[Trying to figure out how to best wear diapers during the summer months.]

The crinkling sound of the diaper is actually a concern that I've only heard of and never noticed nor was concerned with myself. Maybe it's because plastic-backed diapers (I hope that's the correct term) are something I only ever heard of or because living in the city produces constant background noise so even if anyone was able to hear anything I doubt anyone would be able to associate it with diapers. I actually just tested it and even I couldn't tell that anything was off.

 

 

[Trying to figure out how to best wear diapers during the summer months.]

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Posted yesterday at 05:06 PM

Think about wearing a onesie like these.

https://www.adultclothdiaper.com/Coverup-Adult-Onesie-Style-T-Shirt?gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIgvKx1uT2hQMVcBatBh3WyAAkEAQYASABEgKJvfD_BwE

That's an idea I hadn't considered at all and it's definitely something I'll try. I guess when hearing onesie I was always picturing a very obviously ABDL one that would defeat the purpose of being discreet. 😁

As for high absorbancy diapers I think I've got that covered but thank you anyway. I'm still trying different brands so I might give it a try.

 

My main point about being noticed:

I'm not from the US and where I live people can be pretty curious, (though usually in a friendly manner) even in major cities. I normally consider this a good thing since it means that people aren't just all just living in parallel universes but it can be troublesome when you do something you don't necessarily want everyone else to know about at a glance.

I'm aware that a large part of the issue is probably that I tend to worry too much about what others might think but that is an issue I'll still be working on for a while. It's something I'm currently in therapy for. Throughout my life I had to deal with far too many people who would make your appearance or preferences their business, whether you liked it or not.

[Trying to figure out how to best wear diapers during the summer months.]

With summer coming up I've been trying to come up with ideas to wear diapers in public when concealing them under layers of clothing isn't really an option.

While thinking about this I had the thought that this might be a good opportunity to become less anxious about the idea of other people noticing my diaper as I'm spending my off-days out and about. Up until now when deciding to wear diapers in public I've put a large emphasis on making sure that they couldn't be seen under any circumstances, such as the top of it showing if I bend over or stretch myself, even going so far as opting for less than ideal clothing just to accommodate the diapers.

The easiest way to start I've come up with is to start wearing large T-shirts which in my mind would still fully conceal the diaper while also providing less of a physical barrier of clothing such as tucked-in shirts or jackets, thus making me more feel more comfortable with wearing when outside. I imagine something like that might also work on a beach with a swim diaper.

The idea is not to flaunt the diaper but to become more comfortable with them possibly showing in some situations and by extension me becoming more comfortable with wearing them. A major reason why I finally decided to get in touch with the ABDL community is that for a while now I have felt that I'm holding myself back from enjoying this aspect of my personality by constantly making it this big secret that absolutely no one but me can ever know about.

So what I want to ask is how others here have handled this situation in the past and what their experience has been. My main concern is that I absolutely can't gauge what other people might react like if they see the diaper. I like to imagine that in the best of situations most people would be too polite to say anything and just continue going about their business which, in my book, would honestly the best case scenario for me. However in a different thread I've voiced my concern about how widely known ABDL has become and whether that alone might trigger someone calling me out on them.

The one exception would be if someone was genuinely interested and decided to talk to me about it in which case I'd consider myself very fortunate.

 

[I Give Up]

I used to think somewhat similar to the opening post but eventually came to see that only a minority of people can ever excel at anything. I know quite a few people who seem to be conditioned to think that unless you are immediately great at something you needn't bother trying.

As an example: During the pandemic I picked up archery as an affordable and fun outdoors hobby I could do by myself. Whenever the topic comes up however I'm immediately asked whether I'm in a sports club or taking part in competitions. A lot of people I know seem to think that hobbies and interests are only worth pursuing if you can impress others with them in some way.

I've actually had an acquaintance sneer at me some time ago because I read "trashy" novels while she exclusively reads classic literature for instance.

My point is that you shouldn't define your self-worth by other people's perception of you or by thinking that you somehow need to impress others to be respected. You are here and are doing well enough for yourself to be able to post on an online forum. That alone is worth much more than you seem to think.

