Branny

It is a massive issue for me and trust has always been the biggest thing for me with everyone all the time, but he said the website was just a place he could put his photos where they weren’t on his phone. But when I’ve looked on the site it has a private album and I can’t see how people can comment on these without first having a conversation. Perhaps I’m naive, I agree it’s emotional cheating but that feeling is mostly shut down online in similar situations. Perhaps he wanted someone to share it with but was too embarrassed to share it with me? He also didn’t post his face on this site. Or so he said.

I want him to have that space 100%. It’s not that it’s weird or disgusting because I’ve always been and have been open to lots in my relationship. It’s more that he hid it and wanted other people to see him like that rather than me. I’ve given the idea of it a try with him and it really isn’t something I can’t live with. I don’t have a good or a bad thing to say about the experience but he is obviously very shameful about the whole thing. When he’s posted online about his adventures he’s quoted things like “time to find a daddy’s face and wet them” and I just can’t fathom if it was with intention to meet someone like him or if it was to follow a trend with tumblr. He said he dosent feel like this all the time just when life’s going out of control is this common with people that like AB/DL.

I think one of my questions is he said he’s able to keep the difference between the sexual side of things and the feeling like there’s no problems in the world. But now I know and want to share it with him he dosent want to do it anymore. What does that mean

Hello. I’ll start with my name, Brandon. I just want some advice and understanding. my partner m (27) and I m (22) have been in a gay relationship for 4 years now. We co-parent his biological son together and want more in the future. When we got together and over our relationship I’ve asked and pushed for him to share about his most intimately parts with me as I do with him I’ve always given him everything he’s asked of me I’ve never judged and I’ve understood everything about him constantly. a year into our relationship we took a big step to move out of area together into a house and start a real life together. Since we have lived here we have argued lots about my trust to him and visa Versa and I’ve always kind of felt somethings been off and I’ve literally believed that he would be the only person in my life that wouldn’t lie to me. on Saturday I found a diaper boys profile called josey96 and a tumblr account all with pictures and videos of his play time and other bits.. his location was set as local on diaper boys and his tumblr was written in a way that wants to meet with people. I’ve now tried to understand him I’ve put boundaries in place allowing him to do what he needs to do while I try and soften the blow. My mind feels like if this was something he spoke about when we got together or even anytime between that I have not had to come across it accidentally and end up in shock then I wouldn’t be so uncomfortable with it but where it’s based on this lie I just feel like everything he’s said has been a lie. He tells me he’s not met people and he tells me he’s not done anything worh any other people in the whole 4 years we’ve been together but he’s posted vids and pics every few months and sometimes days and weeks for the last 5 years. Can someone help me understand all this?