They only saving grace is that she is a) 14 & B ) blonde so hopefully she wont twig / make anything of it. Bugger again Well, it's her birthday while we are on holiday, so may have to get an extra present for her maybe!

Yes, I liked the ducks one as well. But, I'm going to be a tad bit sneaky & intentionally not get one with a drop seat. That way, when she realises how much of a pain in the arse it is going to the loo, I'll helpfully come up with a 'suggestion' Well, if nothing else, it brings the subject up with her again!

Thanks for both those links - I've book-marked both of them! I'm going to have to wait until I'm back from hols before I order, but I'm looking forward to getting it so much! Not sure how I'll hide it from my gf, but I'll worry about that nearer the time

Thanks abenas. I'm thinking I can get away with something a bit more babyish - and if i can get away with it, then why not go for it right? As Eddie pointed out, it may be that it's a pain in the arse to do up a popper sleeper every night, but hey, that way, if she wears it i know she enjoys it She took my confession fairly well. She didn't say a lot, other than 'well I guess we now know each others secrets. But saw anything other than being dumped / thumped as a good result from telling someone something like that!

Thanks for that link - some brill designs on there - i will keep it bookmarked!

Odd question, but I'm on a roll this evening, so what the heck! To be honest, I don't really wear or use nappies for 'self gratification' any more, but when I started out as a young teenager, when it was mostly baby nappies taped on with masking tape, I would wet then and then just rub the outside of them. The filling would soon break up & wear away, leaving me from to rub from the outside to my hearts content until I was finished. Yeah, it was fun, but don't do it anymore.

Vic, sorry to hear your story, it's a lot to go through. Although I wouldn't say I can from a 'broken home', I was the middle of 5 children, so there was not a lot of 'attention' to go round everyone. That said, I too lost a brother - I had just turned 17 & by older brother had just turned 23 - peak of his life. As for 'how I got here' - not sure. I can remember being very young, and wrapping towels around me as if they were a nappy, but it was when I got my first job (paper round) when I was 12 that I bought my first pack of nappies from the local store. I came from a small town where everyone knew everyone else - espesially so when it came to shop keepers of small independant store, and being a large family, we were well known (and liked). None the less, I bought a pack of store brand baby nappies and went off into the middle of a dark field to try them on. Believe it or not, I was gutted then they didn't 'fit'! I continued to use these until I discovered Goodnites at the large supermarket in the nearby town. Buying them for the first time is something I will never forget! And it's just gone on from there. I've generally gone a few years every so often with no involvement, and then will pick it up again randomly. Biggs