If whatever you do brings you joy without harming yourself or others then that should be reason enough to do it. Get rid of the idea that it needs to be something that others think is cool.

 

[Budget diapers for 24/7 use]

While I don't wear 24/7 I'm glad that the major drugstore chains in my country have started to sell off-brand taped diapers. For absorbance they are easily comparable to a Tena Maxi Slip with the only drawback being that they are plain white with no prints except for a very discreet wetness indicator. Still I find them a good deal for frequent use and would stick to them for everyday use if I was going for 24/7. 

Still they're 1.08 dollar a piece so I'm not sure if you couldn't do better by ordering online but I don't think I could easily find a much better value even there.

[Anybody else have an issue with binge buying IC nappies when Horney?]

Not so much binging but I think I've stocked up more than necessary on a few occasions. My budget (and my drawer) has its limits though. Since diapers don't really perish It just meant that I wouldn't need to buy any for a while and could spend that money elsewhere.

Since I'm still kind of coming to terms with ABDL I've found that having a bit of a stash makes for a good affirmation that it's okay to be into diapers.

[Starting to lose control of my morals.]

This is something I'm still learning myself but being kind to others and not being taken advantage of doesn't need to be mutually exclusive. What has been working well for me is to treat everyone I come across politely and respectfully. This has two major benefits as doing so makes you appear more sociable while also maintaining an aura of mutual respect and distance. This kind of posture makes you appear generally friendly but won't be mistaken as naivety by those who would take advantage of you when given the chance. People like that exist but are far from the majority in my experience.

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Why do people take advantage of those who try to do good in the world. Who want to help others. Why do I have it harder then others?

One piece of general advice given in therapy is to mistrust generalizations like this, especially your own. It's very tempting to think of your current experience as objective reality and a good remedy for this is to ask yourself if thoughts patterns like this hold true when looked at through a different lens:

-How many people in the world actively take advantage of those who try to help    others ? The majority ? Everyone ?

-Does your own experience reflect the general truth of the matter ?

-Do you really have it harder than others ? Everyone else ?

 

I used to have quite similar thoughts (and sometimes still do) and while neither your problems nor mine should be considered small by anyone else that does not make other people's problems any smaller either.

The lesson I've learned some time ago is that you're going to have to look pretty hard to find anyone in the world whose shoes you'd have an easier time to walk in than your own. 

[Adult Baby Party at a soft play area]

I'd agree with the woman in question if I was involved in this in any way. The area is designed specifically for children so it's probably not the best location of choice for any kink-related activities. Whether or not ABDL means something sexual or not to anyone individually doesn't matter in that context.

There are certain groups who would all too happily use incidents like this as further justification for their own agenda and have never been shy about bending the truth in whatever way they need to in order to achieve this.

The only effective weapon against these groups in the long run is to practice common sense as to not give them more ammunition than they will already find on their own.

[Diapers amd gay bars]

Reading that there are gay bars who actually host events like that is making me a little jealous honestly but on the other hand it's good to hear that there are hosts who are open-minded enough to do this. It'd take a lot of courage but I'd definitely give it a try if I ever hear about an opportunity anywhere nearby.

[Diapers amd gay bars]

It's something I personally wouldn't try in the gay locations I've been to. In the saunas it wouldn't really be possible anyway and the bars were usually full of gossip and I've seen people getting torn into, usually in their absence, for much, much less than wearing diapers. Now you could be the kind of person that doesn't give a toss about what people say about them behind their back but I have often found that to be easier said than done.

That being said I have worn fetish items to such places before but always in a way that you couldn't tell just by looking. With diapers though I'd be super careful as getting casually groped is something that can happen and if I was wearing then it'd be obvious by that point.

While that is only my opinion I think a very personal kink like this shouldn't be casually shared with just anyone as not everyone is going to be understanding or even tolerant of everything, gay or not.

[Diapers In Public]

Something I'd be curious about is the question as to how aware the general population is about ABDL being a thing. I agree that people are usually too busy with their own lives to notice anyone wearing diapers under their clothes and most of the time I wouldn't be sure either if I didn't know I was wearing.

