Sunny1094

Oh you didn't! You werent offensive dw ❤️

I agree with this one hundred percent. While I do agree that in certain aspects partners do need to respect one another's privacy this is something that is completely different. I'm entering a headspace that is something very vulnerable and intimate -romantic or not. So I can understand my partner being off put by it. We've discussed it a few times and we've come to a small compromise of having the playdate in our basement and my partner simply leaving us alone for it. We're still a long way off from actually doing it but... its a start. I don't think they're trying to ridicule me. I think they just... don't know WHAT to think. It's new to them and it's scary because from their perspective. They don't want to lose me. Though... its been six month and we have certainly come a LONG way from when I first brought it up to them. It's slow but, we're making progress.

And that's sort of where we're at now. 😕 I guess a lot of it too comes from my own embarrassment in finding diapers just... genuinely comforting? The few times I've been able to wear for extended periods of time, I've more so just enjoyed the freedom of being able to go wherever and it's helped me to get into that headspace. If anything sexual does come of it... I often feel big again and it's something I want to handle on my own and have it be private.

So I guess to start, I'll introduce myself. I'm new here and you can call me Sunny. I've been into age play and diapers honestly for... wow. Going on about 10 years now. That being said... its something I've kept private and honestly something secret for most of that time. I've known my current partner for about just as long though we've only been together romantically for roughly 4 years. It's been a long known fact that I'm into watersports/omorashi as a fetish and its something thats been the butt of many self made jokes. Recently however, I confessed to my partner that I am in fact into age play, diapers and the like. It caused somewhat of a rift in our relationship as the knowledge makes them view me in a different light. That being said... we have -over the last few months- made some progress and they're slowly starting to accept that this is something that they can't just will away. However... there are still certain aspects of this that I dont know how to properly articulate to them and I guess...I'm looking for advice? I have another long time friend and we both recently discovered the other is a little as well. As I haven't really had the chance to indulge in this... ever... my friend and I were considering a playdate. We want to color, watch cartoons, play legos and video games and most importantly to both of us... we want to have a "No Potties" weekend. Both of us want the opportunity to wear diapers/pull-ups/cloth training pants and do holds without time constraints or having to worry about someone bothering us. Now, while there are sexual/kink elements to this for the both of us... we're both mutually understanding that this is not something sexual for EITHER of us. We just want to exist with one another and hang out like this. I'm trying to be as honest as I can with my partner; owning up to the part about diapers was hardest for me. They asked me what the appeal of pull-ups/diapers is to me. We ended the conversation on the note that I'm not ready to talk about that yet and left it there. My problem here is that I don't know how to explain the appeal to them without things getting misconstrued. As I said, yes... there's sexual elements to this for me but, when i am in my little space I don't want to be neither sexual OR sexualized. Doing holds and getting desperate to pee can turn me on but, it isn't anything I want to do with another person and certainly not with my friend. Honestly, anything sexual that comes of this... I usually want to do on my own. So what I'm struggling with really is how... do I explain this? I want to be honest with my partner but, I also don't want them to get the wrong idea. Yes, the point of this playdate is so my friend and I can do holds and not worry about using the potty so we can 'have accidents' and use diapers. I just don't know how to explain what the non-sexual appeal is to my partner? I don't even know if I really know myself. if anyone at all has any advice on how to handle this situation, it would be greatly appreciated as I am struggling. My partner doesnt want to engage in these things with me but, I still want the freedom to be able to express this part of myself... oh, what do I do?!