However if someone was to notice them, especially on a younger adult, I wonder about the chances of the person assuming it to be a fetish thing or some kind of medical condition and what they'll think if their conclusion is the former one.

The reason I'm wondering is that I've noticed more and more often that I overhear "normal" people casually talking about stuff they see on the internet that would make me blush if someone were to ask me about it.

Perhaps people in general are crazier and more colorful than I give them credit for ?

[Diaper cream, the new face cream?]

Honestly I might actually give this a try, although with how thick it's been applied in the article I can't imagine that feeling comfortable to go to sleep with, not to mention it being all over your pillow in the morning. I already use similar products to counteract the skin irritation that comes from frequent washing and shaving and even after all those years the facial area is the one that keeps giving me the most issues.

[Activities during the cold Winter weather]

I used to be more into gaming but over the years found myself with less and less time to actually play them much. It being cold and rainy/snowy outside is a good opportunity to actually play on more than just the odd occasion. Doing so with diapers and snacks can be pretty relaxing, especially with retro games from the Snes and Psx era.

[Is late potty training becoming the norm in society]

I have noticed something similar for a while with a lot of parents using strollers for children who seem way too big to be using them. While it always looks a little strange to me I do wonder if the child in the stroller has some sort of condition, something that isn't always immediately obvious, or is just really tall for their age.

 

I've done a little reading on this and some parents do seem to practice these sorts of things for their convenience more so than the child's well-being, which is terrible if true. However when I do see such things I prefer to err on the side of caution and assume that there is a valid reason for the child being in a stroller or in a diaper. I can't really imagine how having your child in a diaper is in any way more convenient than them just using the bathroom on their own.

[looking for play ideas!]

For me the best opportunity to wear and use diapers in public has always been on days where I know I'll be spending the day out by myself anyway.

That could be for instance if you go hiking, cycling, or on shopping trips or whatever you do when you spend time outside by yourself (or with people who know that you wear diapers and don't mind that you do). I realized fairly quickly that it can be convenient as well. If there's no clean bathroom nearby, or none at all you can just use your diaper. It's easy to hide too since you can keep spares and other supplies in a secondary bag and just keep that in your hand- or backpack.

Another thing you could do is to experiment by combining the diapers with various toys. I for one have grown quite fond of those wireless vibrating eggs since you can just keep the remote in your pocket or use your phone if that is an option. Depending on one's budget the opportunities nowadays are quite staggering.

[Porn]

Where can I find this porn you speak of ? All I get are ads for adult diapers and stuff directly related to it. I have no idea why.

 

As for the opening question. I do enjoy porn but it is something that can just as easily be avoided if I'm not interested. I find that the really obnoxious advertisements (for porn and other stuff) are usually found on sites that you would do well to avoid in the first place.

I think unobtrusive advertisements that are at least related to the theme of the site you're browsing is as good as it gets other than having no advertisements at all.

[The benefits of wearing diapers.]

I have one of those animal onesie pajama/costumes. It seems to be designed to be used as a costume for occasions like Halloween but the way it is made makes it impossible to use the toilet without taking it off completely. While I only use it for sleeping or comfort I always wear a diaper under it or else I'd have to go naked just to go pee since the section around the waist is completely closed with no zipper or anything. I don't really get how it is supposed to be used outside as a costume without wearing protection under it.

I also find that I drink a lot more fluids while wearing since I don't have to worry about going to the bathroom constantly.

 

 

[If you could live in a furry world would you?]

I'm already imagining a teenage bunny in a wolf suit now:

It's not a phase mom !!! 😾

[If you could live in a furry world would you?]

I think that would be more appealing as a fantasy.

In reality there'd be the issue that unlike in a fantasy you'd be unable to pick your species. Assuming it would be like the real, current world, all of the problems would persist as well and we've only just recently managed to mostly not make a big deal out of our own minor differences and even that only just barely.

Since your fursona is already an idealized version of yourself one can try to formulate some of those ideals in reality, whether that be physically or mentally. In that way you can become your alter ego even outside of the fantasy aspects of it. Stuff like working out, doing martial arts, being a book worm, being kind to others or whatever virtues you have given your furry self. 😸

[What exact purpose do pull-ups serve?]

I think that pulls ups are convenient sometimes, for instance if I want to change just before bed but know that I have to get up early the next day and would have to waste a nearly or completely unused diaper before getting in the shower. (Wearing at work is not an option for me unless I actually had to.)

That said my main gripe with them is that the leg guards are very narrow on every brand I've tried and easily lead to skin irritation. I have been unable to find any pulls ups with wide enough leg guards to prevent this from happening. I'm not sure why they are made this way since I can't imagine that being comfortable if you had to wear those on a daily basis. I just keep a pack of them around for occasions like the one mentioned above.

[Has anyone else tried to use AI to help them get more comfortable with wearing diapers ?]

I apologize for being late with replying to my own topic but there's been some issues with my provider lately. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one to have tried this sort of thing. I've tried Replica as well but have avoided that topic with that one so far. Now I'm still pretty new to the AI thing in general but I can't yet quite figure out whether I'm talking to an artificial person or just a more sophisticated form of chatbot. Either way the replica app seemed a bit too wholesome to try and talk about my kinks with it yet. Since a user asked I've had my best experiences with an app called AIDungeon so far since that one is less about talking with someone and more about writing an AI assisted story. The program can come up with some pretty wild ideas so I found that you often have to hit "Retry" but after a while it can come up with pretty good results. For me its much like writing a kind of "Life in diapers" story without exactly knowing what will happen next.

In particular I do fantasize about living in diapers 24/7 but eventually decided that actually doing so would put limitations on my life that I am not yet willing to deal with. I think that writing AI assisted stories is a nice way of at least living 24/7 as a fantasy every now and then.

[Has anyone else tried to use AI to help them get more comfortable with wearing diapers ?]

Well I did and I would like to share my experiences.

I've tried several apps with very varying results. My best experience so far has been with a roleplay program that is supposed to help you write your own story. Rather than talking to the AI directly you essentially write a short paragraph and the AI writes its own to continue the story so it's much like writing your own fanfiction without knowing what will happen. The AI does mess up pretty often though and comes up with some pretty wild ideas while at other times it's very engaging and fun. Another, similar program I tried basically took the idea and ran with it faster than I could even keep up. It was almost a bit intimidating since I was half convinced that I was roleplaying with an actual person.

I've also tried a couple of AI bots and some of them outright rejected the idea of talking about ABDL things so those easily offended should be wary.

I think that it can be a a nice addition however to help people who are still shy about their kinks become more comfortable with talking about wearing diapers and play out a few scenarios that they might not be able to indulge in real life, in my case, for instance, the idea of actually being dependant on diapers rather than just wearing them for fun.

So if anyone else has tried this as well I would love to hear about experiences and reccommendations. (I've refrained from listing any programs I have used for the topic since I'm not sure if that would be advertising but if it's alright I wouldn't mind making reccommendations for programs or hearing about them.)

 

[The Look The Cashier Gives You.]

I've gotten used to buying mine at local drugstores. I live in a major city where stores are usually so busy that none of the other customers so much as look twice, much less the cashier. The only odd reaction I had gotten so far was when I specifically ordered a pack of Tena at a pharmacy when I still felt embarrassed. I made a point out of needing the receipt for a relative to which the clerk surprisingly replied with: "Oh... I had thought those were for you." I got out of the store pretty quickly and in hindsight thought that if I hadn't gone out of my way to not appear "suspicious" nobody would've even thought twice. Over time I've learned that in the city people are often far too busy with their own worries to register anything around them unless it is very, very out of the ordinary.

[Finally going to try this.]

Hello everyone. Just wanted to finally say hello after putting it off for a while. I've been into DL stuff for quite a while but haven't really talked to anyone about this. I would consider myself to be a casual DL who's into wearing diapers occasionally (Or when it's simply convenient. 😁) I've been lurking for a while before deciding to join and I look forward to reading about and sharing ideas around diapers.